Do women say the opposite of what they actually mean?

it depends on the person, but girls want to make sure you like them. People are so fake these days that a guy will hit on a girl at a bar with NO INTENTION of actually talking to her again. He may be playing it up in front of his guys or just trying for attention or looking for the easiest girl at the club. Some men actually have good intentions while some want a one night stand every night of the week. (I have guy friends who do this!) I have asked why men in a crowd of attractive girls who are 10s, but will approach the 2 or 3 to ask them out. Its because they want a quick lay for the night and the 2 or 3 might be more likely to give it to them while the 10 has more standards and may want a relationship. You may have just asked that type of girl for her number for the first time and not sure what to do.

Personally I would say girls tell the truth but not with words... you have to read their body language... that always tells the truth.

girls. lie. sorry.

Sometimeswe do other times not we will give you signs

There is no 'all girls' but

I say exactly what I mean when I mean it, listen the first time and act accordingly ;)

Don't play games. If she does, forget about her.
Flirting is not playing with someone's emotions by making them freak out that you may not really like them . Gameplaying is just *oh so many bad things I can't list them all *

sometimes girls say things as a way to not let out all their emotions, such as, "i'm fine" "no it's okay, you can go out" or "i don't mind"

however, when a girl asks you to call it means that she really is anticipating the call - some girls just aren't good at getting back to you!

i'm glad she ended up calling back :)

well if she asked you to call her and you did but then she never answered then I don't think she really meant it because if she did she would have answered
hope this helps :)

OMG, if you like her talk to her.. she is interested. It is sometime hard to tell if a girl is testing a guy but if you do get confuss talk it over with a close friend who is a girl. But, most girls usually test a guy when they are in a relationship with that boy. And no it will not make you look desperate, but it will show her that you are interest in her. Now if she tells you to call her but she calls you first that a plus for you, but do take it slow no girl like to be rush

-hope this help

So pretty much...

You failed the test.

See? This is what's wrong with people these days. We've become so focused on "not getting hurt" that we've completely forgotten how to dust ourselves off and move on gracefully (and in a healthy manner) if we do!

First, stop with the game playing. Forget about "looking desperate." If I was her, and you answered the phone, I wouldn't have thought you were desperate. I would've thought "Oh, I'm so glad he answered after I didn't those first two times he called, now we don't have to play this agonizing game of phone tag!" BUT because she's probably playing "the game" as well, I'm sure that's why SHE didn't answer the two times you called. Ridiculous. You like each other, just leave it at that. You don't have to play all these neurotic mind games to prove it! NO wonder the divorce rate is going up. People are nuts... I'm moving to Canada!

Second, unfortunately yes. Women (well, I know I sometimes do) say the opposite of what they mean. I think ultimately we want to see how hard a guy will work to pry the truth out of us. Simple as that. Working hard wins our affections.

yeah in fact they do.I have a major crush on you and I hope you live a long and happy life...
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wellll...hummmm do you hang with her she's probably board

if a guy asked for my number and I gave it to them, id ask them to call me, which means, call me, I'm not going to call you, if your interested, call me. I do say to opposite to what I mean to see if the guy cares enough for you to do the opposite. so yeah we're a mystery but you'll get over it :P

She's playing hard to get.
When a girl tells a guy to call her, she wants him to.
She wants HIM to call her, and not HER to call him, because, she wants to seem kinda hard to get. It's a girl thing. We don't wanna look desperate. We want guys to pursue us. And it's true that we look if the guy really likes us, he will call us. When you didn't answer her call, you could have triggered her thinking that maybe you didn't answer because you weren't that into her, or that your kind of a player or something. So that's why you didn't get a call back ethier time.. She might think that your playing with her or something. So that's when games begin. One plays hard to get, then the other one plays hard to get. Then things get complicated , if you know what I mean.
Beleieve me; we looooove being persued. no girl would say '' I hate being perdued. I like to chase guys, instead . '' We wait for the guy to come to us.
Trust me, if she wouldn't like you, I don't think the girl would ask you to call her.

I don't understand the question.

How is it a TEST to tell a guy to CALL.

If not sincere it is a trick. A test would imply she CARED about the answer.

If she cares enough to tell yo to call, then she said that so you would CALL.

How is it a test. Like she wanted to know if you liked her enough to call her, but she did not really LIKE you, or really WANT you to call, then why would she even bother. I guess if that excites some people maybe they could go get a hobby or something.. Why mess around with a guy she has no interest in talking to.

