Do you consider casual flirting with other people while being in a relationship, cheating?

Question

If you want please explain your opinion. (Why yes, or why no)

Dalton57 · Accepted Answer

Flirting is a mating behaviour. Of course it's cheating.

It can be harmless IMHO. Two people meet and have an instant attraction to each other and they chat it up a bit. Giggling, all smiles, they only have eyes for each other. For a couple of minutes or so and then that's it. Forever. IMHO this happens all the time.

It's not deliberate but it's still cheating. I think any same person can forgive this and get over it eventually. Especially when they realize they can be guilty of the same thing.

If your SO flirts with others on a regular basis, maybe to the point that you dread going out to public places with them, as a guy maybe it starts to kill your sex drive. You are all hard ready to go then this image pops into your head and that's it.

This kind of behaviour tells your SO that you are not good enough for them. They are still looking for that special someone. The more flirting that goes on, the harder your SO is working to find your replacement.

Take it up a level to physical contact, another level to exposing or drawing attention to one's body parts, another level to caressing, kissing.

it's a spectrum.

oldasIfeel22 · Accepted Answer

It’s a gradation of cheating. Definitely not the same as going the whole nine yards.

It works like this:

Staring at someone else: often rude but somewhat understandable. Forgivable.

Casually flirting: much more rude: Forgivable if it happened maybe once or twice and your partner doesn’t ever see the person again

Kissing someone else: definitely crossing the line here. Can be forgiven if it was a stupid mistake while being drunk at a party but still very bad. If your partner doesn’t sincerely feel guilt for this it’s break up time.

Playing around with genitals: goodbye (extremely rare exceptions for this)

All out sex: if you stay with your partner after after you found out about this then the problem is on YOU not them. Nobody self respecting man or woman would tolerate this. But I see people bending over for this all the time.

Now there are some extremely rare exceptions where one partner had “cuckolding” fetishes. But that’s different because it was out on the table.

crazyish · Accepted Answer

Casual flirting is now sex.. damn I'm a huge ho.. I even flirt with strangers😲

I honestly don't even have an argument against how ridiculous this sounds to me. I will definitely question people who say they've been 'cheated' on now.

What's considered casual flirting these days? Smiling at someone? Saying hi? Having a laugh? Complimenting someone? Hugging?

I have a flirty personality. I flirt in front of whoever I'm with. I don't get jealous if they flirt in front of me. If someone is only flirting behind your back then obviously they think its wrong, then yeah maybe you have reason to be a little worried that they might eventually cheat.

msbrightness · Accepted Answer

Not if it doesn't lead anywhere.

At the end of the day loyalty is a decision. There is trouble in meeting someone new you might like, appreciate - when you like and appreciate (and love) the person you are already with - and when you would choose them again.

It's a bit unfair on your flirt, to not give them the room to get all of you - but you can't belong to two people (unless they agree for it to be that way)

Apope16 · Answer

if its not cheating its disrespectful. do not do this!

TruthBringer · Answer

Yes, it is cheating. If you're going to act single, then stay single.

Once you're in a relationship, there are boundaries that needed not to be crossed. Have some self-respect and some respect for your relationship by NOT directly or indirectly inviting unncessary drama and backdoor problems into your relationship. Someone who flirts "casually" behind their partner's back is obviously not to be trusted. It is also a clear sign that you're not serious about the relationship. And no person who respects themselves will continue being with you.

dangerDoge · Answer

I think it’s a matter of semantics at this point. It’s like if I gave you a stack of papers with a story/words written on it, and then I asked you if it was a book. It may not “technically” be a book, but it surely is on its way to being considered one.

I wouldn’t consider it cheating by the prototypical definition, but that doesn’t mean I condone it by any means. I think if you’re in a relationship, you shouldn’t be flirting around. To note, I also consider flirting slightly different from just being joking/playful in conversation. Flirting has an intent and it has some sexual undertone to it. Even if the intent isn’t full-out sex (as per casual flirting), I still consider it wrong, since it implies trying to get some sort of sexual satisfaction as the end goal.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not cheating , but it can lead into problems , and it’s disrespectful to your relationship and your partner by accepting fire into your relationship , why it’s best to not casually flirt if you are in a relationship , a person that flirts when they are in a relationship are only thinking of themselves they aren’t thinking of the repercussions that it could lead even though your intentions are not to cause harm , it can , why it’s best to not do so. People that have to casually flirt while in a relationship , shouldn’t be in a relationship period.

virtue2332 · Answer

I worked in nursing and was surrounded by women and I occasionally casually flirted to gain favors or influence. I was in a great relationship and cheating was far from my mind it was more for comedic effect practice if you will. The second your relationship turns bad and you start confiding in your flirt body or the sexual tension to grow it is going to be next to impossible to refrain from cheating. So my rule is not to put myself in a situation where it becomes possible. It's never with it sexually or emotionally

redcheeks · Answer

Its not "cheating" cause its "harmless". While this may be true, has anyone ever thought of the consequences if you do?

Relationship needs commitment. Not just to commit yourself in being loyal but in so many things, like only present your flirty side to your partner.

