Who's more picky about the appearance of the opposite gender?

Question

do you think boys are more choosy when it comes to how their girlfriends should look?  or do you think girls are more choosy about their boyfriends' appearance?

Funkster76 · Accepted Answer

Probably men are more likedly to be choosy, but not for the reasons I have read.

Physical appearance is one thing. But its personality that keeps them attracted.

Guys tend to be more confident on average than girls or mabye just less concerned about thier appearance car and what anyone thinks. Most women I know are always second guesing themselves and looking for approval. Its not only a turn off, but annoying.

If your never happy or saticefied with yourself why would others be?

A 95lb woman gains 5 lbs and starts to worry about her figure where a guy is 60lbs over weight and is showing off his beer gut.

I will stick by these words to the day I die. Women look thier best and are thier sexiest at 36 because they are now confident in thier appearance, abilities, know how to tease and don't play games. if they want you they will take the bull by the horn and let you know.

They don't have to show all thier assets to get a guy, because they are far more confident in themselves and thier abilities as well as self worth.

Now that is sexy and attractive.

TexPlayboy · Accepted Answer

Men are more judgmental about physical appearance. Women are more likely to consider personality, character and looks in equal parts. Men are shallow and looks are more important than anything else. So a woman can get away with being a total bitch if she looks great.

A man's ego is the reason he is so interested in an attractive woman. He will feel better about himself if he is seen with a hot looking girl. Typically a man is not worried about whether she makes good money, or has good social skills. Where a woman will factor those things in because it effects her sense of security.

I hope this helps you better understand the complexity of our inert choices in the opposite sex.

Good Luck.

James

shadowcat517 · Accepted Answer

Personally, I've gone after guys that are below what I'd actually like on the attractiveness scale simply because I liked their personality.

Whenever I ask a guy friend what he likes about his girlfriend, one of the first three things has to do with her looks. With my girl friends, I usually get a lot of things, and sometimes nothing about looks (especially with some of the guys I've seen them date). There are some guys that aren't even remotely cute, but have good personalities, with girlfriends. while I have some girl friends that, although not ugly at all, aren't gorgeous, but have awesome personalities, and still can't get boyfriends.

So, I'm gonna have to go with boys, if just based on personal experience.

mochamix · Accepted Answer

well in the kingdom of animal its showy males and choosy females

but in the kingdom of humans its showy females and choosy males

girls like to show their curves and flaunt them and guys droll over that as easy as that

as for personal experience I have been with less attractive guys than I am and like couple of better looking guys. normally I would try to go for a guy whos equally attractive so that none of us would feel insecure about looks because looks now are way more important than anything for society , they always say they look great together they never say they seem like their personalities are good together!

Besu4 · Accepted Answer

I work on a horse ranch ,in the barn, and I am the only girl here, and I can tell you that guys expect far more from a woman's appearance than a woman does of a man's. That is not to say there aren't vapid and shallow women out there. But we also know that a man would rather have a dumb woman with a bad attitude as long as she is hot over the homely girl who has a higher IQ and is nicer. The latter will end up being the "friend" while the prior will be the girlfriend. Believe me when I say I have heard what men say when a woman is out of ear shot, and it is not flattering or friendly, even if he was nice to her face.

recon1234 · Answer

Well I met my girlfriend about 5 years ago...we were just good friends, I've always been a big guy about 330 lbs, she's petite size small or x-small, I'm 6'3" and she's 5'6" perfect hourglass figure...anyways she's been my girlfriend for about 2 months we are finally together after 5 years of knowing each other...I get told every time I am a lucky guy and indeed I am...yet personality counts 90% of the time...looks are a factor. It don't matter if you tall, fat, short...if you know how to carry yourself out in your personality, the way you dress, and positivism you'll good vibes...trust me I know. Guys are more picky on how their gf's look, because we like to show off to other guys.

Strangest · Answer

I think boys, because of myself.

I know this sounds so evil, but I won't choose a girl for the simplest factors.

I exclude you if you:

Are a certain race. (Mostly because the shape of face. You might be lucky though.)

Hair style and hair length doesn't fit my taste. (Don't like short hair. Tied up hair might not fit your face.)

Education status. (Must actually be successful or getting there.)

Body shape (Not fat, not skinny where you look all bone. I also hate big breasts and big butts.

Height (Taller than me is scary, 1/2 my size means your a dwarf.)

And most of all...

Must of a cute face.

Me being so picky, I can still find plenty of girls that are like this, I live in NYC so there is a large selection because of a large population. Living and growing up in an environment like this is what probably made me this way. haha

I might sound mean, but I hate to lie.

Kanqaz · Answer

Girls are, Girls are the ones who care about looks, ever notice how you always see girls dating hot guys? But you see a lot of guys with ugly girls, know why? Because the girls have SEX with them. Guys only care about sex, and girls only care about looks.

