How can I ask a stranger out without triggering stranger danger?

[Anonymous]

I am asking because i might trigger the stranger danger alarm

[Chazmatazz269]

You have to put on a high status image. If you’re not terribly attractive, then you have to look like you have a great deal of disposable income.
Most women won’t admit the truth. Which is good looking and/or wealthy men can do flat out creepy sh*t and women will still be attracted to them. Meanwhile, average and below average dudes can be perfectly sweet and charming but be regarded as creeps. The only difference is a woman’s level of attraction to the guy. This is true for all women in every conceivable situation under the sun.
So if you don’t want to be creepy, be attractive. It’s really that simple.

[Zack-Bann]

Come up from behind and don’t be stingy on the chloroform.


But joke’s aside it’s all about making the person feel comfortable.


You lay in light, not heavy.
Make them laugh, be interesting, and take interest in them


And then naturally pivot to asking them out because it feels like the logical next step.


It doesn’t work every time so it’s important to respect boundaries all throughout.

[Zionne]

Start simple and respectful... don’t approach suddenly or too close, and give them space so they don’t feel cornered. Keep it light like a quick compliment or small conversation, then only ask if they seem open and comfortable engaging with you. A would say the key is reading the situation well and accepting a no or disengagement immediately without pushing further.

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t. Get to know them first before you ask them out.

[Asker]

Amm then I get stuck in friendzone

[WhitneySnow]

Asking them out without getting to know them first is a really bad idea unless you’re incredibly hot. And even then it can freak a girl out.

[Finchie40]

Approach them on a friendly level , without the intentions of getting in their pants , make them feel comfortable with you first , before even considering to ask them for their number or asking them out , just talk to them like you would to anyone else that you barely know much about , do not come off as to eager and desperate, especially if they have no clue who you are whatsoever, i usually just come up some random topic to get their attention and to get them to talk to me depending on where we are at , for example a convenience store , I will grab an item I never tried before and kindly ask them if they have ever tried this , and if it’s worth buying , if they say they never tried it , then ask them what do they recommend , the trick is to keep the conversation going , then you can eventually start asking them questions about themselves and throw in a compliment about them , like by the way you have very beautiful hair , I bet that takes you some time to maintain , Girls’ usually love talking about their hair , it usually gets their attention , just be respectful and polite as much as possible , lock eyes with her as much as possible when talking to her , make her feel comfortable and then you can say I am really glad I asked you for advice , I know you are probably in a hurry but would you like to exchange numbers so we can talk more sometime? And if she says sure , then you are pretty much in , if she says sorry I am already seeing someone , then say I understand but I was really nice meeting you and then walk away. Sometimes she will say wait a second , I changed my mind here is my number. You can say I thought you had a boyfriend? And then say I don’t want to cause any problems with you and your boyfriend, most the time she will say , she doesn’t have one that she is sorry for saying she did. Girls’ can be tricky that way but overall you got her interested in you by being polite and respectful

[MissSunshine2]

I think men are overly paranoid about coming across as creepy these days. I understand why, with the me too movement. However, if you sense that a woman likes you, you’re probably correct and there are hints that women drop on purpose, to encourage you to approach them. We’re often extra nice to you.

[Asker]

Amm I never get it any hints so how I can tell?

[MissSunshine2]

well, hints are that a girl might be doing extra nice favours for you, e. g. gift giving, bringing food for you to try, flirting with you, complimenting you or you catch her glancing at you, or she seems jealous if you mention other women. If she's bold, she might just ask you out herself. That's normally what I do with guys. They're usually too scared to approach me. My advice is to get to make friends with women you're attracted to get to know them, so that you can ensure you like each other and that a move would be welcomed.

[Asker]

Oh that's never me.
Lol never got a gift, never got flirted with ( only when they wanted to be rude to me)
Never got a compliment as well,

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

When you offer them candy, make sure it's really GOOD candy. And make sure your van with the blacked-out windows is very clean.

Seriously, though, just make sure to not get into their personal space, and don't invite them anywhere that might give them a reason to be a afraid. Think public place, with lots of people around, during daylight hours.

[been_burned_b4]

Get a conversation started so she can become comfortable with you. Of course, the topic should be carefully chosen. Hopefully she will realize there is no “danger” after a while. Things should progress naturally from there. Good luck!

Oh yes, “You only get one chance to make a first impression” therefore, make sure that you are socially presentable in all ways.

[RedAlertAdvisor]

Most people aren't bothered by being approached.

They're bothered by feeling pressured.

Be respectful, keep it brief, and give them an easy way to say no.

Something like:

"Hey, I know this is random, but you seem interesting. Would you like to grab a coffee sometime?"

If they seem hesitant, smile, wish them a good day, and move on.

Confidence is attractive.

Pressure is not.

[MannMitAntworten]

Walk by them with a puppy. Chances are they will break the ice for you. Unless she hates animals, then you are fucked. But look at it this way, most of those women have Skull & Crossbones on their foreheads anyway. It’s a bullet dodged.

[goaded]

Suggest a public place to meet, in the daytime, maybe even where there's security.

Don't make your move late at night in a lift!

[Asker]

Lol 😆

[Asker]

It didn't work I tried in library, many of the girls just stopped coming to the section 😭

[Asker]

Like using note on phone...
Like I noticed you come daily, which subject u are studying...

[Asker]

I get till name

[Asker]

And then she says I have to go now...
And no number exchange, (I did score instagram)
But still I can't get out on a date.

[goaded]

Since someone I know was approached in a library by a young man who went on to murder a random stranger, I suggest at most giving them your number and not expecting a response.

Even better, make friends. Make male friends. If you can't make male friends, why should women like you? Build trust. EARN trust. Meet up in groups, activities.

The "male loneliness epidemic" is bullshit; they're incels talking about sex, not companionship. Make male friends; be nice to their wives and girlfriends. You need to be chosen by a woman; make it as easy a choice as you can.

[Asker]

Ohh i am new in this country.
I don't have enough friends who are natives. But also not enough. People to meet up. I mostly meet new people in charity 😁.
Couples and families, I am not at all religious, I am kindof an atheist but loves the idea of being kind.

So I do some part of it.
And I am trying to make friends with my own race as they are too brain washed to love there culture and etc. where as I am trying to give it up.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I don't get your premise, why do you want to ask strangers out?

[Alex-Snow]

Asking a stranger out before getting to know them is weird. You need to establish a connection or friendship of some sorts first.

[Godihateyou]

If you are a man you cannot ask a woman out without triggering stranger danger. DO NOT APPROACH WOMAN. they hate it.

[Anonymous]

Ask him out it either he go or he say sorry I'm with someone

[jazzy34]

How do you even know this person?

[Jen_oic]

You’re weird

[Asker]

Really how?
If I be a friend gain trust. It's just in a month I get stuck in a friendzoned, wasting my time.
And asking out strangers is just too difficult, I get till name and a good conversation, but I get it when they aren't sharing.

[Asker]

Some guys just say let me get your number and it's done.
They start dating.
When I try that I just get blocked in a minute

[Jen_oic]

Try being sweet in your tone and give girls a chance to know you

[Asker]

I don't know how to be sweet, If I am then they just take advantage of my kindness, and rob me of emotions, kept me on the hook and run to me for complaints.
And when I established a boundary that we should not talk about that. They end up ignoring me anyways

[Anonymous]

Very difficult

And awkward

[In_Trance]

This is pretty great