Does online flirting and emotional chatting count as cheating?

[kabier]

[Purpleronnie]

I’m not sure what you mean by “emotional chatting” it’s not a term I’ve heard before but on the basis of flirting alone I’d say that this behavior is generally accepted as cheating , even though it’s technically not. behavior such as that is actually termed as seeking romantic or sexual validation outside of your relationship which for the most of us is then generalized as cheating


The even sadder thing is that those that do this think the anonymity of it makes it more defensible.. like somehow it’s harmless fun.. but it just makes it worse , because it’s less about that individual personally which only serves as making it more cowardly distasteful, shallow and if I’m honest cheap.



The way to look at it is this;
If the person is doing it in a way that they would be uncomfortable showing their partner it’s probably crossed the line from being harness chatting to emotionally cheating and about sexual or emotional validation. Having a screen in front of you and chatting over the internet even anonymously doesn’t change intent

[Anonymous]

I'm VERY loyal to the one I'm in love with, if I ever GET someone like that! Thankfully, I do, now, and I love her madly and would NEVER, EVER cheat on her or try to do anything to hurt her!!! I want to spend the rest of my days with her and ONLY her!!!
I've been around loads of "attached" people over the decades who all make jokes about sexual stuff with people they're not involved with because they have NO INTENTION of doing romantic or sexual things with them behind the back of their loved one and even make these jokes in front of their SO, who KNOWS it's a joke and that it has no intent behind it. In as such, I don't see anything wrong with it as long as the attached person has no intent to follow up or, if the other person tries to do so, the first person will try to stop it from going anywhere beyond just the harmlessness that was intended.
Also, I've said flirtatious things to lots of people and NONE OF THEM have EVER taken it as a hint that I wanted them so, I just never expect any of that to EVER illicit an amourous response from anyone. Even people who I've made it clear to that I would LIKE us to be together have never even DREAMED of doing so with me!! So far, all of the women I've had a serious relationship with have come after me! It wasn't so much that I was chasing after them.
So, no, I don't count that as cheating. Especially if the person that made the comment had NO intention of it leading anywhere!!

[bobalife]

If you are in a monogamous relationship, yes, it is a form of cheating. If your partner was flirting and sexting online… I’m sure you would not like it either. It’s a form of emotional cheating, cybersex, digital adultery, and violates trust.
If emotional chatting is just talking about deep and personal things is not; however, if you are forming an emotional feelings and continuing the chat with wanting more or flirting… yes that’s still an emotional affair even if it’s online.


Just because it’s online does not take away crossing boundaries.

[Masie]

It definitely counts as cheating. Just because there is nothing physical doesn't mean diddly. You could be emotionally attached to someone else.

That can cause your actual relationship and partner to suffer since your mind is lusting after someone else.

[kabier]

What if I am using this only to vent out certain feelings that I am unable to communicate with my partner and need them out

[Masie]

Honestly, not being able to communicate itself is a problem added to whatever else is going on that you are venting about.

If you are truly just venting and there is no emotional connection more than like talking to a friend, then it is cool in my opinion.

[Tarifa]

I think it is when there is a clear intention behind the chatting. But I also think you can be emotionally attached to someone who is not your partner, on the condition you do not act on this emotional bond and know the boundaries.

Lust is of course a red line not to be crossed.

[Finchie40]

Yes, whatever you don’t want your partner doing to you , needs to be the same boundaries as you as well, so yes it’s emotional cheating , you are investing time into someone else over your partner

[HawkPerception]

It definitely does. If it's something you can't tell your partner openly without them feeling negative about it, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

[jennifer_bloom]

Jesus said sexual feelings without action are adultery already and the modern Jewish rabbis say romantic feelings for somebody even without sexual desire is cheating if the feelings are not for your married husband or wife.

[AviatorTom]

In most people's eyes, No, that's not cheating.

But it really depends on what your partner thinks. Partner's opinion rules.

[Taranis_Thunor]

What? Boomer alert!

[Anonymous]

You can't count everything people do as cheating. If people don't have any outlets for their feelings, they are going to end up actually cheating with someone.

[kabier]

That’s exactly my perspective, I would want to vent out my feelings and desires so that I don’t end up cheating in real life

[Moirine]

It sure is. You're actively and gradually establishing romance by flirting with someone who is not your partner. If you're talking about things your partner can't understand, why not turn to your friends instead? Judging from the responses it's terrible that you can't communicate your feelings to your partner and if there's unwillingness to communicate better from you or them, you should probably call it quits instead of cheating on them and then justifying it.

