F*cking grow a pair. Seriously, man up. You need to have a spine, NO ONE respects a door mat, and you'll NEVER get a relationship without respect. Realize that YOU are in control of your own destiny and women don't OWE you sh*t!
You gotta EARN it. EARN it by realising that you don't NEED to have a chick to validate your existance, realize that people try to help you all the time, but your LAZY ass ALWAYS blames society instead of taking initiative and making yourself more attractive the opposite gender. ADAPT! Don't cry about women not wanting you, find out what they want and use that to make yourself more attractive.
Oh and be a Man" I hate him a lot
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How society works, is that it emphasizes, enhances, and popularizes natural aspects of human character.
Men are naturally more assertive, aggressive (testosterone,) ambitious, dangerous, risky, dare devilish, adventurous, head strong, prideful in their masculinity and ego's - and not to mention making their stance in the field of endless male competiton.
That's why society has derived such rigid ideals for males. Humans are interesting in how we idealize ourselves in regard to gender, race, etc -
We seek perfection; and within all the wonderful traits that make men male - it was only a matter of time before society began to develop idealized perspectives on what it means to truthfully be male. And over time as humans, and society became more complex - those ideas just became more and more refined.
It's the same thing with women. We have terrible pressure to be the epitome of beauty, the perfect mothers, the perfect lovers, etc -
Both genders have our stresses here. It seems easier to me for you as a guy because you don't understand my hardships as a woman, and never could until you are one - and likewise, I'll never truly understand your hardships as a man without being one.
But I see exactly what your talking about - and men do have my compassion in that respect.
I grew up with a brother, and at times I could see him wanting to be able to just have a break. To be able to be vulnerable without ridicule.
But men rarely get that chance - because your ego's are at stake.
And that's another thing -
Men hold their pride and ego's so dear - on a level that's so profound and deeply implanted inside them - that they simply cannot be demeaned.
That is a dude's core - and when that ego is broken - he's down for the count. I've seen it happen once and the guy eventually killed himself. I think he lost his job, house, and his wife just gave it to him About how worthless he was – I mean just handed it to the guy. He was a distant cousin, my great aunt was tellin me about it. But his wife was already kind of verbally abusive, and she just went in on him. That on top of losing his livelihood, on top of all the pressure of what it takes to be a guy; he just couldn’t handle it. My uncle was struggling to support his family and was just so frustrated, angry, and hurt on a very deep level. My aunt was upset too, but you know – women have a unique way of taking hard crap like that. I don't know what it is, but our ego’s don’t hurt us so much when their hit. We endure. Maybe that’s why we have the kids?
Anyway – male society is tough. I use to think men had it so much easier, but I really understand now that it’s a hard knock life to have sometimes.
It’s so tiring –
Men just never get a break. Women can seek such solice and refuge in a man – but men tirelessly have to keep proving their worth and masculinity.
It’s rough – but that’s why men were built tough.
I HATE HOW WOMEN LOVE MEN WITH CONFIDENCE SO MUCH, IT REALLY PISSES ME OFF!, SERIOUSLY WHY ARE WOMEN, GIRLS, INSTINCTIVELY, HARD-WIRED, PROGRAMMED TO WANT GUYS WITH CONFIDENCE?
Because confidence is just attractive. I'm sorry - I can't be constantly babying any person girl or guy because they have no inner strength or belief in themselves. Confidence isn't just for dating - confidence is just genuinely great to have in life. It makes problems easier to face, and steels you against a lot of life's sh*t. Doesn't matter if your a dude or chick - I say lacking confidence makes you a weaker person. Your easy to step on, easy to destroy without
having that inner wall built up to shield yourself from the constant attacks life will throw at you. I hate when people mope and complain - wallow in their own self pity. Like quit crying and get some back bone already. It's just ridiculous. How do you expect this life to be good for you, if you can't even be good to yourself? It's just ridiculous. I've been told I'm ugly, I've been rejected, I've been beat down time and time again - but I don't let it destroy me. Because I'm confident. It's jus
a great thing to have. Once you've created a foundation in yourself, you make a strong base that's hard to be knocked down from. Men are generally revered for strength - confidence is the best strength you can have. When your confident - your unstoppable. I don't tolerate my friends to moan and wallow - I help build them up. I'm a strong girl - I see no fault in wanting an equally strong man...
seriously why do guys have to be successful in life in order to be successful with women?
Just shows your a well rounded person. I mean, I don't know too many people keen on having a purposeless couch potato for a partner. Except some guys who want their wives to sit at home on their asses all day. Other than that - it's kind of unacceptable for people to just waste their lives away. One of my good guy friends hates his girlfriend for that, and has been checking out other girls who are more goal oriented.
Ambition is just alluring in itself.
yeah but it is far more important for a guy to have those traits than it is for a girl
Yea - but what do you want me to say here? I mean it's our society who's sculpted this idea so severely out for men as I explained above. There's not much that can be done until the idea changes and with this whole equality thing it probably will.
You are no one's bitch - and that includes society's. It's your life. Do what makes you feel like a man. Cry if you want, don't be confident, give yourself a break from it for a little while.
I mean - if your pride will allow it...
I have my frustrations as a woman, but I don't let them get to me. No gender has it absolutely wonderful here - just tend to have what the other gender wants - i.e. we envy each other. Women want more authority - men want more options. Don't know when things will change - but until they do, even if they never do - you can't let aspects get you down. Problems come with race, age, sex, height, just about everything that makes up you.
Just gotta deal with it. Your def not the only one so...
i just hate double-standards, gender roles with a huge passion, not expecting you to say anything
Everyone hates them. But eh - what can you do lol?
nothing, but that's why I wish I could kick somebody's ass for telling me to "Man Up" so I can show society that I refuse to adapt, follow those rules
Yea. But kicking one person's ass isnt' going to do anything. It's going to take an epic wave of societal evolution to get things changed. Which is what's kinda happening now so.
yeah I won't solve anything but it will release all of my anger, frustration, like I just want to go "Incredible Hulk" on the World, since that's how he transforms, gets that way, from stress, anger, frustration, gets pissed off, overall, the whole World needs an ass-kicking
i feel his pain, frustration
You girl...are quite the smart one. ^_^
I give your comment 5 stars! ;)
awe thank you ^^
You're pretty smart. I rather enjoyed your post.
why thank you ^^
I seriously think that your answer was the best, but the OP is a little douche bag that just wants to whine about not getting his way in life.
oh yea, you get a lot of those on there. The woest be me's and chronic complainers about everything wrong in their lives that they have every means to fix or cope with.
Ugh, I only tolerate whining from children. Even then lol
i just hate the pressure's we males have to deal with, that's what!
Yea you and the MILLIONS OF OTHER MEN ON THIS PLANET.
Give me a break.
They figured it out, so figure it out already. Life isn't fair, you just gotta suck it up and try and fix what you can. Who knows maybe you'll be the person to straighten things out, but sitting around and crying about isn't going to do anything for you or society so. Get to it yea?
i don't know how
For starters, do you have any idea what may be causing you to have issues here? Is there a pattern in the girls who reject you or have you not even tried yet?