Why do girls always ask about what kinda job you have and how much you make?

Not all girls are after the money. I don't need his money--I am in PA school studying to be a surgical PA and will be making at least $150,000 a year once I get out. This is more than some guys make, and I don't flaunt it because I see it as virtually irrelevant in a relationship (with the exception of a scenario where I was in a VERY serious relationship or engaged to the guy--then he'd need to know ) but other than that, I don't see the need to bring it up, and you don't need to feel pressured to either, even if someone asks.

Personally, I think it's very rude and demonstrates a lack of respect as well as ignorance on the girl's part to ask a guy what his yearly income is. If a girl does this, she's probably got her priorities all wrong and isn't good dating material. Drop her/them like a red hot coal and move on! There are much better women to be had out there.

To me, it's more the concept of an independent man who's really got his life together--and these men are generally (not always) the ones who have the biggest bank accounts. The numbers are just that--numbers. I can usually tell after spending only a very short time with a guy whether or not he's my type. If he is well-off, it's an added bonus, but certainly not at the top of my list of priorities.

I find pie-in-the-sky men who are waiting around for money to fall into their laps very unattractive and definitely not dating material. This is a sign of immaturity, and sadly, since it doesn't usually go away as the guy gets older, it's actually more of a character flaw. Mamma's boys who plan to live at home until they are at least 30 are the other big no-no in my book. I expect the guy to date to have the potential to be the head of his own household--and again, these two types of men tend to be the ones who don't make a lot of money. They are losers; not because they are not rich, but because they don't work hard and make the most of what they've got.

But if I met a good man who was independent, frugal, and in control of his life and yet didn't make a whole lot of money, I wouldn't be turned away by that. In fact, as long as he's smart and isn't lazy and we have enough common interests that we can carry on a good conversation, I could care less about how much he makes.

Good luck! If I didn't answer your question completely, or if you have other questions, please comment! Thanks.

~Katie~

once upon a time, a man didn't even court a woman if he didn't think he could provide for her. unfortunately in this era there are so many scandels and scams that a woman has to make sure she will be taken care of, not swindeled for everything she has worked to have. I'm only 22, and I might date a guy that made only 20 thousand a year, but I would not marry him unless he found a better paying job, you can't even buy a house with that and apartment living is definately not my lifelong dream.

to ask how much you make on a first or even second date is a bit tacky, but asking what you do for a living is not. what you do is part of who you are and asking is a way of getting to know you. say you are 35 and work as a sonic car hop or a pizza delivery guy, I would guess that you were not ambitious at all and probably didn't even graduate high school, where as if you were a technical engineneer, that would show some gumption and education.

just keep in mind that not all women are gold diggers, some just want to be taken care of or just simply not mooched off of.

I don't think it's bad for a girl to ask what you do, but asking a man how much he makes is just tacky! If she's asking you does it pay good then that's a dead giveaway that her main thing is having a guy with money.

I want to know what a guy does and what his education level is so I can see where he's at in life. But then again, I'm 20. If I was 30-35 I wouldn't date a man who only made $20k a year either because that says a lot about him. There are people my age who make more than that, so there really isn't an excuse for a 35 yo man making that low pay. That tells me that he probably has no ambition and wasted away his life. I would be thinking to myself, "What the hell is wrong with him?" and I wouldn't want to date him either.

But like I said, you can tell that kind of stuff about a guy without directly asking how much he makes. If a girl even asks that if she barely knows you then she's a golddigger. She should ask you what you do and where you went to school.