I don't know about whether it's normal or not, but the way I see it, is that he's just appreciating pretty girls. I have been with my girlfriend for a while, and I still occasionally check out the /s/ boards or GW, just out of curiosity. But there's no real lust behind what I do. I'm not even jerking off to these pictures. I'm just casually browsing. If someone is pretty, I give them a 1up. That's about the end of it.
Occasionally I check out these pictures of girls on Facebook when they're linked to me, and I might check out an album or two, and same deal. If they're pretty, I give them a 1up. Again no lust. No jerking off or anything, I'm just appreciating a girl's attractiveness. I am not a cheat, and my girlfriend knows I look at this stuff from time to time, she gets it. Which I'm glad. Because I totally get why someone might get jealous. Still, if she did the same thing I'd trust it would be innocent enough.
I think what I'm getting at is, I think all he's doing is admiring or appreciating what he thinks is pretty. If he starts hitting on these girls, or jerking off to them, then you might have a problem.
If you ever want to talk to him about it (and I know you said that right now, you don't) I would advise just finding a time to sit him down and talk about it, or maybe talk about it as he's doing it. In person would probably be ideal.
When you talk about it, say it with concern, but don't bury your feelings too much. Let him know if it angers you, but keep it calm, so you don't turn it into a screaming match. Adrenaline can literally make conversations impossible, because studies show adrenaline can blind someone to the reason to listen. Neither of you want to say something you regret.
But anyway, when you talk to him, try showing you're concerned as well, and ask him why he does this, and what it means to him. Tell him he doesn't need to be defensive, because you're really just trying to understand. If you go about it this way, you may even be able get some reassurance on this.
So that's my thoughts on this, including some ideas on how to handle it, if you ever decide to do it. In the meantime, I hope my thoughts on it were something resembling insightful. Best of luck on this.
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I do not do this. I doubt most men do this. You should probably communicate your feelings with him. In a productive, calm, not angry way you should tell him that you don't understand what he's doing and why he's doing it. It would be one thing if they were new pictures posted btu the fact that he is liking pictures that are months old it is clear that he is cycling through pics and it is strange. You should just communicate with him how you feel and try to figure out what he's doing
Guys are always lusting for other females and wishing that they could be single and mate with said females. Girlfriends are kind of resented when they are in this mood. Usually, they come around when they're not feeling the need to spread their seed and feel happy about the relationship again. No matter what you say, he's going to become defensive, which, for men, usually means he'll get angry and blame you for feeling the wrong way. If he's cheating, you'll figure it out soon enough.
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I notice similar behavior when I am with other guys. Typical stuff like a girl walking somewhere and they get all ridiculously horny about it. It makes me wonder just how crappy their married sex life really is. I recall one guy I was talking to at lunch and he was an old creeper saying "This is a good place to pick up chicks" yet he has a girlfriend...
Some guys just don't mature. That's all there really is to it.So you are Facebook stalking your boyfriend? That's kind of creepy in and of itself.
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