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I don't know yet but my best guess at the moment is if I had to estimate I might call/text her at least in a week maybe, more or maybe never call/text her unless I feel like it whoa whoa don't even think about calling me a jerk or insecure allow me to explain if you never call/or text her at all unless you feel like it then she have the optionality to miss you it creates attraction she'll more likely be with you.
Then she sees you with a backbone,she sees him as a challenge she loves challenges and since they want to change a bad guy to be a good man more likely in reality it's impossible but however if you use the tactics the good ones aka the positive ones not the negative ones like the one I named as an example that will help the nice guys,geeks,nerds,nerds and good guys like me out to get dates easily and to our advantage.
And being too nice never creates attraction and yes being too nice kills attraction you'll get friend zone she'll never wanted to be with you she'll never date you until she is either A single mother B.no longer a virgin or C she is pregnant by the bad guy he dumped her for another woman and yes possibly D all of the above.
You women play those games and we learned more and more if we focus on what you do not what you say don't say you don't unless you can proof it so far women these days and age say one thing but respond to opposite for an example you woman say oh I want a sweet guy or I want a good man treat me right.
Then you love that other guy who treats you wrong who push you down see how you respond differently then what you say what you love in a guy and you can call me a geek or a nerd go ahead and yes I admit I am both a nerd since I might share same knowledge as a regular nerd and a geek you know I'm 50/50.
And I collect stuff that I love and I collect stuff that I like and yes sometimes I do research online,ask questions,ask questions on Google,read online books like one of hem I will named how to be alpha male/the game one or the other yes I do read books from Google online and of course sometimes I do research on other different subjects as well.
bottom line is this
Do you want evil bastards,thugs,criminals and all other bad men
do you want a guy who is too nice
do you want a good man
and above all do you want a great man? This is are just some of my research notes so far I've taken and from what I notice going on these days and age and sadly some of women and some of girls if not most of them here in America is being brainwashed.25 Reply- +1 y
For now these are my guesses at the moment and I am not bashing anyone and I am not bashing America since I'm an American guy myself and I am saving my virginity till marriage and I'm proud of it and I expect her to do the same
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and I meant I might not share same knowledge as a regular nerd
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@sikoo31your welcome man and like I said for now I'm only guessing unless any girls and any women proof me wrong if she thinks I'm lying and provide the proof not just saying it she needs to show us proof plain and simple is that easy
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Go ahead and give thumbs down if you wish to I don't give a flying f*** if you didn't read carefully I said for now I'm only guessing unless you women and you girls proof my theory wrong and yes you'll need to provide proof not just say it.
If you women and you girls just say it with no proof there is 50% your lying and the other 50% you are not lying to us yes that means there is 50/50 chances either you are lying or you are not lying.
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3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic. I ALWAYS call the next day
Frankly I'd be concerned about her not thinking I'm interested, or me being forgotten about on her end...go wait.
So I don't play games and contact her the next day. I see no cons to doing so (feel free to share your differing opinion if you want).
I know what I want (her) and imma show her that I want her by contacting her promptly. :)110 Reply
Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 ySome guys in this situation will not contact you at all. They thought you were cute, got your number but
1. Were really just about casual sex and when you did not go home with them they are over it.
2. Already have a girlfriend but had a great time flirting with you.
3. Sobered up the next day and don't remember you that well or just overall are not feeling it.
4. They just like getting numbers and having the bragging rights to the fact they get hot chicks numbers all the time.20 Reply
The fastest a guy texted me after a date was like 10 min. after we left. The funny thing is, I really like him (this was a couple months ago and we still see each other) so I didn't think he was being needy or desperate. Typically, if it's a guy I don't like as much or am not sure about, if he texted me right away I would think he was needy, but if I really like the guy, I love when it's right away. Maybe that's just me though.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yThe games tire me and bore me. I wish guys wouldn't pull the whole oh, I'll wait to get her interested in me thing. If you're interested in me, just talk to me. Let's start a conversation, get to know me as a person.
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Yes, the whole wait 3 days popularized by Hollywood, is retarded.
If they got the number, they've done something right. Many sadly just get nervous and puss out
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Either we have to hit it off right then and there or I wait days or about a week. Why? It's simple. Girls are chased all the time. The ones that don't chase are the ones that the girls are most intrigued by. Girls get calls and texts but don't answer them because the game is over. They figure that if you contact them too soon it seems like you are desperate, have no life, and is no "challenge" to her to stay interesting.
