3 Strikes? Boyfriend keeps getting caught looking at nudes.

everyone has their vices. I think the trick is to find out how much you like him, despite! how much you do not like his vices. if you can live with the fact that he looks but doesn't cheat or touch (haha even though he is floggin) then you should like others have said, try to incoroporate what he likes into some routine that you both can share. its sex for god sake, there are thousands of ways to get aroused and enjoy hte pleasures of it. buy the guy a kamara sutra book and look at it with him and ask if he wants to try some new stuff. make a bet with him...if he can go a week without wanking himself, you will be his love slave or do some role play...idk...just thinking aloud here...

Ya __ Your right, he jacks off on the weekdays that is why he is lethargic when he has sex with you.

Watching porn is normal, so you need not worry about that and feel that you are cheated. It is a horrible addiction. But if you want to convince him not to watch porn, make him read this at least once.

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And if he is not able to follow the above site, ask him to stop masturbation. He seems to have a lot of free time. Ask him to exercise and/or do other activities like meeting his friend, etc.

Hope this helps.

I cannot believe the number of women that get so upset over guys and porn. It's normal! It's even normal for a lot of women to look at porn. It's not a big deal. He isn't in contact with these nude women, he isn't sending anyone pictures, he isn't talking to someone sexually online - what's the problem?

Before the internet, guys had magazines and video tapes. It's the same thing. Just because a guy looks at porn has no meaning to how he feels about you or your body. What happened with your ex you need to let go. Unless your new boyfriend has a serious addiction his behavior is pretty normal.

I realize if you're uncomfortable he should be more willing to find a solutions, but really it's pretty normal these days.

What I don't understand sometimes is why women get so offended when their guys look at porn. He loves you, he is interested in you, he is with you. Porn is just an external gratification for guys. It can give us ideas of what to do during actual sexual activity, and is a nice stress relief for us. Playboy is a mens magazine. Celebrities pose in it, there are college editions, etc. He will never ever ever have a chance of getting with any of those girls. You are reading way too far into the "ex similarity" issue. He is not with her, he is with you. If he wanted her, there would have been actual nudes of her downloaded to your desk top from his email. There is no emotional attachment, its just a physical gratification. If he only sees you during the weekends he is going to want to relieve himself when he's not seeing you! So step it up and take some pictures/videos of you and let him look at those! It sounds like you're almost jealous that he enjoys looking at these models. This has nothing to do with emotions, it just has to do with the fact that he's a guy. Loves nudity and jerking off.

Wow. If this is your only issue in the relationship consider yourself lucky. You have a good man who wants to commit and marry you and you're tripping because he looks at porn? If you break up with him do you know how hard of a time you're gonna have trying to find a man who doesn't look at porn?

I don't think you should be upset at all about your man looking at naked photos of women he doesn't even know. If they were photos of his friends, or someone he talks to online, or texts, etc... then you should be, but these are women who make money by getting naked. Of course he has no emotional involvement. It's just nudity.

You have to be more confident about yourself, then you'll see that this is not a big deal at all. It's not just the boys who watch porn. Women watch porn too. Porn is just porn. It doesn't mean that he wants to be with these women instead of you. It's just visual stimulation. My boyfriend looks at porn. I sometimes watch with him and we enjoy it. We end up having fun together. Why don't you try that with your man?

You only focus on the things that bother you. But how about turning your mind around and thinking "he's been with me for 3 and a half years, there must be a reason".

Personally I think once a guy gets into a relationship he should no longer look at porn of any kind. and that porn is only for the singles in life.

ok. first of all, all guys watch porno or nudy mags. some just do a better job of hiding it. as for myself I also watch porn and have a magazine hidin at home and my ex or new guys that I have met never found it or know anything about it. so you should not be upset about that. but him not wanting to have sex with you is another story. you should talk to him and tell him that you don't mind the porn but the no sex bothers u. maybe you can watch a porn together and reenact what you see.

I think its a problem if its interfering with the relationship. If he is whacking off with the pictures all the time and not making love to you- then he is perferring to whack off with the pictures then make love with you. I don't know if that makes sense to you or not. Lots of guys married or not of pictures of girls. My boss happily married has hooters calenders all over the office. My bestfriend's husband has playboy magazines but he loves his wife. They have never had issues and have been together 10 years. If I were you I would talk to him and say Whether I like it or not I know you will still continue to look, fine by me but just don't let it interfere with us intimately ok. And if it still does interfere I would rethink your relationship with him.