Why would a guy cry his eyes out if he says he just wants to be friends. I was sad yes but wasn't crying myself, yet when he decided it wasnt' working, I had to comfort him. how does this make sense. can anyone shed some light on this for me?
Good question, although you still don't want to run away usually if you love someone, but I can understand wanting to get away from feeling trapped or afraid of being hurt. - 11 months ago
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Maybe he doesn't feel good enough for you either? Has he ever said you deserve better? - 11 months ago
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No he hasn't said that, but he has said that he just doesn't feel the same way. - 11 months ago
Thank you =D. And if its non of the above I reckon it's 'cos he has really high empathy and really didn't want to upset you :( . I've put way too many answers :P - 10 months ago
he probably didn't want the breakup in the first place.maybe out of sentimentality.or maybe because he really put a lot into this relationship that's why
He really didnt' try that hard to be honest, I think he just didn't want the pressure of a possible relationship, not really sure, I sort of find it strange,. if you like someone generally you don't break up with them, but then you certainly don't cry about it if its what you want either. - 11 months ago
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Wait...i tot he was already in a relationship with u?hmm - 11 months ago
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We were dating for 3 mths.... it never quite got to relationship status. - 11 months ago
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Hmmm maybe he's jus afraid of commitment?certain guys dun really like to be tied down and such - 11 months ago
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Well he does say he is a free spirit.. also women have dumped him throughout his life so a fear of being hurt so getting in first I have thought maybe. - 11 months ago
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Then he's a typical commitment phobe..but its kinda rash to jus choose to dump girls like that.. - 11 months ago
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I would have to agree.. I would never have hurt him. - 11 months ago
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I think you should go back to him and tell him to stop being such a pussy....seriously - 11 months ago
He may have interpreted what you two had as having a deeper meaning than you thought. He probably really doesn't want to lose you, and by only being friends he feels it won't be anywhere near the same. He's scared because he doesn't want to get hurt, but by ending it he's causing himself a whole world of pain because he's losing you.
Yes he tends to end it when I get at all serious... I think he is scared, but he has been hurt before, I guess time will tell if he wakes up and smells the flowers... I think he is confused about how he feels. - 11 months ago
well, I guess it might have just been harder for him to do, then you think. I mean sometimes they care about you to the point where breaking up, is the best thing to do, whether he gets hurt the most or not.
Maybe he's crying because he really loves you and you mean a lot more to him than you think? Sometimes, men can't be with someone they love, even if they love that person with all their heart-- sometimes they can't do it for a number of reasons. My opinion? Unless you're 100% through, don't give up on the idea that maybe at a different point in the both of your lives, sooner or later, when he's feeling whole, you'll get back together.
Sometimes men cut people loose for a number of reasons that hurt them a lot, that they can't make peace with. Maybe that's what he's doing and it's causing him a lot of pain. I don't think he wanted to leave you. :( Men, even the highly emotional ones, don't tend to cry especially if they are breaking up with you unless they did. ;)
Yeah it doesn't make sense. I know I may have come across clingy or something, and he has said he doesn't feel the same way and could never be head over heels for me, but why on earth would he cry then. I truly don't believe he was crying over hurting my feelings. I am guessing he is scared but have no idea. - 11 months ago
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My ex was saying stuff like that... but then, how come he's in a relationship with a new girl (the next day after we break) and then I found out from him that he was crying and he missed me too and had all of these feelings about me...
I doubt it was cos of hurting your feelings but I do think it was because he was hurt and maybe didn't want you to go. Men sometimes leave people they care most about. If he was scared, especially if he broke it off, he wouldn't have given you that satisfaction - 11 months ago
I agree with bunny420. This has happened to me a lot too so guys have broken up with me who suffered from it even though they were the ones who broke it off with me. I don't understand why guys even break up with girls are sweet who have dignity. It's like guys are backwards.
Yeah it makes no sense. I would never have hurt him. He knows I am genuine and care deeply for him, as soon as I would get close or maybe say something that indicated relationship he would run for the hills. sad really, I am not one of the girls that dumped him, maybe he can only feel for someone that treats him half the way he should be. - 11 months ago
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Yes, that is how a lot of guys are. I notice that guys let selfish, bitchy girls practically lead them around on a leash. It makes me want to puke. - 11 months ago
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I think it is truly sad, I think they think its love when they chase and get treated badly. He had one girl that had his kids say to him he was nothing but a sperm donor, and when he had an accident when he was with another girl, she cheated on him and left while he was in a wheel chair... and here he is leaving me who would move the world for him. - 11 months ago
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Blah I'm sorry this happened to ya. And yes it is super sad. I wish I understood why they do this to us sweet, kind and loyal girlfriends. Trust me though, you will find someone who will treat you as you deserve to be treated. It takes a while for good people to get good things in life because good people aren't easy meaning that they don't fall for bullshit or play immature games. You'll find someone who will think of you as his world and love :). - 11 months ago
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Thanks hun. - 11 months ago
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No problem :). Talk to me anytime you feel you needa talk to someone. - 11 months ago
well, maybe he still had feelings for you. but he knew it just wasnt going anywhere, and that hurt him. it probably didn't WANT it to end, but he knew he pretty much had to. but it depends on what wasnt working I suppose.
I think he wanted you to feel pitty for him. Or maybe he cried because he felt sorry for himself. *sniff* "im gona be spending the holidays alone again" *sniff* *sniff* "I can never make any relationship work" *sniff* *sniff* "why I can't I just be happy!" *sniff*
either that, or he just got sad thinking about spending tomorrow without you. Just because you break up with someone doesn't mean you're not gona miss the good times. He couldv been thinking about that, and how much hez gona miss it.
If you are going to miss these things or feel bad about not having things work or spending holidays alone etc, why would you break up in teh first place :) - 11 months ago
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