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How to Overcome Your Fear of Rejection

 
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This is the number one reason why some men get a ton of women and other men get none. Fear of rejection is something that almost every man has to deal with at some point in his life, as it is the most common problem that men face when dealing with women. It's holding a lot of us back... that's why I felt it was necessary to write an article to this subject on this fascinating website.

If you are one of the many men that find it hard to approach hot women because you are afraid that they may turn you down, then you are in luck, because a few years ago I was the same way. The information contained in this article describes how I overcame my own fear and realized that there really isn't much to be afraid of, and if you take it all to heart... I guarantee it will do the same for you.

I won't lie to you... this will not be easy. In order to completely overcome your fear once and for all, you will need to literally face it head on, and that will require you to do things that you've been reluctant to do in the past because it demands that you step outside your "comfort zone" and open yourself up to your fear of being shot down.

This will most likely be a hard, stressful experience at first... but like most difficult tasks, it will pay off in the end.

Before we proceed, allow me to ask you a quick question, so we can properly determine if this article will help you or not.

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Please answer this as honestly as possible:

Can you remember a time win your past, when you were out somewhere and a beautiful woman caught your eye. You made eye contact with her, then instantly you were under the impression that if you would just go over and talk to her you could have her... but you never did it? Maybe you even watched as another guy approached her confidently, and they hit it off; and you know that it could have been you.

Sound familiar?

If you can honestly answer no, then you can skip the rest of this article, because it is obvious that fear of rejection is not a problem that you face.

If you answered yes... then allow me to ask you one more question: why didn't you go over and talk to that woman?

I already know your answer. You chose not to approach her because your fear of rejection was holding you back, and inside your head you weighed the risk versus the gain and ultimately talked yourself out of it.

Close enough? I thought so.

Moving on. Now that we have addressed the cause of your problem, we can begin to fix it, which is actually much easier than you think, because...

IT'S ALL IN YOUR HEAD

That's right, it's nothing more than a mind game, and I'm going to supply you with some "cheat codes," so you can turn the tables in your favor and start winning.

First off, you've got to understand that really hot women are not all cold blooded snobs that would like nothing more than to laugh at your failed attempt at picking them up. That is not the case at all, and in actuality it is quite the opposite.

Nine out of ten women that you approach will be warm and responsive to you... even if they are not interested, and in most cases, the one o the ten that is rude to you is only acting that way because she is just having a bad day.

If they are going to turn you down, they always try to do it as lightly as possible, usually with the ever-so-popular line: "I already have a boyfriend," or "It's just not a good time for me right now."

That doesn't sound all that bad, does it?

Not at all, so keep that in mind the next time you begin talking yourself out o approaching a beautiful woman, because you are afraid that she will reject you, because in reality... there is nothing to be afraid of at all!

Lastly, you need to remember that failure is a fundamental part of success, and when it comes to getting girls... you will not begin to succeed without failing a few times beforehand. You need to get comfortable with women saying no once in a while... or get accustomed to them saying nothing at all.

Now you know enough about your fear that you can start getting over it.

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NotSoBad I like your approach. It made me think of the movie Fight Club. There is a scene in the fill where Brad Pitt sends everyone on a mission to pick a fight. The catch is once they pick the fight, they have to lose the fight. In the movie they make it pretty obvious that people try to avoid fighting. Basically it's pretty hard to start a fight let alone lose one. I think anyone who reads this article should accept the mission to go up to a pretty girl and try to get rejected. Then report back - More than a year ago
GoodManDave Actually, 9 out of 10 times I get nastiness. I would say that out of the hundreds of women I've asked out in the past few years, I've gotten 10 decent and respectful rejections.

They try to find the cruelest ways to say no, yes, even those "nice" "christian" church going types. One thing I have to say, most are quite creative, I'll give them that.

Falling off a bike a few times - no biggie. But falling 300 out of 310 times can be daunting, especially if you break a bone every time. - More than a year ago
Superstrength79 I have to agree with GoodManDave, where are you finding all of these nice let-downs? :) - More than a year ago
ApoRiA I'm a female and I read this because I know my dating partner is full of fear of rejection.
One thing I noticed in his fear is the fear of disappointment. It's a disappointment emerging *after* he has convinced himself that the girl will be apparently perfect and nice. His disappointment comes from the already-built courage to face the problem, but still failing after that. Sometimes it seems like its the experiences with ex-gfs that hold him back. I wonder if this could be solved? - More than a year ago
A-R-Norman I think the trick is to know that it is numbers game--if a girl is nasty to you--you've lost nothing--she was a bitch anywayz. If a girl is nice in letting you down, you may even politely ask why and she may say she has a beau ( could be true) or was in the case of my hubby--he had a ton of obligations to his family that would have made dating unfair to the other person--sometimes there are 1010 reasons for a no. That said--if you keep trying--eventually you'll find a yes...keep trying - More than a year ago
MarkVonLewis I''ve gotten over it by adopting a mindset of bravado and fearlessness. That, and I really don't give a damn anymore about rejection. That said, I don't like when chicks try to let me down easy; it ends up being more insulting to me than anything. I'm good with a flat out no. - A month ago
 
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