Question for Guys - he's 38 I'm 19

How about input from someone his age! Sure the age gap is big but isn't age a state of mind? For all the male kiddos bashing this... just how many would refuse a date with lets say Elizabeth Hurley or Pam Anderson there in their 40's now and no male on this site would refuse a date with them. Hiding the relationship implicates your doing something wrong and if you can't justify why your together to your friends or his friends then that is where there is a problem. Also he is your boss, and that's never any good.

I'm 43 and I have been out with a girl who was 19 and to be honest there wasn't a lot we had in common, I also went out and briefly dated a girl who was 24 and we hit it off beautifully, she was very mature for her age and quite frankly enjoyed someone who didn't drink beer out of a funnel till they passed out! She move for a job though.

Don't be afraid to go for it if you like him, but refuse to be his little secret. If you two are compatible then prove it to all your friends! If he wants to hide it then drop him fast, he is just using you to boost his ego.

Generally, the rule of thumb is 1st and foremost is it legal? (I.e no underage thing like that). Then, I've heard half your age +7 is the lowest you can go, so for you it would 19/2 = 9.5+7 = 16. But I don't know about the age gap on the other end. Maybe twice your age minus 7? 19 x 2 = 38 - 7 = 31.

But if you have to hide it, its probably not cool anyway.