In your idea, is a woman 40 years old single without any kids, educated and have a good job considered successful?

[Anonymous]

She spends much of her money traveling around the world and each summer she visits a new country. She just go to high level hotels and the only thing she enjoys is traveling. All of the year, she is planning a new trip and after her trip, she lives with her memories and she doesn’t save a lot

[BCA6010]

A few years ago, I probably would've said yes without much thought. Now, I'd consider that question to be more subjective to whether or not she is actually living the life she wants. By this description, "the only thing she enjoys is travelling," and only makes one trip per year. So what, she's bored or depressed or stressing out when not taking her vacation once a year? That sounds pretty abysmal, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

If she’s happy that’s all that matter. Not my life. But it does raise a lot of red flags. I wouldn’t date someone like that. It’s fun for a while, but I think she’s wasting a lot of her life. For a man that is successful as far as meeting a partner. A lot of women look at men in that way. Men don’t look at women like that. Not the ones that are worth being in a relationship w.

[At3mis24]

Red flags for just not wanted kids? It's too much! Why according such importance to those "garden gnomes"? Always crying, needing help, run over... I can't stand with it!! I became crazy with them!

[At3mis24]

I'm fed up with people judging a woman by her lifestyle, choices and hate her because she doesn't want kids! But let me say this: women will not change to suit your desires, they exist for themselves above all, so you waste your time!

[4ngelic]

yea duh if your rich and living your best rich life you're succesful. you dont need to have kids and be married if your rich to have succeeded at life

[exitseven]

If she is happy with her life then she is successful.

[OlderAndWiser]

To me, that sounds like a wasted life. What meaningful relationships does she have? How does she use her life to benefit other people? What will she do when she gets older and retires?

"Success" is whatever you define it to be, and some people measure it by money or a lifestyle, but that is not my idea of success.

[At3mis24]

It's not a wasted life if she has hobbies and friends

[OlderAndWiser]

I measure success by how the world is changed when your life is finished.

[Asker]

Can you answer all of your questions for a married person?
Can’t she use her life to benefit others?
What can a married woman do when retired that an unmarried woman can’t?
You know the happiness for this woman is independent of the presence of others in her life and originates from within herself.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are horribly mischaracterizing what i said, and you know it, and it is apparent to anyone else who reads this thread. That means you have no real response to me.

[patois]

That's the most cliché boring woman in the world... Every girl from the time she's like 12 puts the tag line in everything she does "I like to travel". I don't think there is anything more uninteresting a woman can say. It's basically like saying, I hate my life and am extremely fickle, all I want to do is run away from it.

[Anonymous]

Everything mentioned was carnal. Now that I've seen the spiritual realm, all of it is meaningless without that part. We are spirit and flesh. I measure success by how aligned the two are. What you just described is severe misalignment!

The spirit within is trying to communicate this but she is not listening!

[Asker]

No it’s not true
It’s really a good harmony within my soal and body

[Opinion Owner]

Alignment involves the soul, body and the spirit. It is your spirit that is not being acknowledged. I can tell because everything you mentioned serves the body and the soul but ignores the spirit. This is what is missing.

[At3mis24]

Anything, this smoking theory

[At3mis24]

Flesh? Oh for sexual things, a woman doesn't need a man! ^^

[Marriedandavailable]

this woman is free. I lake to spend sometime with this woman. do not care any problematic conditions. time is important. thats all.

[Asker]

Exactly
We are getting older and older and what’s important is that we enjoy something today but may not enjoy it years later

[Marriedandavailable]

Yes. These days you wanna feeling in your body with all sense and somebody make you feel in deeply. Tonorrow you can only be feeling silence and have a peace.

[Marriedandavailable]

Please call me when you are in Madrid. i would like to order a coffee for you with Jazz Music as well.

[Asker]

Thank you so much
😊
This summer I plan to visit France but I’ll come to Spain maybe 2 years later

[Marriedandavailable]

:). ok.

[Avicenna]

A woman that can afford to do that on her own dime is definitely going to be considered successful.

[Lliam]

Yes. Absolutely! It sounds like a great life. She's living her bliss.
She can even meet men during her travels and have steamy, romantic affairs, just like in romance novels.

[Unit1]

That is one happy woman. Good for her.

Certainly happier than married women filing for divorce at a likelihood of 50% 😆

[Berethor]

She is childless and too old to have children, so she sounds like a failure as a woman.

[Asker]

Having children was not important to her.
People always Pursue their dreams.

[ManOnFire]

That is a super fuckable woman to me. She does what she likes and she's happy. That's really all that matters.

[KrakenAttackin]

No, she is trying to convince herself she is successful. On her death bed she will not count the number of Gucci bags she has but she will miss having her hand held by her non-existent children.

[Asker]

It’s not important for her having kids.
Raising a child is not easy and needs a lot of sacrifices

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... She is trying to convince herself she doesn't want kids because she failed to find a man before she went barren.

[JacobJordan]

80+ years is a long ass time to be alone.

[Asker]

No, she really didn’t like kids even when she was younger.
Also, she had many opportunities to make a family but she prefers this way

[Asker]

@JacobJordan may be

[Dinklex3]

She’s doing what she loves and enjoys, so sure.

[JacobJordan]

I personally don't think she has succeeded but if she does more power to her

[DrPepper12]

Fuck yes! The savings thing makes me anxious tho. Ya HAFTA save.

[Anonymous]

Not to me. I mean congrats if that's what she wanted out of life. But most of what you listed is a turnoff to me.

[Anonymous]

If have the freedom of not having but still choose such a bland life (going to nice resorts doesn't count as adventure) then you're not successful. Do something novel, make your own way

[Asker]

She had many choices for marriage but prefer to remain single because being single provides a lot of freedom for her and also she can spend her money on herself

[Chazmatazz269]

If she’s happy, she’s successful.

[Dargil]

Sure, but it is only one way to get there.

[strateguy632]

she failed the important stuff.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Absolutely, NOT!

[Asker]

Success is not measured by the number of children you have

[Awesomesauce2005]

Actually, it is believe it or not. Reproduction is what keeps the world alive and kicking. You wasted your fertile years partying and working when you should have been trying to build a family. Not to say you can't fit work in too. Being a mother is a very difficult job.