At first things were good. I enjoyed having sex with him. He is a nice guy, kind of quiet and shy which I thought was cute. Things got complicated because I started to actually like him (not love, don't get that confused), I wanted to spend a little time with him (again a little maybe one day a week or so, I have a lot of other stuff to do so I don't have time for anything more than that). So I decided to tell him what I wanted. I told him I wanted us to be friends and go out and get to know each other more. I don't want a boyfriend but I do want a friend. (we talk mostly through texts because he doesn't speak much English and I can write in Spanish better than I can talk). He never responded. After about 2 hours I sent him another message saying "Ok, I get it. I will delete your number and leave you alone". Still nothing. We work together but he never really talked to me at work. I have a couple of theories (he is embarrassed that he doesn't speak English, he is afraid to get involved with me because he is only going to be here for 2 years, he works 2 jobs and doesn't have much free time, he is not legal and is afraid to get involved in case something happened to him). So all of this could just be BS. Excuses that I have made for him, but his behavior is what I find odd. I stopped looking at him at work. I used to look at him and smile and he would smile at me. We never really talked but it was that "we have a secret thing" that people do. I have completely stopped looking at him. I look down at the ground or the opposite direction if I have to walk past him. I have noticed the past few days that he has been looking at me. I catch him out of the corner of my eye looking. He asked my friend yesterday how to say "upset" in English. My friend told me he knew he was asking because of me.
So has this become more that just sex for him too? I think that if it was just sex and sex only he wouldn't give a crap if I was upset or looking at him or anything. What should I do now? Do I continue the cold shoulder and wait for him to make the next move? That is my plan but I want to make sure he knows he still has a chance.
I think the problem with doing what you're doing is that if he says he misses you, you won't be able to tell if he misses you or his penis misses you. Some guys will do anything for some pussy and pretending to have deep feelings is nothing to them. If you cut off the sex they will definitely miss that and then anything they do afterwards might just be because of sex.
The problem is that I don't totally have a better solution. If you don't cut him off you still have the same issue. You have to get yourself in a place where you feel like you know the guy and know what his motivations are. If you can't get there, then I think it probably isn't right.
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