Is it normal to become lonelier as you grow as a person?

[PacShakur]

As I continue to improve myself, read more, and learn new things, I've noticed that I'm becoming increasingly isolated from society and evolving into a more intellectually mature person.

For example, the everyday conversations people have at work, all that stupid gossip and pointless small talk, no longer interest me. Even the meaningless conversations that go on for hours between couples seem to lose their appeal. I find myself becoming less and less interested in these kinds of things.

Everything starts to feel ordinary and monotonous. General daily news, celebrity gossip, TV shows, nothing seems to capture your interest anymore. Material possessions, money, consumerism, and the ordinary routines that most people care about no longer seem to have any meaning to me.

[sage2021]

I understand what you mean. It seems like you need more intellectual stimulation than you aren't getting from the people who surround your life with.

Since you don't have people who can provide more meaningful conversations, that would lead you away from most people and you would become more isolated.

I don't know what types of topics are of interest to you, but there must be other people discovering the same thing about themselves.

Try to find a club or meet up group (if they still have them) and surround yourself with the same like-minded people such as yourself.

I was very fortunate to have my boyfriend of six years who gave me not only love, but the intellectual stimulation that I loved so much. And I must say that I gave it to him as well.
Unfortunately he died suddenly 3 years ago.

It would be great if you could find love and some of the same interests all in one person and you wouldn't be feeling lonely.

I bet that you are a very resourceful person and if you took some time and did some research on the topics that you are interested in, you might find a group of people who share your desire to learn about different subjects.

Even online friendships might be out there for you to find in a group chat.

I wish that I was able to provide you with more suggestions, but perhaps this was enough to jump start you in a new direction.

The best to you!🙂

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe loneliness is often a learned response and not a genetic demand for social interaction. I read about men who live 20 years in isolation by building cabins in the woods and fishing for food. Some people can mentally tolerate low social connection. I also believe that loneliness increases through conditioned validation seeking, and you can reverse the conditioning with training and practical decision-making.

[Likes2drive]

It can happen as you adjust to that way of life but you really need social interaction as a person, it’s not healthy after awhile, even a pet would help

[jshm2]

Lol, no. You're just getting depressed and isolated, it's all

[Anonymous]

The older people get; the less they worry about others' approval or judgement and care less about pretending to fit in to get it. Everyone's experience leads them to feel certain ways about things and this is how yours made you feel. That part is normal.

[KostasKouvalis]

I will say yes, because after school people go their separate ways, and it's very difficult to make friends at an older age

[exitseven]

it is probably a function of getting older. Finding friends after college is hard.

[jahaims]

No, you should still be able to find people. You aren't growing in all of the right directions if you end up alone.

[In_Trance]

So what you're saying is you're not really growing as a person

[PacShakur]

Then what

[Iron_Man]

You just need a companionship age has nothing to do with it

[leviopperman]

congrats. you became a nerd

[moddy_the_mod]

Sounds like sour grapes.

[Mamasssaaan]

Yes normal