I have a busy life and I have no time to waste. Many guys call or text the girl just to make sure that it's her real number because most of the time it's not. Yes girls still play these games. So if I were to call right after I meet a girl it does seem desperate and clingy. Many girls will give the excuse of "going too fast" later when you do call. Staying a mystery and being a "jerk" turns on girls not being good and reliable.34 Reply- +1 y
So true! I wish my single guy friends would figure this out and stop being all depressed all the time lol
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i agree with the concept of the female's reactions to the behavior, +1.. The part I disagree with is what "waiting a week to call" actually does. It's not so much an attraction on their behalf (in my eyes) as it is so much a way for one to detach himself from any emotional hope that said female could be a potential mate. In doing so, it helps us become less clingy and desperate, which IS more attractive. Being good / reliable isn't a problem, but most guys who are good/reliable are also clingy
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And to further elaborate.. By waiting a week, there's a subconscious reaction to our own inner conflict -> e.g. "Why isn't she/he calling? Maybe I did something wrong..." Which then is our own self granting the other person a higher quality than we allow to ourselves.. That is, we give them authority over us that gives ourselves the impression that WE are the ones who are not worthy. Reverse this concept and look at it from the woman's perspective.. She overevaluates her own situation.
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I think you should just equally be adults and show interest in each other. If you exchange contacts its because you want to see where it goes. Why wait? I don't get it. You text me I text right back you call depending on where my phone is I usually answer quick. everyone basically keeps their phones on them majority of the day anyway. I dont get the waiting game at all and I think it's childish
usually the next day.
if I actually have something to talk to her about or something I wanna ask, idc how long its been.
the whole waiting thing is stupid. if she liked me, she wants to hear from me soon, so if I just text or call her that same day, she should be happy, not weirded out or turned off.
if she is, then she doesn't really like me and that's all I need to know to never text her again.41 Reply- +1 y
Great answer man great answer well put and it's so true how girls and women play hard to get games and other f*** up games if plays them I dump her,erase her number and find someone else don't play those stupid f***ed up games the ones they do
and I agree with you
+1 yI try not to text, because that leaves it open for her to play hard to get and not text back or just blow me off. a lot of guys text girls all the time, so if you do that, its easier for her to just blend you in as another orbiter...I call, and when she answers I'm really happy sounding and just see if she wants to hit the bar this weekend.
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Great answer man great answer well put and it's so true how girls and women play hard to get games and other f*** up games if plays them I dump her,erase her number and find someone else don't play those stupid f***ed up games the ones they do
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yeah I'm not wasting my time playing games, if two people like each other they should talk...
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+1 yI'll call her the next day, but I'll send her a text with a compliment in an hour or so.
"You looked so regal in that dress/hat... I'm glad I stopped to talk to you." That sort of thing. I'm glad I picked this time to go to the store. You looked radiant in that dress, and I liked what you told me about the frozen shrimp. You should let me cook it for you. Something personalized to the encounter.
Usually we're going out that night.
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+1 yC: Other
When I have a reason to. 9/10 times in the past, where I've lead my mind into this mysterious head game of 'whens the right time to call', I've usually been the second-choice as a potential mate. Now that I've got other priorities than women, it seems that they flock in my direction more often than before. So to answer your question more precisely, I don't usually call back unless there's a reason for me TO call e.g. we made plans to swim / etc..
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+1 yI don't know. I get around to it eventually. I try not to call her immediately, because too many girls think "oh, he's showing interest, he must be needy or desperate" which is kinda stupid. So I at least wait a day. Maybe two days. But yeah, if you got his number mid week, and he hasn't called by Friday or Saturday, chances are he's not that interested.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 y5 business days.
You don't want to call immediately, because girls jump to conclusions about you for some reason. You don't want to wait for the cliche 3 days. They'll be expecting it. Women love the "I can take it or leave it" attitude, so you must let them sweat it out a little. If she is angry about this, oh well. There are other girls that will be happy about my phone call.12 Reply
Asker+1 y5 "business days" ...damn. It's like a shipping estimate lol
I usually do it the next day, mid afternoon, ask and she if she would like to get some lunch, that 3 day rule is dumb, and for kids in high school.
