How much do you think your looks get you what you want?

[thegreenyogi]

And this applies not just simply to relationships. I'm thinking work, life in general and how does that affect you personally?

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Taking this a step further: how often do you intentionally use your good looks or the effect you have on people to get what you want?

[Jon08]

My ex used to comment on my looks all the time. She was impressed with my eyes especially, I'm personally also very satisfied with how I look. But since I'm good-looking, I also feel like I'm more picky when it comes to finding dates. Please don't judge me on this, I do care deeply about personality.

[thegreenyogi]

I don't judge you at all. We're all attracted and we seem to attract what we are or at least that has been my experience and I'm quite selective too. No judgment.

[Ill_made_Knight]

Commenting in general as opposed to what it has or hasn't for me... It matters more than a lot of people will want to acknowledge. Looks are subjective it's true, but if you're generally seen as good looking certain positions will open more easily... any public facing tasks within a company... example. I worked in animal services as an officer. I was strictly an enforcement side guy. There were public relations related tasks such as education assignments speaking to groups... looks matter... adoption events at retail outlets where we took shelter dogs to Petsmart or similar and set up for business... best face forward, right?
To clarify though it's not strictly physical appearance. I'd class it more as "charisma". If you speak well and are a good communicator that ups the game even more.

[Chazmatazz269]

Looks are not as subjective as people pretend. There has been an abundance of research to determine if attractiveness was quantifiable and if so, how. This led to the understanding that symmetry is at the heart of attractiveness, universally. For both sexes, across all cultures and throughout all time, people are attracted to symmetry. Even in cultures with extraordinary beauty standards like the Mursi people of Ethiopia or Kayan people of Myanmar, symmetry is still essential to their beauty rituals. Nobody is really celebrating asymmetry and if a culture ever did, they likely died out.
We even learned to apply the “golden ratio” for cosmetic surgery and for cosmetics where people want to look perfect but can’t afford surgery.
People may differ on tall, short, fat, skinny, but everything regarding facial beauty boils down to symmetry.

[Anonymous]

Not looks, but i KNOW my height gets me approached by women. I seldom go a week without being asked, "how tall are you"?

Beyond that, i'm a guy. No one gives a f*** what a guy looks like. I mean, of course women find favor in certain looks of certain guys. Everyone does that. But a woman's attraction to a man is not like that of a man's to a woman. Women's attraction follows no discernable pattern. And the ones that do have a sdiscernable pattern, you DO NOT want to meet, trust me.

[molonski2]

Massive massive difference in so many ways , but there is a sting too , you need to look great to a certain level within an industry or situation , then in kicks attire , personality , knowledge , but looks is HUGE.


Opening a literal plethora of doors , and potentially closing a few also , it's how you use it.

[FreyaRed]

Men act a little bit nicer than women but this doesn't give any real benefits. By the way it's difficult to say what I wouldn't get when I looked like Quasimodo's sister.
I've got desired internship because my Prof and my dad are friends. I don't get lower service bills when my car needs service... e. t. c.

[Chazmatazz269]

I suspect rarely, but i wouldn’t really know for sure. I’m not attractive, but i have been told that i am intimidating to look at. This possibly benefits me because i am deeply introverted and i don’t often feel like engaging with people, especially strangers. Unfortunately, it cuts against me when i’m feeling sociable. So i really only notice when my looks are obviously working against me.

[Phoenix98]

It doesn't

1# My looks haven't ever really been much a factor for the women I was with for one reason or another.

2# No one treats me any differently because of how I look.

3# I do manual labor not really something my looks would have any impact on.

how often do you intentionally use your good looks or the effect you have on people to get what you want? Believe it or not but I have never once used my looks to get something from someone.

[Iron_Man]

it has helped. when I was younger I remember making a sad face returning a milkshake and the woman was arguing with me the younger woman, but then she looked into my eyes And she said Aww look at those blue eyes. and she made me another milkshake or gave me my money back. Plus I’ve noticed throughout my life that I’ve gotten better service from a attractive female waitresses because of my looks even my mom got jealous one time she said you’re getting all the attention

[ElenaLena]

It doesn’t affect my personality

but yeah.. the way I look or dress is definitely a bonus in everything..

[Spencer10]

Maybe a bit. My looks may get me in the door I suppose but after that I better offer more than just looks.

[lightbulb27]

looks very little

demeanor gets me a lot.

[Mark_Est]

Most people are simps, especially dudes, so it is effective.

[BCRanger10]

I've never paid much attention to that. I wouldn't accept a break for such anyway.

[BCRanger10]

@update I don't.

[Still-alive]

hmmm well they aren't getting me dates lol but i do notice people seem to be comfortable around me... not sure if thats my looks or just energy they're tapping into but i do notice.

[Anonymous]

Good looks can help but it's a double edged sword. There are guys who think you're stupid and just get stuff because you're attractive

[exitseven]

There is a correlation between height and how successful a man is.

[Shiprex]

It does not as I am not especially conventionally attractive.

[Chazmatazz269]

There’s an upside to that. Beautiful people are always being pestered by people who just want to be accepted by them, and most people are not awesome. Imagine all the horrible people who haven’t gotten all up in ya kitchen because you’re not a hottie. Count your blessings.

[Staximus]

Not much at all. I might walk into some place and get decent customer service because I don’t look like I’m homeless, but that’s about it.

[msc545]

I don't think my looks get me much of anything. I'm not particularly good looking or tall so I don't think that's it.

[Anonymous]

not really. it hadn't really gotten me what I wanted. but it certainly has gotten people to be nicer to me such as being more polite to me.

[robocop666]

women are generally nice to me. staff serve me enthusiastically and like me.

[ChallahJewess]

interesting question.

[xawyx-3]

Not at all, I'm not a super-model :P

[Cidknee]

Oh, maybe 0% and a kick in the ass! 😅

[832loverboy73]

Zilch. I'm black.

[AgentG111]

Haha in reference to what?

[Anonymous]

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