What’s the best way to approach a woman you’ve just seen and like?

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Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

I’ve never seen so much bad advice grouped up in one place
(Ok maybe i have)

Look you just gotta keep it simple, not needy or dramatic or invasive.

First, if you just saw her there’s no reason to “like her” yet. You’re shooting yourself in the foot way too early.

A better mindset is to be curious about her as a person.
The same way you would be about anyone you run into while out in the world

The key is to be social not predatorial.
Walk up and say hi the same way you would say hi to any random stranger you might want to ask for directions or wonder if they know why there’s a crowd and so on.

By being polite and relaxed without giving off distress energy she won’t turn you away

And from there you just do what men have done for centuries. Make her laugh.
Be relatable, point out the things you have in common.
And eventually be bold. Let her know you think she’s cute and you’d love to get to know her more.
If you did everything else and she’s genuinely single and available, she will say yes

It’s important to close properly however, get her number, not her instagram. And “soft close” by suggesting an activity and a time.
If she’s interested you can text her the exact details later

And it’s important to understand that we all live random and unique lives.
Which means you’re just as likely to meet someone who’s looking to date as you are someone who’s been in a bad breakup and doesn’t wanna hear it.
Accepting that you can’t control that outcome is important. It will allow you to step out of your own limiting mindset

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Wait a minute, wait a minute.  Just  seen? You don't exactly approach a female off the bat like that. And you don't even know if you like her, you probably just think she was pretty or acted nice. That's what you like, which isn't necessarily bad, but you need to observe this person on the regular a lot more. If possible, just stay as being acquaintances for right now if you see her all the time. Let a kind of rapport build up for awhile before asking her out. But just trying to approach her instantly? That's like that rizzing crap you see on social media. Better if you don't exactly do that.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

You ask them a question that seems innocent and non-threatening such as where the closest shopping mall is, or do they know what time the bus comes, then give them a brief introduction about an interesting part of your life, such as, I played tennis all through school, or I own 4 dogs, then tell them then can google your dog pics on instagram under your hash tag, etc... or they can google your music and give their honest opinion about it, or they can google your paintings online and give their personal assessment of it etc...

rini02 · Accepted Answer

Where did you see her? Depending on that, you could plan your way to approach.
It's always best, or maybe to be on the safe side, first get to know her, get well-acquainted, and maybe then approach her, because not everyone is comfortable with suddenly getting approached.

Finchie40 · Answer

Just say hi and politely introduce yourself in a respectful way, and tell her that the second you saw her , you couldn’t resist not introducing yourself to her, and then compliment something about her like her hair or her outfit , just don’t be creepy about it also try to make her laugh , making her laugh makes her feel more comfortable with you. So the key thing is being confident within Yourself first , if you are shy and not that confident, she is going to be more than likely creeped out by you , most girls’ love a confident guy that isn’t that shy , it’s ok to be a little nervous and shy but not extreme. If she is interested she will continue the conversation with you , if not interested she will say she is already involved with someone else , it’s the chance we take that matters

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I loathe a cold approach. Most likely because I don’t have the symmetry to pull it off and never have.
If I don’t have enough information to start a meaningful conversation, I merely admire her from afar.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I never did the cold approach. I nearly tried it once in high school though. One of the parishes in our diocese hosted a dance for other youth groups in the area. There was a girl I wanted to approach, so my buddy and I hatched an idea to have the DJ play You've Lost That Loving Feeling by the Righteous Brothers and approach her like in the movie Top Gun. Somehow, the DJ thought we wanted to sing to  all  the girls,  which we promptly did.  I didn't get to approach the girl I wanted to, but hey, at least we still had fun with it.

Taurus_Woman · Answer

The best way is to be natural, respectful, and simple. Don’t overthink or try to impress. Just walk up calmly, make brief eye contact, and say something like:

“Hi, I just wanted to say I noticed you and thought you seemed nice.”

Then introduce yourself and see how she responds. If she’s open, continue normally. If she’s not interested, just say “Have a nice day” and leave politely.

The key is confidence without pressure, and respect without expectation.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Recognize your interest and don't dwell on it, waiting, stairing and risk creeping her out.

Bring your energy up, go say hello and whatever you can come up with.

you got 3... no... 2 seconds to impress her. so it isn't what you say... but what you say can trash you.

good luck.

SolitarySolace · Answer

You don’t. If you really wanted them, you’d let them come to you. Otherwise your advancement will be seen negatively 99% of the time and you will learn why a lot of men have stopped approaching women entirely

ElenaSeluna · Answer

So you immediately saw her and liked her.. what did you like about her? Did you even talk to her?

Calyptomaniac · Answer

What complicated piece of advice are you really looking for?

NathanDavis · Answer

with honesty... "hey... I just saw you, and this is crazy... but call me maybe"

Mark_Est · Answer

Don't.  Men chase goals not women. Secondly, a woman who likes you will come up to you. If she doesn't, she doesn't like you anyway.

Kelley1 · Answer

Approach after she indicates she is approachable, such as smiling and saying "Hi."

Nikki1989 · Answer

Confidence, charisma, good manners and a sense of humour.

LacedWonderland · Answer

Turn around and walk the other way… chances are she’s got enough on her plate 🤷🏻‍♀️ or just be normal, and don’t start off like “hey what do you think of the weather” bland, boring, and repetitive… try making her laugh & don’t be too weird 💁🏻‍♀️

MrChinaski · Answer

Begin with choice of attire:

Tomislav7 · Answer

Go up and say hi, find something around you or what she's doing to ask her a Q. Least she can do is ignore or insult you

msc545 · Answer

Assuming this is addressed to men, the best thing a man can do is to forget what he's seen and to keep on walking before he gets himself in real trouble.

Dargil · Answer

If she has been around you and she knows who you are, invite her out for coffee.

exitseven · Answer

With me it was always fly by the seat of my pants. It was different every time.

RRT_7511 · Answer

Make it casual, don’t stare at them, and just don’t make it weird by pacing around being nervous.

Anonymous · Answer

I have no idea, I'm too shy to approach, and I prefer self-confident women who like to take initiative.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Approach and engage in conversation. Don't be creepy. If she declines, smile and move on.

Manuelwe · Answer

Say your name and ask her for her's. Say that you like her smile and sorry if I say that, but I love your smile. What you like about me?

queenofcardio · Answer

Be polite and introduce yourself

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

Just do it. Worse can happen is she says no.

arianna1414 · Answer

say hi and give a honest compliment

Guanfei · Answer

You don't. That will spare you troubles.

Godihateyou · Answer

Pay her pimp the desired price

In_Trance · Answer

Talk to her

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