Girls will say they care about personality, but that's bullsh*t, they're just trying to be those innocent little angels that everyone makes them out to be. I f***ing hate girls! Thank GOD for GAY MEN! Which btw, there IS more gay men then gay women on the earth, I'm not surprised.

Ans so what if someone only care about sex, or looks? It's just preference, but, so is personality.

Plus it's hard to like girls for their personality these days, because they're such stupid, bitchy sluts. Or a lot of them are at least.

Tamikaze · Answer

In your teens and early twenties, girls and guys are neck and neck for the most part in placing high value on looks.  After that, girls tend to place more emphasis on the guy being financially stable and ready to settle down (party boys need not apply), plus mother nature starts taking a toll on some guys, who may be losing their hair or gaining a beer belly.  I would say by late 20's girls are definitely not placing high emphasis on looks.  They may also have a bad taste in their mouth for the good looking romeos who are more of a headache than they are worth.

Littletad · Answer

Boys are definitely more selective yes. Looks and weight are the first thing a guy will notice about a girl. And girls are more likely to notice a guys looks as well, but just as you said, they are more likely to overlook imperfections in regard to appearance. They instead notice other things about a guy that deal with personality.

In my opinion, everyone is different, but I do feel men are more picky.

Yurippe · Answer

Considering the girls around me (who I really don't want to be friends with) who keep walking around saying, "Oh gosh, you like this dude?! He's SOOOOO not cute!", I'd say girls pay attention to looks so much I can only call them shallow anymore. The only time it doesn't seem to matter is when the guy has money.

Of course, they're are exceptions. I'd rather go for personality, but I don't mind someone attractive. According to scientist, we tend to fall for people our own attraction level, though. Hm...

Curiouschicagoguy28 · Answer

Wow, I can't believe these answers. Women are FAR more selective than guys especially when they are younger. They have an image in their mind about what a guy should look like, how tall he is, and how great they will look as a couple. There are some guys who are like as well but those tend to be the really attractive guys.  Guys tend to care more about a girl putting out than what she looks like on the outside. Girls also are far more competitive with their friends than guys are, which means they fear dating a guy who isn't attractive enough because their friends will talk about them behind their backs.

nice_guy7 · Answer

I think girls are MUCH MUCH pickier when it comes to looks and physique. I am a fairly thin guy, not skinny but not buff at all and I find that having this body crosses me off the list of at least 80% of all women out there. fortunately some really like my frame. I find with girls they have these specific things that are automatic dealbreakers and guys don't do that. For us it is like, would I have sex with her? yes, okay she is datable (from a physical standpoint that is, we obviously look for many other qualities). Like so many girls literally refuse to date a guy shorter than them. talk about shallow!

I have heard many girls go through a checklist and tick off all the things the guy has that they like and then it comes to one thing like he isn't tall enough or doesn't have a perfect body and that is enough not to date him!

women always think they deserve perfection.

Miss-May · Answer

Basicly to me a guy doesn't have to be hot but I don't want him to be ugly either, a moderate guy with a moderate girl like me is fine :) but guys don't aproach me or talk to me at all just becuase I wear glasses. Glasses don't make me a nerd, I'm not very smart at all, not to mention personality is on my list, I have high standards for personality, and I won't go out with just anyone, I will want to know the person for a set amount of time before I would even think of saying yes. In my opinion guys are more picky, BECAUSE all guys care about is having sex, and also how their 'meat' looks. On average a male from 12+ thinks about his penis every 4 minutes, acording to a fact book, but I wouldn't know becuase I'm not male.

stu003 · Answer

From the boys point of view, we are just as choosy about what girls look like as girls do about guys, maybe even more.  The difference is guys will overlook things and (sorry but its true) "keep their eyes on the prize".  Example: if a guy wears something really ugly a girl might just walk away but if a girl wears something ugly, guys usually will not care at all as long as she keeps talking to them.  But guys will never admit to it

MoeMoe · Answer

I would have to say women are far far more picky, actually overly obsessively picky about men's appearance especially when it comes to men's height. GAWD these past say 5 years or so many single women are so ULTRA picky that it's a pure detriment to them. Men no matter their height RUN from ultra picky women. Of course both men and women need to have standards but REASONABLE STANDARDS! If women have the "list", the "requirements" that she states she won't budge and he must meet this 15 to 30 page "requirement", refuses to have any flexibility will be single FOREVER until they get into reality get their standards "reasonable" and flexible.

motocat · Answer

It's simply a biological imperative in evolution:  Males look for healthy looking females, and many as possible.  Women, having a limit on how many children they can bear -- place greater emphasis on security.  Yes, there are many exceptions to this general rule, but we are talking generalities here, and unbiased observation will bear this out.

audreymarie21 · Answer

i voted for A because you see a lot more couples with a hot girl & ugly guy, but not many couples with a hot guy & ugly girl.

princessevils · Answer

Men marry women expecting them not to change and Women marry a man expecting to change him. Men are highly visual creatures. But they all tell me, lots of male friends, they don't notice the extra pounds, the stretch marks, all the things we worry about.

armyant · Answer

What's interesting about this poll is that like in just about every poll on the site that tries to find a link between a gender and some undesirable but immeasurable quality, the clear majority of women vote on behalf of the 'home team' while the male vote falls roughly equally, like here.  I think THAT says something.