Consequences. Yes to you who does it, you may not think much about it. The person you are flirting to? Some might take it seriously. Some will see that as something and do things like stalk you or touch you. Some won't see the line of you being in a rs and will disrespect it. And so on.

Altho yes there are others who knows how to draw the line, there are others who don't know.

"Having a goalkeeper doesn't mean you can't score." This is what you potray to people if you flirt in a rs fyi.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

No because you can flirt without it being sexual and also actually state you are married etc and simply flirt.

it can simply just be a good way of having a laugh.

giving compliments etc is part of flirting.

Now if you try and move it past casual flirting, then yeah you are in danger of cheating or at least hitting that trust and respect thing you have with your partner.

friendzoned4life · Answer

Yes, I also see it as mental abuse.

See a guy like me doesn't get a lot of flirting.
When in a bar the female bartender flirts with you, you know it's fake.

But if a random girl does it and she is attractive too. Then I will get false hope that I actually have a shot with her. So casual flirting is a huge red flag. If you are my girlfriend and A guy tries to hit on you, you're reaction decides if I break up. And if you flirt in back in the ligthest way possible you're out.

And I am not gonna decide something else no. matter what you say or how hard you cry.

Learned my lesson.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

NO i won't. THats completely okay to casual flirt with other girls for guys esp if the person is handsome-hunk. Coz at first instance girls around him cannot know whether he is in a realtionship and when lot of girls signal you the way you read in books and dreamed off and you think that its easy to pass time with these girls and manage your own relation then its not cheating anywhich ways flirting promotes healthy ways of communication and its for anygirl to decide if she like it or not it won't really matter to the girl if the guy is already in a realtionship.
YOu can have multiple times sex with someone and not develop feeling for the person and you can love someone else and fuck someone else

Daniela1982 · Answer

It may not be cheating but it still is a dick move. And guess what, flirting is the beginning of cheating in the heart because it is a temptation and not everyone can withstand a temptation. You may start out in just doing it for fun but but like a lot of things fun intentions can turn into more serious intentions and before you know it you are drawn into cheating. People who flirt just to tease are dick weeds.

NorthAfrican · Answer

Definition of flirting " to behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions.
"she began to tease him, flirting with other men in front of him"".

Flirting is leading someone on, making them think you have sexual interest.
So even if it's not cheating, it's very disrespectful.

Aethereal · Answer

I voted "yes", but my answer is really dependent on what you establish as cheating with your partner. If you've both established that flirting is okay, it's not a problem. If one or both of you have indicated that flirting would make them uncomfortable/unhappy, then flirting, be it casual or serious, is cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

Story time:

Back in 2013 my then girlfriend and I went to an anime convention in our city. She wasn't all that into anime but wanted to go anyway. While we were there, I started up a conversation with this other girl about an upcoming anime that was debuting in Japan and we kinda laughed a little. Well my then girlfriend got really upset and pulled me aside and said what i was doing was "basically cheating." Like what does that even mean? I just was just making casual conversation with someone who happened to be female and you're upset about it? Did you think I was gonna dump you on the spot and take her? Sheesh.

Sometimes I really don't understand what goes through a woman's mind sometimes.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Without the intention of anything else of course not. However it could still be upsetting to someone. But honestly that's them been insecure. Not misplaced insecurity tbf. One cannot read someone's mind to know the intention. But i feel like a lot of people have the ability to kinda wager what's seems too much especially if it's a person you know what they act like and are their partner.

tuvwxyz · Answer

I told women before I do it back, experience has been those who make light of it are much less in favor once on the receiving end, often it's more a "have my cake and eat it too" idea - I enjoy attention, you should accept that, but get jealous when you do it, therefore you shouldn't (i. e. everything is about me and my feelings)

Billyscotter · Answer

If one is in a relationship, they're better off not casually flirting. With all flirting, it's about drawing others in with romantic/sexual temptation. Drawing people in that one isn't interested in may be empowering drawing people in, but it's selfish.

RingOfFire · Answer

Yes, it's cheating.

You should not feel the need to express that kind of interest in anyone else or the desire to project the appearance that you are open to a relationship with someone else. If you do, your relationship has a problem.

Also, and girls might not understand this, when you flirt with a guy, to the guy that is a serious invitation to pursue you. It's not just a casual thing to a guy. They are always on the hunt and when a girl does this, he takes it seriously.

RachelBrooke · Answer

Yes it is. Stealing from a store and saying you were borrowing is still stealing. The same thing applies. Just have casual sex if you’re not going to stay loyal.

BLMUSER · Answer

It depends.
I've read that handsome men and beautiful women love the attention of the opposite sex. Well, they love the attention of all people. And many of them aren't willing to give that up even if they are in a relationship. So if you are in a relationship with a beautiful person, you have to accept this.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

No, it's not cheating. Being flirty is a type of communication that establishes between some people. Of course it's stupid to talk that way with someone in presence of your partner, because awaking doubts is the best way to destroy your relationship. However if it's only flirty or suggestive talk without proposals for meeting, it's not cheating.

