I just meet a girl at the gym. Few days after that, she is IMing me, leaving me facebook comments, saying she wants to hang out, and gives me her number without me even asking for it? We hang out, I try to make a move on her and she just kinda turns her head away. I apologize next few weeks she doesn't talk to me, then she starts up again: asks me to meet her at the gym, texts me to see how my MRI went, Whenever I see her at the gym, she wants me to be by her, asks me to go get coffee with her, asks me to come over her house one day but I can't because I'm at school, so she goes OK, You wanna GO FOR A WALK AROUND THE LAKE LATER TODAY THEN? by the way, I am very interested in this girl, so last weekend we got ice cream(this was 4th time we chilled), and I asked her how she felt about me, and she said "well, I like you and ur a cool guy, but I thought it was understood that were just friends, and I just don't feel that connection, AT LEAST NOT NOW" THIS MAKES NO SENSE TO ME. Even though she knows how I feel and I told her that it would be very hard for me to hang out with her knowing that we can never be anything more friends, she is STILL texting me and IMing me wondering if I'm going to the gym the past few days, seeing what's up, etc. i haven't contacted her once by the way. And yesterday was the same thing, she texted me and was wondering if I was going to the gym, and she's like you wanna do cardio with me, I said nahhh, then she's like oo ok well what are you gonna do now, I said I'm gonna lift, and she said aha ok ill lift with you then.
Hmm yes, some girls are renowned for this. Being friendly with a guy and hanging out with him a lot - just cos she enjoys the male company and male attention and even the flirting, but has no real intention of taking it any further. If she wanted you she would let you kiss her. There would be no reason for her to resist. It's an ego boost for her, it's not genuine and in a sense she's using you. Sorry to sound harsh but you really should walk away and stay away from her. I know girls like this and it's always the genuine nice guys that they seem to prey on. Let her know she can't do this to you and just drop her.
She likes you and likes the 'power' over you I think. She gets a thrill from you liking her. She is one of those girls that needs a guy to make her feel good about herself, even if she doesn't return the feelings. I would suggest that you really do drop her, which will make her want you ten-fold, but its not genuine. Its always hard to lose someone who cares about you and she will fight it every step of the way. Be strong though because she likes the 'feeling' of being around you and you deserve someone who will want you (and you will find it! ).
It is girls like her who give us sweet, genuine girls a bad name.
To me it sounds like she is playing games. She is loving the attention she is getting from you and it seems that she does certain things to see if she could have you. She sounds like someone who always needs someone to make herself feel better by maybe receiving compliments or showing her that they are attracted to her. She could be very insecure about herself and lacks confidence. As a 25 year old female I would advice you to just tell her you are not into games and it's not cool to communicate these mixed messages! You might just see if she is worth it or not based on her reaction. Good luck
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