[Taranis_Thunor]

Well said 👍

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Speculation for fun: In a way, if that sexting is done with random people you don't relate to, then it could equate masturbation? Which would not be cheating.

But this speculation is thin when considering what cheating is from an ethical standpoint. It isn't really about sex or romantic feelings, it is about silently breaking faith someone had in you. Which equates manipulation for your own benefit.

[MrChinaski]

'Cheating' is breaching the explicit or implicit agreement between you and your partner. It is not what a vox pop of online people say it is or isn't.

Every relationship is different. You know what the right hing to do is and isn't in yours; we don't.

[Pterodon]

Flirting by itself is ok as long as it’s not done in front of your partner. That’s in bad taste. When we’ve been in relationships awhile we wonder if we’re still attractive to the opposite sex. One way we find out is harmless flirting as long as it goes no further. Emotional chatting is cheating in my opinion. Your emotional chats should be with your partner

[PeachyPie93]

Personally I don't see it as a big deal if it isn't physical but if your partner found out and wanted you to stop, could you? That's where the truth lies.. If you secretly go back to it or "can't" stop then yes it's cheating.

[objective_calendar]

Flirting and there's an emotional attachment. Yep.

[kabier]

What if its just chatting and sexting but for fun and no emotional attachment

[objective_calendar]

It's a way of emotional cheating because those are intimate things that you should only do with your partner. Even though there's no physical contact and (as you claim) no emotional attachment you're still cozying upto someone when all of that energy should have been reserved for your partner only.

[midnightmoon05]

would you be okay if she does that with another guy…? Including sexting with him behind your back?

[Nikki1989]

Yes, that can't be sugarcoated no matter how hard some men might try. It is cheating.

[Mark_Est]

At least we can see who the cheaters are.

Of course. Its not even a debate. Things you dont do infront of your partner is cheating.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes. Unless it’s purely confiding in a platonic friend, and in that case there shouldn’t be any flirting

[loveslongnails]

It depends on the sort of flirting or emotional involvement you're talking about. If it's you're an insecure, overly possessive person, even harmless flirting will feel threatening to you.

[RavVid]

I would count it as such if my girlfriend did.

[Taranis_Thunor]

Yes, if I found out my non-existent girlfriend was doing this, I'd feel cucked and heart broken.

[Taranis_Thunor]

I don't think it's technically cheating. It's still gonna make your other half feel jealous and cause relationship problems.

[MariaEve]

The question (isn't did you touch someone?) The question is (Are you breaking the trust and boundaries of your relationship?)

[LC75LC71]

No. Coming home and finding your girl spread open with a dick in her pussy does. Well unless you're into that type of thing..

[AngryCarl3]

It depends on intent. If you're planning to take it further, I would say it is.

[Smileygirl2000]

Depends , how would you feel if someone did that to you?

[Anonymous]

you have to kiss the girl to make it official

[Abbycado]

Yes, it is called emotional cheating.

[foxsquirrell]

I think it defenitley does. It is something which at the very least muddies the purity of loyalty.

[In_Trance]

If your boyfriend was flirting with another guy online, would you think he's cheating on you?

[_xhoxo]

Of course! Think how you would feel if your partner was doing such things behind your back.

[Anonymous]

Is it cheating if you say you're going to do it? It's not cheating then right?

[diamond84]

Yes of course is considered cheating if I found my partner chatting with other women

[DishLady]

Yes.

[usernameobvious]

Potentially

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[_Jenny_]

@kabier No Sexting

[kabier]

I included that as well in my question , I am new user my question was moderated and altered lol

[sage2021]

Yes! It's emotional cheating!!

[molonski2]

Absolutely NOT.. It's even real..

[Neckerif]

Not in my opinion

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

@neckerif Wouldn't you be upset if your SO was flirting with other women online?

[RedInnocent69]

Um, emotional chatting 🤔

[ThisSiteSux]

If you don't cheat, you don't love the game

[naowhat]

one hundred percent

[choco-latte]

Of course

[beenherebefore]

Yes.

[rini02]

Yes.

[wegotthis]

Nah if it's only a joke

[Agape93]

Nope

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, it does.

[kitty91996]

Yes I think it is.