Would you date a guy with a low income?

[JK7062]

Please give brutally honest answers; do NOT try to be politically correct and give corny dishonest answers!

Would you date a guy who had a slave-labor job?

[windy-rose]

I don't want to say no, but I wouldn't if he was stuck there and began to hate it. I wouldn't want to live with someone who doesn't remotely like what they do and seem trapped in doing it over the long haul.

That kind of entrapment is big part of what I believe drove my parents apart. Not the wages, the trapped part.

I wouldn't really have a problem with being the main bread winner, which given this scenario is likely being I'm more or less going into a white collar level job market. (granted, living cost for the area is a big factor on what's actually 'low income') I'd have a problem if he became resentful towards me or himself for it though. I wouldn't want to unintentionally do that to someone.

So, ideally, I'd like someone on a sort of similar level. Though 'clicking' and personality go far past an income level. Ex: artists/musicians can earn diddly squat, but its not really a "trapped" job. Or someone could be totally fine with the 9-5 drudge, some people are. And that'd be ok.

But I'm not very like that, so I don't know what the likelihood of me clicking with that personality would be.

[candlewax]

I wouldn't really care as long as I don't have to do any supporting. I don't expect to be supported when I'm dating someone/in a relationship and I sure as hell don't expect to be supporting them.

But to get all turned off because he works a crappy job with low income? Unless I saw some other red flag indicators (wastes all his cash on booze, stupid crap for his car, and then can't afford to pay bills and take care of other matters), it wouldn't matter all that much to me.

However, if you're talking permanent basis here, I'd definitely do a lot of considering before moving in/getting married. I'd prefer for both of us to be financially stable before taking on commitment like that. In that instance, I'd say it depends on the situation.

Overall, I only really care about finances if it's going to be taxing on my own finances. It's hard enough to survive in the world. Nobody needs to take on a financial drain in this economy.

[Prof_Don]

I absolutely love the last paragraph you wrote here. :)

[Skeptic]

Thumbs up*

[bored2pieces2]

It's not exactly ideal but I wouldn't rule him out just because he's broke. There are plenty of jobs out there that don't pay much but are very rewarding. It really depends on the reason he's in that situation. If he's doing nonprofit work or social improvement work or he is truly working to get himself out of a bad situation, I would definitely date him.

Besides, I'm overly cautious about that sort of thing and I try to make sure that my guys are decent and respectful. I usually try to know them for a while before I even consider dating them . If he's on my radar, chances are he's a good guy and that means more to me than how much money he makes.

[GymStatus]

It is like sayhing I am not a gold digger but I don't want to be called one lol. That are the answers I am seeing lol. Forget the women stack paper lol. Some people don't realize that a lot of low wage workers did or graduated from college... New stats show that women are outearning guys perhaps due to the heathcare field is in demand and nurses get PAID lol. If I was at some slave labor job, I would not want to mix a relationship with it. I would probably takeout the frustrations of the job in the relationship lol.

[prettymuscle]

They will probley date you for a while but in time they will dump the guy, no women wants a man who does a labor job, that's just life lol

[Snow123]

Yes, I would.

I understand the whole stability piece and why it would be preferable to some females if their guy can provide/equally contribute, etc. And I'm not going to judge that, what works for them works for them. But to me, a guy with a low income wouldn't scare me nearly as much as losing the guy I love because I'm too focused on financial/life stability.

Imo, a stable financial footing by no means measures up to the experience of love, especially one that's life lasting (which yes, with the current divorce rate even that too is rare apparently :p). But ultimately, I want to be able to look back on memories, not necessarily bills that were able to be payed every time, on time. :)

[neo41]

I won't, to be honest.

But if the guy's pride can stand me having a higher income than him, sure, let's try. I doubt that though. Guys prefer to be better, or higher in economic status than their partners. His pride won't allow it (unless he's going to milk his partner, which is bad).

Better work hard and get himself somewhere first before pursuing someone. Supporting himself would be difficult already with a low income. He needn't trouble himself further by spending in order to pursue a girl he likes.

[Love_is_in_the_air]

what kind of income could a 18 years old girl have lol

[neo41]

Oh, I see you didn't get that I was talking about how I'd deal with it in the future. And I answered based on this question asker's context.

And oh, I am earning something now, actually. :) It's relatively big for someone my age. Now if only I have more time to work, because I'm having difficulty balancing work and academic life.

Mr. Love is in the air, never judge a person's capability just by looking at his or her age. You'd be surprised what people my age can do. :)

[Freetobe007]

It honestly depends on what phase of life I'm in and how much I care about him.

When I get to the stage of my life where I'm having kids and picking out houses, I need my partner to step it up and have a job that can provide him with enough to create a certain lifestyle. I don't care if he's rich, but realistically, raising children is expensive. I think you get to a certain point where relationships become financial partnerships when you get married or even just move in together. Especially when you move in together! Because that other person's income and what they can pay for bills and groceries lets you know how much money you need to put forward for bills then how much money you have for spending.

Yet if I was madly in love with him, I could definitely see myself accepting that part of him and struggling day to day.

[Izzy_21]

depends on how low and in what kind of situation he is right. If he just graduated from college it's only normal if he doesn't make a six figure salary. If that is the case however he should have the ambition to change that.

So generaly I would not date a guy who had a "slave-labor job". One major reason for that is that I want to have a couple of kids at some point, so at least for I while I won't get my full salary and thus we would greatly depend on his.

I'm sure that women who don't want a family won't mind though, as long as they don't have to support him

[Anonymous]

Yes I would, whether he was intelectually compatible with me...don`t want to be insulting, but it is almost a rule that mentality in that kind of income classes speaks for itself.

