I feel like I'm not coping and unsure how to put the broken pieces back together?

[Anonymous]

I'm 22 (yeah I know profile says 20 but entered the wrong year). I feel lightyears behind my peers. I tried so hard to stay on the good path I life. Graduated high school, I never got in to doing drugs or alcohol or smoking, tried so hard. I go to therapy with a clinical psychologist and have seen her for nearly 2 years consistently through the Australian healthcare system for certain mental health problems, but she has cancer and is having much needed time off. I work 2 jobs plus part-time study, theray, medication, the gym. I'm trying everything I can I. have no accessible family to trust, guys I've dated have used me in whatever ways possible. I'm quite outgoing and extroverted naturally and yet every night I struggle to sleep and every day I try so hard to do the best I can. I want to pick up and travel the world someday, do things, get a degree, and I don't want to die, but I'm struggling to live. I just want someone to hold me for once while I try to put all the broken pieces of me back together.

[ChrisMaster69]

I think it’s really a case of taking each day as it comes.

Focus on what helps you overall.

Also focus on what puts you down, why it does, how it does it and is there a when to it.

it’s trying to remove things that will trigger your feelings negatively.

look to trying to find something, such as drawing, writing, or similar that allows you to express your feelings, give them an outlet.

I would try and push for a new counsellor, I know you have been with her for a good while, however you need critical support with this and you need it sooner rather than later.

I know you are focused on a set routine throughout your day, however I would try and put some random stuff in during the week, specifically aimed at you and looking at what helps your overall self confidence, your self worth and your centre.

I would also look at doing some education, online courses, keep your brain working.

keep focus and try and take things slowly.

[PrettyPriya]

I have to agree with what @chrismaster69 has said. I think some of the simple keys are to keep the mind busy. Exercise, hobbies (new) and learning new things all help keep you away from bad thoughts.

You may want to try some meditation and breathing exercises. Those are things you can do anywhere when you feel down. Also, as Chris pointed out, setting some small attainable things to achieve is important.

Write down a small list of two to three things you want to learn, practice or otherwise interested in. Start at the top and work your way through them. Go one at a time and really focus on doing the very best.

These don't have to be huge things. Start small. For example, maybe number one on list is read at least half of my favorite book this week. Set that goal, set aside some time and do it. When you cross that off to go onto the next you will feel that sense of accomplishment and moving in the right direction.

[Asker]

Thank you. I already do a lot. The two jobs, plus the business study traineeship I'm already doing. I do read books, play sports, work out often, hikes, trail walks, snorkelling and diving, cosplay, I essentially have a lot of hobbies. Trying to take it day by day. I know I'm very capable of taking care of myself and I don't want anyone to do it for me and I can fix myself, I guess I'm struggling. On top of that, agter years of intense therapy I'm feeling emotions and memories I was missing come back in trauma and it's been so draining to deal with. I just had to let it out somewhere, somehow. Thank you for the advice Chris.

[Asker]

I know I'm 22 and young but I'm just super burnt out.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Chlo3_2001 I think reducing some stuff you do might help, cut down on social media is a good starting point.

Give your brain a chance to have nothing to think about

[Asker]

I'm not much of a social media person aside from here but I hear you.

[TheBigGuy9]

First off, don’t be afraid of death.
Ok. I’m no specialist, but I’ve lived life through many sets of eyes. It feels like you act too much with your emotions? You’re always in a rush. Heck, you put in the wrong age here.
Take the time to sit back and enjoy life.

[Harleigh90]

Oh beautiful! 💔 Firstly forget about boys, their not worth it right now. You need to keep all that love for yourself right now.
You have a lot going on, managing and finding that balance will make a massive Improvement.
Write a diary of all your thoughts get them out of your head, one there down challenge one at a time.
What is you aim? Career goals?


You look absolutely beautiful with this style from your last post by the way💕

[Asker]

I feel like an ugly person. I look awful. Just so beaten down. I've done everything I could and have no one else to confide in aside from the people on here. I work my 2 jobs for my sad little life to pay sad little bills and deal with whatever abuse each day. I can't do it anymore.

