Contherble

Ok its me from the other question. Could this possibly be a reason she has been acting more distant around you and not wanting to spend more time with you and all? Do you know why she doesn't feel comfortable seeing your family? I think you found your answer as to why she is acting different around you/seems to be losing interest. If she does not feel comfortable around your parents (For whatever reason) then she is definitely not going to feel comfortable holding your hand in front of them. So first you have to find out or tell me why she doesn't feel comfortable around your fam. then you have to work on that, then maybe she will feel more comfortable, gradually, holding your hand in front of them. Some people just don't feel it is appropriate to hold hands in front of parents, which I can see where they are coming from. They might just be old fashioned, which is fine, and It's something you have to accept, even though its hard, but you have to respect and acknowledge that. So ask her why. I wouldn't push her to hold your hand in front of them. I mean it's not the end of the world. Maybe she is just old fashioned and shy. So if you could tell me why she isn't fond of seeing your fam. that would help.

As for her family not accepting you that is more difficult. What or why don't they accept you? This will take time and trust to build. Don't fight with her about it. You are just going to have to work at it yourself. You know it's going to cause a fight, so it's not worth it. And it also makes her sad, so of course she will be distant and lthis could be why she is loosing interest in you since you make her sad. I think yall both need to figure out your priorities. if that means taking a break then so be it. Yall are young so that helps. Maybe her parents parties are just for adults. Who knows. I would just continue to be nice and respectful to them and maybe over time they will accept you. I just wish I knew more background info.

She may be uncomfortable holding hands around her parents because she doesn't want to catch any slack for being too intimate with a boy they don't approve of. It might be too much of a rebellion for her right now, I think you should respect that. If her parents have a problem with you, why would she want to flaunt her decision to go against them by holding your hand in front of them?

I think she is torn between doing what her family wants and having you. You're making it more difficult for her by pushing her to "show" her affection to you. I think you should respect her desires and understand where she is coming from. I mean, if your family accepts her - you have no idea what she is going through when you are not around. You're supposed to keep her from pain, not be the cause of it. She's sad because you're making this into a tug of war.

And I promise I'm not being mean - but that is the strangest spelling of "comfortable" I've ever seen.