What if you turned out to be some psycho, & left so many messages she had to get a new voice box, or change her phone.

She probably IKES you, & if not, well then she is freak for telling you to CALL.

Do you get that SUSPICOUS of ALL girls, or was there something seemingly insincere about HER?

I just noticed you said she called back.

Do not do to HER, what you just wrote to US about HER doing to YOU.

LOL... She will be on here about YOU, you will be on here about HER, & you all are going to confirm the myth that EVERYONE PLAYS GAMES...

So do her, yourself & ALL of us a favor, & just CALL her when YOU feel comfortable... NOT, cause you WAITED long enough for her to think you are too busy & aloof , detached to bother considering her.

Just treat people with respect, then you have the RIGHT to respect it, & if yo do not receive it, you never have to question the reason.. Life I much more logical & easy to understand that way.. You find if you keep being real, after a while you can answer questions yourself, the WORLD makes sense to YOU cause YOU make sense to the WORLD.

hahaha, I just noticed this is more then a year ago.

Oh well.

:-)

when I do it, I think of it as a test. I tell them to call me
just to see if they really are into me.

I say the opposite of what I mean to see if a guy cares enough.

haha...how can you get an accurate answer from the girls here? You'll never know if they mean the opposite of what they say!

yes, they do, but not all the time.

for example. you and her have a fight and she tells you: "I don't want to see you again! I want you to leave right now!"
your logical reaction would be to leave (she told you so anyway), but if you really leave, she will get upset with you.
when she is angry she hopes you are going to try to calm her, to be nice to her and never do what she tells you :).

Girls do test guys over and over again for self clarification and there partners, the second call though was partly a slip up you can't seem too intreged or we loose intrest

Girls will not always say what they mean for 3 reasons:

1. They don't want to hurt the guys feelings.

2. Its a way we protect our emotions. Sometimes girls can't always tell guys what they REALLY mean because they are worried that they will be judged and that what they actually want to say will not come across well. Or sometimes its a situation where if the girl says how she really feels she could potentially get her heart broken. Really its a self-defense mechanism.

3. A guy is creeping her out and she is just saying anything she has to to get him away from her.

No, I say what I mean.

most women do. you have to go with the flow. Eventually women will start being more blunt as to what they want,feel,need,and what they think they deserve in life.Patience is key to a successful relationship.

not at all though our reasons or explanations do seem hasty we try the best way we can to express or true feelings.i know I do I try to put my emotions in words but women do sometimes expect the guy to kinda read there mind and feel what there thinking.

lol and hows it all going for you now?

wow. I think you're doing just fine. when a girl gives you her real number after you've been talking and stuff for awhile and I mean like a good conversation that she actually enjoyed, then yea give her a call. I hate it when I give a guy my number and he doesn't call. that's f***ing annoying. but you could try being friend son facebook too. that only affirms that you wanna get to know her.

Girls will do tests but not as much as you think and most are in the beginning which is when guys actually try (no offense) so they usually pass. You definitely are over thinking the tests though. Girls will say something different then how they feel because they're too nervous to say what they really feel.

The fact that she hasn't responded, you might want to hang low with her because she might not be as interested. Or just give her time because girls can't stand over barring guys. But when they say give me a call sometime either means I'll never call you but I want to be nice and not get your hopes up too much or she's really saying give me a call.

Us girls like to throw curve balls every now and then

don't trust nobody

YA MAXIMUM TIMES IT HAPPENS

With somethings yes, others know. The only times I've had a problem with this is getting a woman to be honest about her intentions in a relationship. If I want something casual, she'll pretend that she's not looking for anything long term. On the other hand, if I'm look for something more serious, she will say and do things that both imply and directly state that she sees things as long term.

I often get flamed by girls saying "it's just because girls don't want to seem casual or they'll be labeled as sluts" or "girls don't want to look like they're just crazy and desperate for marriage and babies." Also, I'll get a girl telling me: "she just doesn't want to hurt you." It would hurt me more to find out that a girl who I had been seriously dating for months, who also said things leading towards a long term relationship just saw me is a fling. It also hurts when I find that a girl wanted things to be more serious or progress more quickly than they did. It hurts, because then I have to make the painful decision of whether or not to stick with such a, usually, good and sweet person. If I tell them to slow down, that would severely hurt, but it would have been avoided if they were honest.