[Harleigh90]

You are definitely not ugle! You look beautiful! I know how it feels to have no one too, but I chose to save myself. Where you are no isn't forever. Start something new, be open with that beautiful soul, let her be free. How gives a shit what people think, you are stunning, young and have a life to live. 💕💕💕

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 I can say with conviction that @harleigh90 is 100% right here.

[Harleigh90]

@PrettyPriya She beautiful isn't she, just needs to find her light 💕

[PrettyPriya]

@harleigh90 She absolutely is and a complete joy to talk to. ❤️

[Asker]

Thanks girls. I just didn't know where else to vent or what to do.

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 Both @harleigh90 and I are always here for you.

[Harleigh90]

Always 💕💕

[Asker]

Sometimes I wish I wasn't so isolated here in Australia

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 You can come visit me! Of course, I do have an Australian cohabitating with me. 😬

[Harleigh90]

@PrettyPriya How amazing would that be!
You wanted to travel @Chlo3_2001 you have something to aim for! Save and travel! Then you can come to the UK and visit @ChrisMaster69 and I 💕💕

[PrettyPriya]

@harleigh90 I would take another Aussie for a while. The one I got already eats too much. I will trade him out for a Klohe. Send him to hotel for a week or two. We shall have girl's night (s) 🥳

[PrettyPriya]

@harleigh90 Can you imagine the trouble Khloe and I could get into in two weeks? 😬😕

[Harleigh90]

@PrettyPriya 🤣 You would literally take that phase of painting the town red to another level 😆

[PrettyPriya]

@harleigh90 Omg yes. Insanity would ensue. My itinerary would be interesting to say the least. She would be whipped into party shape for you and @chrismaster69 by the time I am done with her. 🤣

[Harleigh90]

@PrettyPriya 🤣🤣 Ready for a night on the town in Newcastle 🤣🤣🤣🥶
Chris love shopping so we're just do loads of that! Maybe a trip into the darker side of London too! Your love it @Chlo3_2001

[Asker]

Priya, when are you going to be in Australia? Chances are very possible we may cross paths. 🤣 Given I grew up not far a drive from where your partner is from. Last I recall.

[Asker]

Also yes. If I'm mentally well and in a good place I do plan to go to the UK. Aiming for in a few years dependent on where the world is I'll probably be around 24 to 27 by then x

[Asker]

I have British and German ancestry. But my parents and I were all born here and I have never left Australia.

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 I will be there August and December. My fiancé says to pack my drinking shoes. I don't know what this means. 😕🤣

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 you will be on your own to the UK. I don't think governments would let me and @chrismaster69 near each other. 😂😂😂

[Asker]

Drinking shoes is an Australian expression to wear comfy shoes for a pub crawl... unless he means you should do a 'shoey'. Which, I saw many university friends of mine do when I was briefly at nursing school. If you don't know what a shoey is, go look. Also, I don't club much but I am familiar with Perth and the Northbridge and Fremantle bar scene, tho not really a drinker.

[Asker]

Wish we could all meet up in one spot. So many accents. My accent is Perth based Aussie. Like the actress Katherine Langford and her accent.

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 My Aussie accent is rubbish. I try but end up looking like a complete idiot. Then again, it isn't hard for me to do. 😕

[ChrisMaster69]

@Chlo3_2001 you can add one more accent to that when you get my message lol

[Asker]

I have the sound of my voice. You guys all probably sound so nice. Chris sounds really posh and sophisticated!

[Asker]

Priya, if we cross paths in August you can hear my accent. Also I can probably walk about the city. Show you Perth. Tho I am a real shy and awkward gal I tend to warm up eventually.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Chlo3_2001 oh bugger, Posh and Sophisticated lol..

@harleigh90 that’s a first, how would you describe it?

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 Don't worry about the shy. You'll get over that really quick with me. My mouth doesn't stop. Did you see the link I messaged you? My good friend summed me up with a gif.

[PrettyPriya]

@chrismaster69 😂😂😂 I guess you didn't use your normal choice language and came across posh.