Surely, man can also find a bunch of college people who are also everything else as intellectuals...so jerks can be found anywhere.

I do not have problems with my income, so there probably won't appear big financial problems, when living rationally - consequently, for me; money is not a problem, it is the way of thinking.

[Ree-Ree]

The amount someone is earning shouldn't matter to be honest.

Your not with a person for their money, your with them because you enjoy spending time with them and you like the person that they are.

If a girl won't date you because your on a low income then you should probably think twice about her...

As long as you pay your bills and are stable with your financial situation then it should be fine :)

[Prof_Don]

Well said. :)

[SuRpRiZeD]

a low income person isn't paying all thier bills on time and they aren't in a stable financial situation, what do you think low income means?

[Ree-Ree]

SuRpRiZeD-- I'm on a low income and I manage to pay my bills ect... If you can't do that then your obviously spending more than you earn and need to sort it out.

Skeptic-- It just means they're materialistic and that they only get with guys for their money and not for the actual person that they are, totally agree with you to be honest.

They man buys them whatever they want and all they gotta do is say I love you and sleep with them.

[SuRpRiZeD]

no that isn't true at all, a single mom with a minimum wage job and 3 kids, is a low income mom and can't afford to pay her bills, she is still very smart with her money so the only thing she misses out is not having food sometimes. so if you can't pay for your grocery bills it doesn't OBVIOUSLY mean that they are spending more than they earn, so please don't talk about money unless you know what your talking about

[Ree-Ree]

I think I do know what I'm talking about so please take yourself away from my answer, considering I wasn't even talking to you in the first place?

You know nothing about how I live my life.

So Please shut up telling me I don't know what I'm talking about.

And we're talking about if your PARTNER (something a single mother does not have) is on a low income...

Just saying.

[crazylove21]

how much a man makes doesn't matter. You date a man to spend time with him and get to know him, not judge how much he has to empty his pocket. As long as the man doesn't use you, or make you pay for stuff all the time, because he's broke. If it was "marriage" it'll be different.

[Skeptic]

Yep

[tohrment]

Yeah, so long as he didn't despise his job. That would get frustrating hearing him complain. So long as he can still stimulate me intellectually and whatnot.

But money in itself doesn't bother me. Not because I'm all "blahh, money doesn't matter" but because I wouldn't depend on him anyway, so the amount he makes is irrelevant to me.

[Gianni]

Honestly I would. In this economy one minute he could be the one with the low income and the next it would be me and I know I would want someone to give me a chance. However if the date is a buss and I really don't have anything in common with the guy then well what he makes wouldn't even be a decisive factor...

[Kangajay]

I did it once. The guy was a student and didn't have a job. It wasn't easy, every now and then I would whinge about paying everything, but too bad I was in love.

So to answer your question, as long as I love him it will be a yes. Slave-labor job is better than no job.

[lafeeverte]

It's not about income but about ambition to me. So if he's broke because he's in med school or doing something else worthwhile then I wouldn't have a problem with it. But if he's just working a dead-end job in fast food or something, then that shows me he has no plans for his life and I'm not attracted to that.

[Cynthia325]

If he didn't look like he made a terrible wage. Honestly, I would be hesitant, it pretty much means you are paying for everything. I will be your friend and hang out with u, but if he has better goals in mind then yea I'd consider it, if he had no Intention of bettering himself then I don't see myself wanting a future. Also it really depends on his age.

[Anonymous]

HONESTLY, he'd have to be one amazing person and I'd have to be in love with him, but if I just met him and dating him then NO...I know I am heading places and I want someone who is too it's my preference, I want someone just as smart as me or even more... I wanna know if God forbid I get pregnant before I am married, I don't wanna be stuck with someone who can't support me and his kid

[WeaponZero]

Honestly the way the world is today, intelligence does not mean someone has a high paying job. Someone who is smarter than you may still be making very little in today's economy, with people graduating with masters' degrees and being unable to find work.

[Anonymous]

When I was a lot younger I didn't care about a guys income but now that I am in my twenties it matters. I started to look at men differently. I think you just crave security when you are that bit older. I want to know if I have children and get married we can be secure. However luckily my boyfriend has a good job and I love him. I think if he lost his job tomorrow I would still marry him. Once he was actively looking for another job. Hope this helps.

[Skeptic]

"I started to look at men differently"

So you started to see wallets instead of a human being...

...nice.

Depending on where you fall on the looks scale, I'm sure there are some guys out there that would look at you "differently" too.

[Opinion Owner]

OH shut up. I don't have to defend myself to you. He asked for an honest answer. Run along.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Yes but only if he was really good looking. but I would not marry him so if I found someone better that had more money I'd dump him because I'm not settling down with someone who can't provide

[CatholicVirginia]

Date, yes. Marry, probably not. I want a family in the future, and if he is going to be working at low-income jobs all the time, this is going to be harder.

[Apath4]

yep If I liked him a lot... As long as he had time to see me but if he had to work all day all night no time for me no. Even if he was making billions no.

[ambershere]

if we had fun together on our date and I found out he had low income..i would not turn down another date if he asked..

[harveykinkle]

If he's there as a stepping stone to something else, yes. If not, no.

This just shows lack of ambition. As someone working towards a PhD I would resent him for it.

[Anonymous]

LOL that's all I ever seem to want to date, so yes. I'm not materialistic at all and, personally, it would make me feel uncomfortable if my bf/husband made a lot more than me. those with middle class jobs seem to be th4e most down to earth.