RedBubbleZzz · Answer

short term relationship wise , guys care more .. a lot more! and a hot girl is a must! .. while long term wise talkin , nope they don't as much , or maybe equally . I've seen handsome guys MARRIED to not that pretty ladies , but I don't really see ugly girls with hot guys for one night stand .. okay fine one week stand!

Grayman716 · Answer

Men are more likely to place more value on a woman how looks good, this is proven.  But women are just as there male counterparts are, but in different ways.  Many women are looking for status, with in a partner as well as money to give them a sense of stability and security.  It is just as shallow as us guys but just in a different way.  The end result is that for men are looks play a lot less of a role in relationships then women's do.

mynameisjamie · Answer

Overall, guys for sure are more selective based on looks. For me, as long as I don't think of the guy as "ugly", if he has a good personality then I'll like him. I'm also not in to the guys most girls would consider "hot". I don't like guys who are too in demand, they get cocky and don't think they have to treat girls with much respect and think they can just go on to a different girl . . .ugh . .. different subject haha I'll go now ;)

peace-love-couture · Answer

Guys

Guys will pay more attention to a hot girl than a girl with a nice personality and isn't so attractive,guys will treat a hot girl better than a not s good looking girl.

And I thnk it's funny how guys keep bringing up the girls looking for "hot guys" YOu realize teenage girls and boys are all shallow right?

SemiShy · Answer

I think it's guys up until the point when they give up on trying to get a hot girl and they just go "Fuck it, ugly chicks have vaginas, too."

tyrantfuryre · Answer

Men with out a doubt. Women have more feelings than men so they look for feelings and personality more so than anything...however this is also their downfall as it clouds their vision and allows for them to make more mistakes because of past experiences that have gone wrong due to bad judgment.

cjwright79 · Answer

People without souls tend to go for looks. Since men generally have no souls, they go for looks.

Anonymous · Answer

I think guys are.  Initially we may have high standards but we can over look it and grow to love it if we really like the guy.  Guys are more like if you're not up to his standards he might sleep with you but you won't be relationship material for him.

LittlePrincess94 · Answer

Girls standards are way too high, boys have higher standards in fantasy land, but when it comes dowm to the moment, they don't do so good.

TheFatTwig · Answer

I think as far as dating, guys are more prone to want a hottie.  As far as sex, as long as the other person has the right parts, it's all kind of the same.

jenlovee · Answer

personally guys aren't as picky as a girl. a guy could have sex with anything. whether they are cute or ugly lol.

moviedude714 · Answer

Well then why do you see girls that have boyfriends who are in the Military or Athletes? Duh! because they are good-looking, in shape, girls are just as shallow and picky about looks, appearences, as guys are.

confused4now · Answer

Girls, for sure.  Where do you think the phrase "she's doable" came from?

Cassandra_x3 · Answer

I think both genders are pretty shallow.

All people go for someone because of initial physical attraction. You stay with them based off personality.

Of course, it depends on your standards. Usually good looking men want good looking women and vice versa.

There's the "hot couple", the "nerd couple", etc...

obscene · Answer

guys are more selective about looks girls just care abut the money honestly, I don't really know, but I wanted to see the results

jerseyse410 · Answer

ive always felt that girls are more based on looks rather than guys, at least in my case. I could be seriously wrong though.

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

it's guys. they look if we are skinny, if we have nice skin, if we have nice hair. that's why some girls are so paranoid about appearances

stevo · Answer

I think it's more guys than girls, but it can go either way. Still, the guys are more picky.

Enideqa · Answer

I think that it really depends on the person, I don't know if I could give a different answer then that.

lefthand · Answer

actually, I think girls are much harder on women's appearance.

Anonymous · Answer

Girls are insane anymore. Influenced by MTV. You can be the nicest guy. The second she sees somebody with more money or better looking you get cheated on and dumped. Girls by far. You all are hoez

jacquesvol · Answer

Girls and guys are just as picky when it comes to looks but it takes a more adult attitude to get over that and girl have adult attitudes sooner .

ALIgator · Answer

Guys are way more selective... girls just want a good guy

justaroo · Answer

i don't go fo the best looking ones , I asume that good looking chicks are bitches

MadHatterni · Answer

depends on the person, not the sex...

Anonymous · Answer

I think boys are more picky. they go for looks more than girls do...and they always underestimate girls.

Pancakes · Answer

I think men and women are equally judgmental.

vsss223 · Answer

boys are more picky !

Ironpanther12 · Answer

Boys by FAR

wally · Answer

I would go with A.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really.

Anonymous · Answer

guys, hands down

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