So like I said, many girls will lie about some things but not others. It's not a black and white yes or no. But then again, maybe I've just been dating the wrong girls.

neither answer is right.. yes they do test but its not about what they said to you, its how you respond ..

bahahaha... looking at the poll
girls guys
A 25 73
B 47 15

it's either because most of the girls are saying the opposite of what they mean or guys don't get girls. I'm going to go with girls say the opposite of what they mean.

In that case,I think she mean to call him for sure.That is a test of a credit.

yes . I agree with what you said .sometimes the girls saying the opposite of what they actually mean.it doesn't mean that she didn't love you . they just want to satisfied their needing .

There was a study one time where some psychologists video taped women and men flirting. In the study they found that women when they flirt, its hard to distinguish whether they truly like the guy or not. But when guys flirt with girls its easier to spot the differences. So yes, women do say the opposite of what they mean sometimes. Some girls just like the attention. And some girls, when they like a guy will just flat out be blunt about it and say they like the guy and even initiate the texting and phone calling. Yet other women will like guys but won't budge until the guy makes his move.

Basically I would just drop her a flirty text telling her who you are. Sometimes, if its your first time calling a girl, she won't pick up the phone. It has everything to do with the whole surprise of getting a random phone call from a stranger. (Before she knows its you whose calling) and you don't know what situation she's in (she could be taking a dump, sleeping, or in a class or at work) so the best thing to do when getting a number is to wait a day or two then drop a flirty text reminding her who you are by mentioning something special in the initial conversation you shared with her, it will give her time to think of what to say and won't catch her in awkward situations. Of course after writing all this, I just realized your question was from a year ago so now I feel like dork for commenting on it. Sorry, hope things worked out with you two.

YES, they never say what they mean. Especially when they're PMSing!

this is mostly found in married women. Because they have nothing to lose & also if the hubby is a nut. Shy girls some times say no, but they mean it because they are afraid/shy. Under such case one should make repreated request and usually girls oblige to the request(say for kiss or intercourse).

Ya Women do test guys all the time
some of them don't even realize it ,but its just a part of growing up,it becomes second nature to them.

As far as girls saying opposite of what they mean is concerned:

Women are emotional creatures.what they feel now,the next moment they may feel completely different.
eg:
When a girl says "NO" the first time,its just that she is not emotionally charged up to say yes.
"NO" means "NOT YET".You change her mood and try again ,u get a yes.Its quite funny though.

When you ask her what kinda guy she likes?she'll reply a nice guy,who treats me like a princess ,...blah..blah...blah.
but the very next day you can find her flirting with the jerk/badboy.
this is because the nice guy isn't able to produce those emotional spikes that the jerk does.
when you ask her why she fell for him?she'll be like "i donno,it just happened".

women are not to blame for the same because its just hardwired into their DNA just like we are hardwired to have as many sexual partners as we can.

IMO: Girls say the opposite of what they really mean UNLESS you really want them to mean the opposite of what they say IN WHICH CASE they mean what they say. Clear? No, me neither.

Hi guys and girls, I can explain to some extent why this happens, as I am a dating coach in real life.

On the "Do women test guys" subject this is what I can say:

Men are stronger (physically) then most women, men are logical beings.
Girls are stronger (emotionally) then most men, women are emotional beings.

In the world we live in today, lots of men have a set of "techniques" and gimmicks that get women for him. Some men are very good at manipulating, others at disguising, others at conveying to people a totally different person then who they really are.
So, knowing these things, women HAVE to test men. Basically, because they need to find out if the man they just met is the REAL THING or just another FAKE.
For all a woman knows, the man can turn out to be a serial killer, axe murderer, rapist or even a stalker. So, in order to protect themselves and their feelings, they TEST men.
It really isn't that hard to understand once you get these principles.

No woman state the truth of the exact moment. Where men claim rationally they decide what is true and what is not and stick to it woman FEEL what is the truth of the moment. If she says she never wants to see you again in all truth that is what she was felling at the moment.

Girls and guys both do it,so it ain't just girls.

Peace!

Depends on situation and the girl, there is no rule for girls. But usually I don't lost the opportunity, I think you should pay attention to the conversation in the call, may be you will get the answer.

yea some times we do

It really depends on what kind of personality the girl has like if she's lets loose and has a lot of fun no they will not but a shy girl might,"say don't call me' but she wants to talk to you alone with no one around