Why do people feel its ok to be rude to me?

[Anonymous]

I'm a quiet, socially awkward girl who is very nice, kinda shy. I might not be the warmest, most charismatic or outgoing person who knows how to establish immediate rapport with people but I am a very kind soul. I have just noticed that people just speak to me however way they want sometimes. Especially at work where clients feel like they can just raise their voice at me whenever something else pisses them off. Or coworkers would feel its ok to mutter something rude to me. Everyone has personal opinions about those that they work with but most of you will keep them to yourself, instead of directly saying it out loud. I don't see other people being spoke to so rudely. Just not sure why this only happens to me.

[ProbablyClueless]

Many times, rude/inconsiderate people become that way because their life experience is that being abrasive with people is how they get what they want. As a result, being awful with people is just kind of their default setting. in my opinion it's a really sad (and counterproductive) way to go through life, but it is what it is.

Unfortunately, with someone like that, you often need to match their unpleasantness. People like us, who prefer to be nice to people, aren't generally willing to do that. So, we get our boundaries tested.

[strateguy632]

Because you are same as anyone they are also rude

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

“Just not sure why this only happens to me.” It doesn’t. I promise you, it doesn’t. You’re just assuming that every rude customer is somehow mad at you personally, every unhappy coworker is unhappy with you personally. It usually has nothing to do with you, you’re just being overly sensitive. Working in customer service requires you to develop a thick skin and you haven’t done that yet.

[Asker]

I'm not in customer service

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

My point still stands. You’re taking things personally that have nothing to do with you at all

[itsannalee]

Because you allow it, people being rude or bully you is because you did not stop them in the first place.

[Dargil]

You probably show them weakness. Lack of self defense.

[jahaims]

You are easy to walk over

[msc545]

Why ask us? Ask the rude people.

[Caurav1997]

Bkoz you let them rude to you