Littlemissbrat · Answer

You'd be pissed if your SO did it to you, so why be a hypocrite and do it? You're clearly not happy in the relationship and are also a pos if doing that while in a relationship. I said what I said.

Poppymarie · Answer

I wouldn’t consider this cheating but I certainly wouldn’t do it if I was in a relationship. Even if it’s not infidelity it’s still hurtful to your partner, and I wouldn’t want to do that to them.

Shihab91 · Answer

not cheating technically but very close and it's not nice, flirting should be with your partner only for many different reasons.

- you might hurt your partner, if you flirting with many people does that mean sex is what makes me your partner?

- it might give an idea that you aren't serious about your relationship and you are an attention seeker.

if my partner does this the whole time it's a deal-breaker to me for sure.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Tier 1 of it. Then you have tier 5, which is sexting. Next we’ve got Tier 11 which would be non-sexual physical contact like cuddling and handholding. After that there’s Tier 99 which is having sex with them. And lastly there’s Tier 001 which is an Unofficial Harem. YOU STAY AWAY FROM THAT!
Huaw Huaaaw, Hua Ha - Hra Hra Hua Ha He, He Hua Hua AAa Huaauh. You need to have multiple voices to understand which I’m probably the only living thing that does who isn’t in Heaven.

itsmicaelaxo · Answer

It's not cheating. But if it's done on purpose and consciously it's definitely wrong, disrespectful towards your partner and a major red flag

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

While I don't consider it cheating, I'm not gonna act like it doesn't bother me. I know some people have naturally flirty personalities but it should definitely be toned down when in a relationship

Crazyb33 · Answer

It’s not cheating but if there flirting in any way with someone else it usually leads to more then flirting. Plus it’s disrespectful and hurtful to there partner

ohshee · Answer

There are different types of flirt from innocent to full-blown but if you're in a relationship why even do it I mean to me I wouldn't want it done to me so I can't do it somebody else

Miristheiss · Answer

I would end it if she was flirting with other guys.

honeylover21 · Answer

my opinion is if u flirt with someone you don't have to have sex with them some people are attractived to people and it doesn't lead to sex

LiamSawyer · Answer

Very casual flirting without furthers desires is not cheating, but anything that will lead to more is cheating, even before more happens.

Ninjazzed · Answer

Why would you flirt with them in the first place? That’s only going to lead to cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

Cheating is sex. That doesn't mean evrrything up to that is ok and harmless but words have meanings. Lets stick to them or we won't know where the fuck we are.

MyNameJames · Answer

Banter isn't flirting so banter isn't cheating. But if you're dating one person and flirting with another, you gotta cut it out.

Adam1978 · Answer

It really depends on the context of the flirting. It shouldn't be sexual.

crazy8000 · Answer

Sort of. Tells more where I have her and what kind of feelings she really have. ( she can consider herself single since she doesn't have what's needed)

WalkingBassist · Answer

See, I don't consider that cheating, but it's definitely not ok. Especially if they are doing it in front of you. It also could be a way for the partner to drum up a little bit of jealousy, so that you'll pay more attention to them.

es20490446e · Answer

It depends on the intent. If it is just to make a spicy joke, or to actually seduce the other person.

CreamySeed · Answer

Id say any intimate contact is cheating, neck kissing making out etc but even a hand holding is fine by me. Harmless flirting is no big deal words dont make babies

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Flirting is signaling that you are open to more intimate, potentially sexual, contact.

Iron_Man · Answer

No but it will piss me off if I see my girlfriend doing it

Anonymous · Answer

Duh you can’t go around disrespecting me and flirting with other women...

Anonymous · Answer

Literally any action you do that you would not openly do in front of your partner is cheating.

If you hug a coworker that you wouldn’t feel comfortable hugging in front of your partner... you are uncomfortable for a reason

LeoElias · Answer

It says in the bible looking at anyone man or in this case flirting would be considered infidelity. It's not good.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes if it causes sexua friction. You will come back to that person once you're single

BigManSAB · Answer

Affairs don’t start in the bedroom. When you’re casually flirting it can only lead to one thing!

Marhaban-1 · Answer

If the person had a flirty personality then no I would not say it was

Browneye57 · Answer

No. Everybody flirts. Mature adults - which you are not there yet - know what to act on.

jamesgoldman · Answer

In sales a touch of flirting is a requirement to clinch a deal so no it's not cheating

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Women are fucking stupid and actually think flirting is cheating but will defend fucking another dude as not a big deal.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

I don't consider it cheating. I do however consider it unwise and a major red flag.

Joshua0213 · Answer

No I wouldn't, as long as she doesn't do it in front of me often

Anonymous · Answer

Shady behaviour that is counter to the aspirations of relationship trust

Open2It · Answer

Not at all but one should be careful how far they should go with the flirting as well.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Flirting is a red flag but not cheating. A kiss and sex can be considered as such

Anonymous · Answer

Its no big deal if you think your relationship is going south and beyond repair.

oralqueen · Answer

No, that's just fun flirting.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm leaning towards Yes.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

For a man, no. For a woman, yes.

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