I live in a town, in which the price of living is also high. I have two children of my own. My boyfriend brings home approximately $25,000-$30,000 annually. He is a used car salesman, so it ranges from month to month and year to year. I usually work his days off. which is about two days a week for $8.00 an hour, for 4-6 hours. My daughter is 4 months old and my son is 4 years old. Now, our family receives NO help from the government or any aid whatsoever. We own our home. No one our age has a home as nice as ours. We budget, we coupon, and we make it work. We have no choice, but to make it work. Instead of dogging him. You have two options... One, being embrace it, support him, and make it work. Two, go find work yourself. The saying. "If you don't like it, then do it yourself." Is strongly applied to this situation. I too, went to college. I can't find work, so I patiently wait in a dead end job that pays garbage. Remember, the number one thing couples fight about is money. It's also the number one cause of divorce and break-ups. Keep it simple and live day to day on a budget.
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I think you are both being unreasonable. 25k a year is certainly not enough to properly raise a family unless you are living in an area with a very low cost of living, which you say you aren't, but on the other hand, 90k a year is not required to live comfortably unless you are trying to live in Manhattan. My guess, and this is just a guess based only on what I am reading here, is that he not just trying to have an easy job, but to try and prove a point. It may be that he is trying to show you that you don't need to make 100 grand a year to live comfortably.
My suggestion is to tell him that if he is going to take this job, the two of you need to make a strict budget. Then sit him down with a pencil, paper, and a calculator, and go through ALL your expenses. Hopefully, once he sees the numbers in front of him in black and white he will understand that "working to live" isn't a good deal if can't buy groceries.
Well it depends on how old he is and what skills he has. If he is within your age range, and particularly if he is 18, $13 an hour might be the best he can get at first. Unless your family has a business, everybody starts on or near the bottom when first entering adult hood. If he just finished college that's a low wage. But then, in this highly competitive job market, it may be the best he can get. Don't focus strictly on the wage, look at other things, especially if there is potential to advance. A lot of people take low end jobs as a way to get in a door. And it's much easier to find a job when you have a job. He might be taking it just as a means to an end, to keep some money coming in while he looks for something better. What he really needs is your love and support, not your censure. If you, his girlfriend, his love of his life, has no faith in him, how much more so he must wonder if potential employers will?
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You seem like a snob and you obviously can get by quite well living on 40 or 50k a year combined. If you know how to budget your money you can even live well. Americans live beyond their means and spend money in ridiculous ways. Respond any way to me as I don't care what your response is to me. I hope your boyfriend leaves you and finds a decent human being. Good luck
What is the average salary for his education in your area? I have a master's degree and was only bringing in 43k/yr in my last job. Asking 40k could be a lot when you're talking a step up from what is about 27k.
I think you're putting it in a harsh way but it is fair to suggest to him that "rising up the ladder" will help the two of you so it should be something he should be shooting for. As long as he is looking to advance in his career that's good for you
sorry but your boyfriend will not make 40k or higher without a degree of some sort or a rare kind of skill. Plus since we are in a recession even with a degree 40k would still be the impossible
So basically he makes around 50k a year which is really kind of average. I will that a second income would definitely help raise the family in much more suitable conditions.
Your a fucken bitch I hope he is doing your friend right now your so mean 13 an hour is excellent your the one that needs the wake up call buto
Well what's his educational background?
how much do you make a year?
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