[Asker]

Well, I thought it was a really charming accent actually. But then in Australia there are heaps of accents here and my ears hadn't heard one like Chris's in a while.

[Harleigh90]

@ChrisMaster69 😳 I decline to answer 🥴 It's dreamy 😍 wouldn't say posh, more well spoke. Unless you give it full geordie 🤤

[Asker]

What's the full Geordie? Okay now I have to know.

[ChrisMaster69]

@harleigh90 should I use my softer Geordie on….🙄

[Harleigh90]

🤣🤣🤣 it's like a broken English that only people from Newcastle understand 🤣🤣

[Harleigh90]

@ChrisMaster69 Send her some geordie! Definitely not posh lol

[Asker]

I still think it's smooth. I'll share my accent with you all someday and somehow.

[Asker]

Unless there's a group voice chat?

[ChrisMaster69]

@harleigh90 I sent her something, had to do it on the fly or send one from yesterday

[Harleigh90]

No not one from yesterday! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

What happened yesterday? Should I be worried?

I wanna hear everyone's accents ahhhhh

[Asker]

I suppose you folks wanna hear an Australian accent? Maybe? Tho I won't be doing a Bogan one but it'll be your typical Perth girl.

[Asker]

Priya, you must learn what a servo, a bottle-o and a durry are before you come to Australia. 😂😂

[Harleigh90]

😳 @ChrisMaster69 what have you started! Lol 😅

Mines boring and just a normal London accent

[Asker]

Voice chat now everyone plzzzzz

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 Shall I have you fill me in or ask this one next to me? 😕

[Asker]

I will teach you lingo Priya dw ❤

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 I already am well versed in most areas. I get it at home. Imagine my surprise when we first started dating! Omg 🤦‍♀️

[Asker]

Lol 😂 Ohhh I am so excited to show you around my hometown. I was born in Perth and all.

[PrettyPriya]

@Chlo3_2001 Oh I am excited to go! I was supposed to last holiday but quarantine just made it impossible. What a bummer but all good things in time they say.

[Asker]

Have sent a little accent recording but if you would like a more personal one I wanna hear all of you. If only we have a personal group chat so I can remove this post x

[ChrisMaster69]

@Chlo3_2001 love your accent so sweet

[Harleigh90]

I'll send you one when I finish work 💕

[Asker]

It's so not sweet. It's hoarse and terrible. 😂

[Asker]

Yayyyy Harleigh

[alance99]

I dont think you have done anything wrong till date and its good that you kept yourself from any sort of bad habits, you will be able to travel soon coz you are working hard for it and area where you are lacking in life is not in your hands according to me which is the emotional support as mentioned in your question but trust me you will a find genuine guy soon dont loose hope, your hard work will pay off

[joeldalton]

You need to put your broken pieces together. Expecting someone else to do it for you will always be a disappointment.

Get some trusted friends to fill in for you. Find some meaning in life.

[Asker]

I don't want anyone to 'fix' me. I can fix myself. I just want to be able to find support and this seemed my only way to express it. I already see a psychologist, already take medication, take myself to the gym, have hobbies, sports, work 2 jobs, etc. Is it not a basic human need as a social creature to want people in your circle as you struggle?

[joeldalton]

Absolutely. So how are you fostering those relationships?

[Asker]

I don't really have any family I can go to and all my friends either live a long way away, also work full time like myself or have babies. I'd like to branch out and meet new people but it's just so hard. I already have hobbies, work 2 jobs, part time study, therapy, medication, etc. I'm just really, really having a hard time.

[joeldalton]

What are your hobbies? Are they social hobbies?

[Asker]

Snorkelling, trail walks, swimming, photography, cosplay.

[joeldalton]

Ok - can you join a snorkeling group? What about a photography club? Cosplay groups? Something where you're interacting with other people.

[Anonymous]

jesus, grow up. you are one weak human.

[Harleigh90]

Wow what a contradiction! Imagine if you wasn't so weak to behind an anonymous account!

[Opinion Owner]

think you mean "you weren't" nice English.

[Asker]

Doesn't matter on the growing up part. Probably won't be making it to 25 anyway.

[In_Trance]

What are you actually asking here?