Do you consider flirting online as cheating?

[Anonymous]

I believe it depends upon the boundaries and limitations set up in a relationship.

What do you think?

[Anonymous]

It’s not good by any means. But it could be worse. Much worse. It really depends what it leads to.

I personally hate the concept of virtual relationships. I also especially hate platforms like OF. Hate it. Hate it. Hate it.

If I message a girl romantically it’s because I have full intent of meeting her in person at some point. But there are women who are fully content with virtual attention and to me that’s like eating skittles for meals instead of full meals. Bite or two is sweet but it makes you sick and empty very quick.

[Anonymous]

It depends on each person sees it. I can see a number of people said no. But in your particular situation, would you be ok w your girl doing it? If you’re ok w it than in your case no. Would she be ok w you doing it? Would you type whatever to whoever if she was standing behind you?

[Anonymous]

I think that depends on the relationship. If my partner and I hadn't already talked about our feelings on flirting beforehand, then I'd see it as cheating if they were flirting online, because they had to have known that was dubious. But if we talked about it and agreed ahead of time, I'd be fine with it. It is something I find fun, but I'd never do it without my partner's permission, so I hold them to the same standard I hold myself to.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think it is cheating. Flirting seems to be showing sexual interest in someone at best. You shouldn't be trying to attract another person; it just shows you aren't satisfied with what you have and your partner. If you did then you wouldn't feel the need to go seek out other people.

[Apple1996]

Nah flirting is no big deal. As long as it doesn't turn to anything physical

[Asker]

Thanks. That's very reassuring 😅

[Juxtapose]

You do realize there is such a thing as emotional cheating, right?

[Apple1996]

@Juxtapose true but personally only physical cheating would bother me. And even then I'd only be upset if my partner hid it instead of just asking for a open relationship

[JHAYES317]

Nah flirting online is cheating, especially if they went out of their way to talk to that person on a dating site…

[Apple1996]

@JHAYES317 on a dating site is definitely cheating cuz that's searching for a partner at that point

[RavenDarkheart]

It’s a “foot in the door” to something more. You start letting someone get a piece of your heart, flirting can lead to trying to meet and that can lead to other more serious problems.

To get back on track, if you let someone other than your partner have part of your heart and mind, online or physical, yes it is cheating.

[IslaTheWitch]

I don't consider flirting as cheating, online or in person

[Asker]

Can we have more of you? 😅

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm not sure if the world is ready for more me... lol

[Asker]

You can always rule on them lol

[JHAYES317]

It depends on how overt it is…if it could be disguised as being friendly ok…but if it’s really obvious then that’s definitely cheating

[WhiteSteve]

I’d say don’t do anything your partner wouldn’t be comfortable with, just as a general rule. But I also wouldn’t think it was necessarily the end of the world, unless it was progressing into something more serious.

[LiamJHayden]

In "cheating" scenarios really all that matters is wht the partner thinks. If he or she thinks it is, it really won't matter if you get 90% of others who disagree.

[SolitarySolace]

Absolutely. God, there are so many ways to cheat and not enough reasons to stay together… This is why I’m so content being single for 9 years now

[SotiCoto]

It shows the intent to cheat, though not necessarily cheating itself.

[TonyMetal___86]

If i was married than no flirting at all, in means of over limits

[Juxtapose]

If you have to ask, it's probably wrong.. which this is lol.

You're showing interest in another person and disrespecting your partner and low-cucking them.

[Nikki1989]

If it becomes sexual, yes.

[Asker]

Which I believe it eventually does.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Any flirting is cheating

[BarryLiverstone]

If your partner is unaware then it is

[OtterMan68]

yes, what's the purpose of flirting?

[JayBones]

I'm a sociopath. I don't care if it's cheating

[Juxtapose]

If you want people to care about you you should at least pretend to not be a sociopath.

[JayBones]

Why would I want that and I'm to old to pretend

[Juxtapose]

Because it's practical to get people to like you even if you get no emotional fulfillment from it. They will do more for you and even sacrifice for you if they like you enough.

I am autistic and grew up with affective empathy but not cognitive empathy, you likely faced the inverse being a sociopath. Some of my closest friends are sociopaths and they benefit from my bond with them.

[Juxtapose]

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I personally find the yin yang relationship between autistic people and sociopaths to be rather interesting.

[Juxtapose]

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[Juxtapose]

Wow this shit really does not want to embed.

[JayBones]

Yeah I used charm a lot growing up and had many friends. I just don't need it anymore. I am very interested in this yin yang ☯️ thing I'll look into it. I got along real well with an autistic guy at work. We had the same sense of humor.

[JayBones]

And by humor I think he said some shit that he meant dead serious and it was hilarious

[Juxtapose]

Haha yeah autistic people don't have as thin skin as most people my experience and are willing to delve into offensive and dark humor.

I do think that yin yang thing between autistic people and sociopaths is interesting and autistic people could be interesting friends for you.

[Juxtapose]

Even if you're a sociopath you probably still crave social interaction.

[Anonymous]

Yes, especially if it gets sexual.

[Anonymous]

yes … relationships have boundaries.

[Kelley1]

I do not.

[JHAYES317]

Why not?

[Kelley1]

@JHAYES317 Because it might be something I will want to do; therefore, it is not cheating.

[JHAYES317]

So because you want to do it, that means it’s not cheating…lady that’s not how it works…if you want to fuck a guy, just because you want to do it doesn’t mean it’s not cheating if you are in a relationship

[Kelley1]

@JHAYES317 You have your rules and I have mine. Besides my rules don't include FKing other men unless justified.

[JHAYES317]

There’s no way to justify that unless you are in a polyamorous relationship where all sides agree to the terms

[Kelley1]

@JHAYES317 There are a number of justifiable reasons. Suppose we are having difficulty having a baby due to his low sperm count. Or else, suppose he has a genetic defect. Then, of course, I am justified to FK another man to have a baby or to decrease the genetic risk. Moreover, suppose he gains so much weigh that he no longer sexually appeals to me. In that case, I would be justified to FK a guy that does. Besides, I would have no obligation to tell him.

[JHAYES317]

Yeah god forbid any man dates you

[Kelley1]

@JHAYES317 That is a silly statement. I am not lacking in guys that want to date me.

[Billlewis]

Oh, we believe you, ma'am.

[billmunch]

No, not at all

[jaskin777]

Yes I do

[butterly248]

Yeah

[Zestyassmf1997]

Yeah.

[Akam93]

Nope

[JHAYES317]

Why not?