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Great answer man great answer well put and it's true on how some girls and some women if not most of them play hard to get games and other f*** up games if she plays them I dump her,erase her number and find someone else don't play those stupid f***ed up games the ones they do
I usually tell her I'll call you tonight/tomorrow/ whenever I say because I know she'll be waiting and I don't want to call when it'll be an inconvenience to her
but I wouldn't do it right after unless she said so.48 Reply- +1 y
Don't do what she says man because if you do she will think you are too nice,you are so boring you bored her,she will think you are not challenge enough and above all she thinks you have no backbone.
And she'll leave you in a heart beat and women love challenge and they love guys who is mysterious from what I've seen and from my research so if you don't tell her when you call/or text make her miss you then that builds attraction unless I am missing something else - +1 y
OK then she thinks you have no backbones,she will think you are too nice/too sweet and you are not challenge enough if you can deal with being the second choice boyfriend her back up that's fine if you see how jerks gets women and girls you understand what I meant.
if I'm wrong then why they choose him over good men/or a great man - +1 y
I don't know what girls have done to you but take it easy.
If a girl judges me just from that notion. Then I wouldn't wanna be with her anyways...
Girls don't want jerks. They want someone with confidence.
I'm not afraid to call them
Jerks and whatever girls they get can play all the games they want.
What are you gonna say next?
Enjoy being lonely because all the 'jerks' have taken the girls?
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thank you man I loved your reply there is hope for us nice virgin guys,geeks,nerds,good guys like me and other good men after all thank you for the reply I'll give you thumbs up
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You're probably one of the most date-able guys here :)
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@AllDay you sound like a nice gentleman. I agree that it's better to be courteous and contact as promised. I'm not sure what others think, but at least I know I don't like players. Why wait so long if a guy asked for my number? Doesn't make sense and is a turn-off.
+1 yDepends when and where you met her. Also, if I'm asking for your number it's more than likely because I've already made a plan to see you either later that day or tomorrow so I get your number to send exact details.
Why wait?
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And honestly... Calling better in my opinion. People overly rely on text to much which certain situations would be better with a call
the next day, or the day after that - between 24 and 48 hours after meeting her. that way it doesn't come across as really desperate, but at the same time doesn't appear like I'm trying to play games with her.
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+1 yI would probably do it that night to see if she has any plans or the next day. I don't really believe in this three day rule, as I see not many other guys do either.
10 ReplyRight when I get home or in the car. I call and say I have a bad sense of time because my mother dropped me on my head one too many times and then I pick right up where I left off with her
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Asker+1 ylol smooth
+1 yI guess I'm not one for games. If you're interested you're interested and I show it so id expect you to as well. How else would you form a bond if you don't equally put forth the effort instead of pussyfooting around? Usually its 2 days max from the time you give or get a number from someone. Its just wasting someone's time if you get or give info and then don't use it
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+1 yCall her the next day. I'm a girl..if I give a guy my number after we hit it off, I'd want him to call me soon. :)
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+1 yShortly after or the next day. If out of the bar, maybe just a "nice to meet you" or something simple. If she doesn't respond quickly, you know she's not really interested...
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if she don't call me from that day until forth day then I write her off because if you have a backbone I don't know this one also counts but I give her three day limit like for an example.
If I call on a Saturday if she don't call me on Saturday,Sunday, or Monday I write her off and move on and erase her number and take that as she is not interested why should I waste my time if she give her number to me when she is not interested and she either picks me 1st or I'm gone
403 opinions shared on Dating topic. I always call 5-9 days later. Works great. Before I'm called every name in the book...I can explain if you would like.
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+1 yI say no more than two days. If a guy is interested, he will make time to make a little or call or send a little text message.
10 ReplyIt depends. it took me a few days to a week to call her back, depending on the situation. But I will never call the next day.
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+1 yEasiest I got a text from guy is 10 min.lol I like that
10 ReplyIf a guy wait's more than a day to text me, he gets a lower rating from me. Playing games is not mature
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Oh give me a break, women play mind games with men all the time.
