What do you wish the opposite gender truly understood about your daily pressures and feelings?

[Clara4567]

I actually got the inspiration to ask this from the movie It's a Boy Girl Thing. In the film, two high school neighbors who can't stand each other, wake up having swapped bodies. They're literally forced to live each other's realities and deal with all the hidden pressures and unfair stereotypes the other person faces every single day. Watching them finally get that wake-up call made me wonder what we'd all find out if we could actually bridge that gap in real life.

It can be super tough to talk about the unwritten expectations we’re all supposed to carry around, especially when society acts like you should've got it all figured out. On one side, guys feel this constant, low-key pressure to always look totally confident, financially sorted, and emotionally bulletproof, where admitting you're stressed or exhausted feels like a massive risk. On the flip side, girls often deal with the exhausting juggle of having to be nurturing and put-together while having their boundaries constantly tested or their competence second-guessed. Both sides carry this heavy bag of unspoken stress, but it's so easy to just stay quiet so you don't rock the boat.

Plus, when you look at how dating and relationships work, everyone is dealing with their own version of feeling unseen. Guys are often stuck carrying the weight of making the first move while rarely getting unprompted reassurance, and girls are often stuck trying to decode mixed signals while navigating safety and societal double standards. When you throw in how hard it is to just be vulnerable without feeling like you're being too much or not enough, it creates this total communication gap where everyone's just guessing how the other person actually feels.

What is the one thing you wish the guy or girl in your life truly understood about what you go through, and why do you think it's been so hard to actually tell them?

[rtj1211]

That men are wired to judge the attractiveness of a woman's body instinctively.

It takes less than a second and doesn't judge them for life, other than that the individual man either finds her attractive or not. The most useless thing any woman can try and do is to suggest that this is not part of the male sex' genetic inheritance.

Every time a man judges a woman physically attractive, it provides a woman with a potential for a date. When a man goes on a date with a woman, he has already judged her to be physically attractive. Whether two hours in her presence would make him want to have sex with her, date her again or make her his girlfriend is an entirely different matter. That is judged on her personality, her flirtatiousness, whether the two hit it off naturally or not.

Looking at a woman's physical attractiveness merely reduces a male's long list from 3.5 billion women to around 0.5-1.0 billion women. Some are more picky than that. But few men would be honest if they said that there would be less than 50 million attractive women on the planet.

I can tell women honestly that I could find 100 physically attractive women, take them all on 1 date and I'd have reduced the list for a second date down to 30 or less, and absolutely nothing in those first dates rejected would have been due to the physical structure of her body.

So I"d beseech women to stop getting annoyed at men finding them spontaneously attractive on first glance and accept that if they want a man to be their stable relationship partner, then 99.9% of that choice will be due to non-physical attributes.

[exitseven]

Back in the day when my kids were little and I was trying to get a new career off the ground it was pretty intense.

I am mostly retired with no debt and a good income, My health is good and my kids are all college graduated with good jobs. I am really not feeling too much pressure these days.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Anonymous]

There are a lot but I think first and foremost what it is like to have to be constantly aware of anyone near you because men are bigger and stronger and how concerned we need to be for our physical safety at all times.

[_Jenny_]

I’m sure you asked me already but maybe it was someone else who had the same question

[Xdressertiff]

I know the vast majority of women find crossdressing to be perverted. But I can't help it and would never want to offend or hurt anyone other than myself. The guilt, shame and the attacks both physically and mentally. I wish they would understand more.

[NathanDavis]

well... as pressure and struggles they have them too, lol

women like that I'm not surrounded by, clueless ones

understanding, they have

[demonics]

Before you say anything anon...

They don't give a shit.

[Dargil]

Fun to see girls woMAN spreading. We might just stare.

[Kelly6]

@Clara4567 my daily stress of work and family management