Would you date someone whose life had collapsed due to health or financial struggles?

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Perhaps due to health (mental or physical) or a financial issue or something else.

[sage2021]

The love of my life had ADHD and since I loved everything about him, his ADHD didn't bother me.

In fact, living with me calmed him down because we didn't argue, no drama or crazy behavior for him to react to. Peace and quiet and love, lots of love.

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂

[Bianca_Italy]

Yes, I would.

I went on dates with a man who was struggling with depression a few years ago. If his mental health struggles don't put me in danger or make our interactions frustrating and unfulfilling, it's ok.

[lilBigPotato]

I don't like dating into problems. Of course it depends on the individual and what problems they have, but it someone has e. g. crippling debt, it will cause many issues and I don't want to deal with that if I don't have to.

If we are already in a relationship and something happens, that's of course a completely different story.

[jshm2]

Depends on their role in the situation.

No one likes a fuckup. I suppose it's why no one likes you. But some people reform and go onto become stronger better people. Your parents certainly hope so...

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Someone must have really hurt you 😂

[Anonymous]

The answers in the deatails. I would never reject someone whose problems weren't of their own making. Even then, we all males mistakes. If it was their own making what did they learn from it. Everyone deserves a second chance. But not if they haven't learned anything. They'll just pull you down with them. And this time it will be your fault.

[Opinion Owner]

Make* not male.🤣

[NathanDavis]

if someone is in such dire state... the lass thing I'd do is to go there like "hey, you wanna date.." lmfao

[LazerBean]

Nope. My life was good single, and I'm not going to marry someone who is going to make my life worse.

[midnightmoon05]

at 25, pick yourself up again and clear up the past.

rebuild yourself.

Hope you learn from this.

[MrChinaski]

Absolutely. What matters is whether someone is looking at the stars, not whether they are lying in the gutter, in the Wildeian sense.

[MrChinaski]

If someone has been through hell and grown I would score that a bonus, not a malus.

[Staximus]

If she has already got past her health struggle or stopped making stupid financial decisions

[exitseven]

Yes, but would not marry them. Too many problems.

[Cidknee]

Of course.

As long as she wasn't a jonah!

[Agape93]

Depends

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Depends on?

[Agape93]

If someone's finances are totally fucked, fine. Their money issues dont affect mine. But if the person has aids, herpes or they get crippled, I won't be with them.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

What if they struggled with suicide, or had a horrible previous relationship that turned into legal issues

[Agape93]

That i can, have and am dealing with. My girlfriend has a shit ton of trauma, and one bad ex who's very much on my list.
I also know good lawyers in my state I can get them in touch with

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Been there myself, but falsely accused.
She was very vindictive and used her friends and police to harass me. 🤷‍♂️

[Agape93]

I've seen it happen once. It got corrected. Hard to abuse someone when they're 3 states away, the entire week it was claimed to have happened.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

In my case, I was ill. Needed support. My mental health was poor.
She was a neighbor. Was aggressively trying to get with me.
She seemed nice, so I accepted. We became friends with benefits. She wanted more. Used her job as bartender to ruin my reputation.
Told people I was a stalker.
I had people threaten my life.
She called police nonstop.
Eventually went for a restraining order.
🤷‍♂️

[Agape93]

Good, fuck her.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

No, she went for one. I actually lost that case and couldn't afford an appeal. The judge was a 90+ year old temp, and according to my therapist handed children over to rapists. My attorney called him an idiot to his face.
We lost the case. 🤷‍♂️
I wasn't mentally fit to put one on her.
I was sleeping on the the floor, unable to work, and had a stint in a facility.

[Agape93]

I hope she falls feet first into a woodchipper

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Well, she got what she wanted.
Now I'm picking up the pieces and have to watch my back.
🤷‍♂️

[Paige2006]

Yes...

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[In_Trance]

Never