Widowed after a truck accident—how can I heal and make new connections?

Question

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

You have to love yourself you have to understand yourself and you have to understand you are the boss nobody else is you make the choices nobody else does when you let somebody in it's hard to do first of all especially with your situation second of all

But when you finally allow somebody in you don't just jump on what is happening in that moment you have to stop and think about it you have to understand you you have to love you and you have to understand your boundaries and don't feel bad about having boundaries because that's what life is all about if you want to let somebody in and you want to allow them to love you they have to love you the way that you want them to or otherwise it's not worth it

And I saw your other question something about you're scared because of scammers first of all you are the boss if anybody asks you for anything the answer is no you have to take your time to get to know people and they shouldn't be asking you for anything so the answer is no don't allow people to get that far in that deep to feel that they can even ask you a stupid question you have to set your boundaries right from the get-go and the answer is no you don't owe anybody anything that's the bottom line you're beautiful lady you're going to have a lot of guys after you but the answer is no don't allow them to even think that they can manipulate you or even ask you for anything because they should be giving you not asking you for things

And I wanted to say before I even started all this I'm sorry About what happened And I know that you will heal you will be okay one day And you will never forget And that's something you have to carry with you at all times too And he will always be there with you too Whether you hear him or not that's up to you

FrodoSkywalker007 · Accepted Answer

I am so very sorry for your loss. I don't believe the ones we care about ever truly leave us. I believe it's very important to surround yourself with supportive figures. Perhaps, family or friends. It might be necessary to consider therapy. Over time the pain might lessen and it could be easier to make connections. For me, the pain never went away. It's always nagging in the background, it just becomes more manageable.

jazzy34 · Accepted Answer

1.) I’m so sorry for your loss. There’s nothing that I or anyone else can say to make you feel better. I can only offer my deepest condolences to you and your family. 🙏🏽❤️

2.) Seek out a counselor who will walk with you through your grief and pain.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

It’s the same as anyone else. When grief is heavy, basic self-care slips. Focus on the bare minimums and go from there. You don't have to jump straight into intense friendships or dating. Look for spaces where connection is a byproduct of a shared experience.

DishLady · Answer

It's very difficult to trust the universe once something like this impacts your soul, however as human beings we have little choice but to heal and allow healthier things back into our lives.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I'm very sorry for your loss. My family will soon pray our evening Rosary and will pray for him.

Eternal rest, grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him 🙏🙏🙏

As for healing? That will be between you and your counselor and/or religious and spiritual leader and community (if you have one).

As for making new connections? I assume you mean dating again. That's ultimately for you to know and decide. There is nothing wrong with giving it a try to see if you're ready.

RavVid · Answer

Very sorry for your sudden loss. I think sudden makes it much harder to deal with.

I don't think we should forget about people but it also isn't a betrayal to continue on with your life. Doubtless your husband wouldn't want your life to finish at 33.

It seems to help with the grieving process to remember them and what they were to you and be grateful for the time you had with them. It helps you come to terms with the loss.

As for new connections, I don't think you should try to force it. Let it come out of the grieving process as it will and as you meet others that you can be interested in.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Time. Let your mind work through all your emotions.

Determination to not allow random chance to define your life for you.

Decide to not wallow in self pity.

Decide to make an effort to get back out there and meet people.

Don't try to replace what you had and accept that what you find will be different this time.

exitseven · Answer

I cannot imagine what you are going through and never experienced it. However you must be kind to yourself and allow yourself to mourn your loss. Try and reach out to friends. Often people do not know how to react so they stay away.
The fact that you joined this site means that you are ready for new relationships.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

New connections such as what? Friends or relationships or what?

bowenw · Answer

Consider grief counselling, joining support groups online or in person. Lean on your close friends and family. Find ways to keep busy.

Likes2drive · Answer

it always takes time to heal from a loss, but it helps to talk to people that are close to you often about how you feel about it then eventually one day you might meet someone that makes you feel the same as your husband did

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m not sure how to answer this, but I wish you the best and I’m praying for you

Staximus · Answer

I don’t think anybody who hasn’t lost a spouse can answer that question, but everybody also grieves in their own way

_Jenny_ · Answer

@debby7810 Sure but it takes time

NovaSpawn · Answer

Reach out to friends and family for support. Seek out therapy as well. I am sorry 🙁.

Wodens_Apprentice · Answer

Start a new family, but you'll never heal. You don't heal from loved ones dying.

Masumgunahkar · Answer

Zaman tüm yaraları iyileştirir; yavaş yavaş alışacaksın. Ölülerle birlikte ölemezsin.

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry for your lost I know not easy but  New surroundings friends don't jump  In relationship because lonely keep  your mind open taķe time come to terms with everything

Looser_Shah_98 · Answer

Always here for help you maam

Agape93 · Answer

How long ago?

Anonymous · Answer

Debby you look familiar. Isabella del rio!

LiamJHayden · Answer

Take whatever time is needed.

In_Trance · Answer

Talk to people

Widowed after a truck accident—how can I heal and make new connections?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Widowed after a truck accident—how can I heal and make new connections?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.