Would you date a guy who earns less than you?

Question

Some women want men to be the provider
Some women want to be independant but won't date a man earning lower than herself.
Ithers believe that men are supposed ti be care guvers solid privuders but bullshit about about being an independant woman.

smølf · Accepted Answer

The real answare is a bit more complicated, yet at girl will date a guy who is equal or better than her in attractiveness, personality etc..
If he is not, then he needs to brig other assets to the table, like better income, name or prestige etc..

Girls do follow their feelings, but there feelings are subconsciously influence by a great many things, like income, name or prestige, looks etc.. In the end, we all want the best we can get, and will compromise with one thing if it's equalised and suparsed by other good traits.

In this men and women are alike, what we values and how much emphasis we put on each values is however different, not just between men and women, but also based on culture, class and individual preferences.

kevincash158 · Accepted Answer

I think there is a disconnect between: "Would you under any circumstances date a man who makes less than you," and "Would you date this particular man right here, who makes less than you?"

It is a fact of life that women *prefer but do not categorically exclude* men who are more successful than themselves.

Success is correlated with intelligence, education, socioeconomic factors, and ambition.

I do not think most women would just outright reject an ambitious man with the same degree-level as them, who is clearly striving to advance.

But do women with advanced degrees marry plumbers, electricians?

Now that's a rare sight.

silverqueen · Accepted Answer

The fact that many girls prefer a guy who earns more is a little sexist. It doesn’t matter what kind of career he has; it all matters if he LIKES his job. To me, a guy who earns more usually has an excuse to boss you around and try to dominate you. I’m not a feminist but I was raised in a family where both my mom and dad earned equal amounts of money (mostly my mom earned more).

I don’t want a man to earn more than me, and it has nothing to do with feminism or hatred towards men. I just simply don’t feel right if I earn less. That’s all

thedancingcookie20 · Accepted Answer

As long as he's a good person who treats me right and wants to improve himself, I don't care if he earns less than me. In the beginning of the relationship, my partner paid for almost everything. But once I finish med school, I'll be earning 10x what he makes and that's fine with me. Money can influence comfort and security but it isn't everything.

fauchelevent · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend earns less than me. Technically, he doesn't even have a job, he volunteers part time and gets Jobseeker's Allowance to supplement income. It doesn't bother me that he earns less, I only recently started working after all, and I know he's trying to find a job, but I have to admit it's stressful not having much income.

FutureTrunks · Accepted Answer

It doesn’t matter. I’m not the type to believe a man is solely responsible for paying certain or all the bills. Whatever makes it easier for us

seregunda · Answer

Your three options above are a bit conclusive so I'm not going to participate in the poll if that's ok.

I don't mind if a man earns less than me as long as he can still fund his own lifestyle. I don't mind earning more or less, and I always offer to pay my half or take turns paying on dates, but I do not want someone that DEPENDS on me and my income.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Depends on the circumstances.
If he's working at McDicks full time and has no plans on continuing/starting his post secondary education, probably not. We should both be relatively equal contributors to finances.

meggo87 · Answer

I would date a guy who earns less, but never a guy who earns nothing! As long as he is happy and loves what he does, I don't care about income! Motivation is more sexy than money!

Rainie_ · Answer

I wouldn't mind being the breadwinner, it's how my family is currently set up, my mum being the breadwinner and my dad is essentially a house dad.

Logorithim · Answer

Income is far from the only criterium for a partner, so why not? In the country, I live in, especially highly-educated/high-income women are often single (as are low-income men).

Highheels124 · Answer

Um... Feminism is equality for men and women. Not women are better than men. That would mean that it wouldn't make a difference whether a man makes more or less money than a woman. Just sayin.

aurorable18 · Answer

but when men earn higher earnings they start getting controlling and use money as a manipulative tool. vice versa.

Hidden_P · Answer

How about I’m not a feminist and don’t give a fuck?

HereToProveMyPoint · Answer

I'd prefer a man to earn higher, just cos it makes life easier, but money does not affect who I date at all

Purple_Babe14 · Answer

It does not matter to mean, either way everything I earn and he earns, is going to be OURS. Only thing that will matter is our love, and God.

taytayasks · Answer

Why does money have to matter? I don't care. Me and my boyfriend make about the same amount but we don't worry about that.

RuthAnn1781 · Answer

As long as I don't always have to pay for everything and he offers to help, I don't care. I don't make nearly enough money to support two people

Gypsy_x · Answer

None of the above. I don't care, as long as he is independent. Realistically I will always earn more than my SO.

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

My boyfriend does make more than me but I honestly don't care that much. As long as we're both working, it's fine.

Bellamyx · Answer

I mean, it would be nice if they earned more, but it’s not a deal breaker. As long as they’re helping financially, I’m happy

FlawlesslyFiona · Answer

I would prefer if he earned more, but if I really like him, I won't care.

Napkins_Boochy_WOO · Answer

It does not matter to me as long as the man loves me.

mar_B · Answer

I don't care how much a guy I date makes as long as we are happy

ausroo · Answer

Money isn't everything, nor would it mean anything to me if the guy earned less.

matheus_mb · Answer

I wouldn't have problems to date a girl who makes more money than me.

kaskas19 · Answer

Another biased poll.  What he makes doesn't concern me. More than me, or less than me, it doesn't matter. As long as we're both happy and healthy.

Confusedmamma · Answer

yes I dont care who makes the money as long as we love each other

bungateratai · Answer

Yes i would as long he is responsible, kind and loving guy.

Izumiblu · Answer

I don’t care really. Just have a job and be responsible.

PrincessPie · Answer

Yes. Money is not what i'm looking for from someone.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't be with a man that can't provide for his family no. I still believe in women and men roles

Ashely_007 · Answer

I have dated men who earned less than me in the past.

PinkandSparkles · Answer

Yes without an issue. As long as a guy works I could care less how much he makes.

Wi_Fi · Answer

I wouldn't date a woman who earns less than me 😜😎

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't matter to me, as long as we are happy and love each other.

Anonymous · Answer

No. He'd be unemployed or working in a 3rd world country to earn less than me currently.

Anonymous · Answer

who cares who earns more money. as long as y'all earning some money, why should it be a competition?

CT_CD · Answer

Feminism killing the relationship between men and women

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Feminism killing the relationship between men and women

Anonymous · Answer

oh wow, where are all these girls that would date a guy who earned less than them? I mean, I've encountered girls who don't date a guy who is equal or lesser than them more often than not. Sigh.

BarbieLola · Answer

Wouldn’t date any guy

majestic17 · Answer

yes whatever it is we get through together

ariadneR · Answer

yes, because I am not with him for his money

NaughtySarah · Answer

I can date a guy who makes less than me

Anonymous · Answer

I would, he could always get a promotion one day

karahiri · Answer

yeah

hasrett · Answer

Yes, I would.

cupidkisses · Answer

I would.

michiec · Answer

I don't care

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