+1 ythe earliest I've had a guy text me after getting my number was like 20 min lol
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20 to 45 min
idk why some people think they need to play games and wait for 48 hours - +1 y
miss I can answer your question why is like this if you call or text right away she thinks oh he is too nice,he is too sweet, he is so boring, not challenge enough you know you love challenge so a true nice guy like me learned you hate nice guys,geeks,nerds and good guys like me so.
He play the games back at you to get you miss him - +1 y
and you do play hard to get games and other f*** up games don't say you don't unless you can proof it so he is also creating mystery since you women love challenge and guys who is mystery either you want him call/text you 24/7 and that's to nice and you wanted him with a backbone .
Or do you want him only focus on you which is with no backbone and do everything you wanted never argue with you agree with everything you say do everything you wanted to do choice is yours to make - +1 y
DragonLord, well you're wrong. It felt great hearing from him so soon :) I appreciate it when guys don't play games like that and they're just straight up. The whole "trying to create a mystery" sh*t is fckn annoying.
I knew the guy had a backbone. Waiting to contact someone doesn't necessarily mean you have a backbone - +1 y
so let me get this straight you rather have him call you 24/7 never argue with you agree with everything you say compliment you every time do whatever you say agree with you on everything even if he hates it is that what you want and yes you do you get friendzoned for being too nice
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if that was out of line I apologize and yes you do get friend zoned for being too nice and being sweet she runs off with some jerk some evil bastard then cry about it and yet they always go back for more and honestly I am sick of it and I refuse to be the second choice.
Either she picks me first or I'm gone and she'll stay in the friend zoned permanently since she friend zoned me and I move on rather she likes it or not - +1 y
DragonLord, don't put words in my mouth.
I didn't say "I'd rather have him call me 24/7, never argue with me and agree with everything and compliment me all the time (those last three are irrelevant)."
Sounds like you're taking a personal situation out on me lol go tell all of that to the girl who made you think that way. - +1 y
if you read my other comment I said I apologize if that was out of line and yes you do get friend zoned for being too nice and being sweet she runs off with some jerk some evil bastard then cry about it and yet they always go back for more and honestly I am sick of it and I refuse to be the second choice.
Either she picks me first or I'm gone and she'll stay in the friend zoned permanently since she friend zoned me and I move on rather she likes it or not - +1 y
you're way off topic when it comes to my answer what's being asked in this Q.
She's simply asking about how long a guy called you after he got your number, not getting friend zoned for being too nice and sweet. Seriously, stop acting like I'm your therapist. - +1 y
I am and I am speaking the truth and my answer I said my best guess is wait till one week or more later or never call/text unless I feel like it if you want to know why read my answer very carefully then respond and have proof if you think I'm wrong
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Some girl putting you in the friend zone because you were too nice and had no back bone has nothing to do with when a guy calls you after he gets your number. Stop trying to make this post all about you and your experience.
18.3K opinions shared on Dating topic. I won't date a guy who texts, so he better call.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yif he is smart he will text me a few hours later or the next day, if you wait any longer than that, honestly I have probably already lost interest, blahhhh!
00 ReplyDepends on the girl... I can call text her within an hour after meeting her, on the next day, next few days or next week
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+1 yusually 24-72 hours later, depends on if I'm in the mood to chat, or if I'm busy.
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+1 yThe same day. First checking I got the number right, then actual talking later that day unless it was already very late. I see no point in waiting. I’d be excited, and eager to see how well things go.
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+1 yMe get a number from a cute girl lmfao, it will never happen. Maybe if I were a douchebag, other then that nope won't get one.
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Thats right keep giving me thumbs down, because you know I'm right.
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Nah tried it doesn't work I know its the way I look. I've given up.
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Stop trying so hard, you're doing it wrong.
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That's just it I don't that hard and still fail, that's why I believe its my looks.
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Yeah keep giving me thumbs down, because you all know its the truth.
Probably the next day, even if it's just to check or say hi.
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00 Replydepends on how long it would take for me to get home at night and be free
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+1 yprobably next day, don't want to be clingy or needy, desperate
10 Reply id probably just send a text right away just so she gets my number too
20 ReplyI text her right away so she can save my number as well.
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+1 yThe next day for sure.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yI never do she's not worth it. I just asked to see if I could get it which I did mission complete.
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woow..
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yI was nosey and wanted to see the results haha
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yUsually he texts the same day.
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+1 yNot long after
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