Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
I have a guy friend and I'm pretty sure that he likes me. But he's not doing anything about it.. It's almost as if he's afraid to do anything (though I don't see why...) Personally, I don't know how I feel for him. I'm pretty darned certain that I don't like him as more than a friend; I don't think we'd be very good as anything more than friends...but I've seen who he really is. I've seen him be himself when he's not trying to fit in, to fit the Southern Cal stereotypes, or when he's trying to push people away. I'm the only person he's actually really let in, and that's the him that I think I might end up liking as more than a friend. That's the part of him that I would be great with. And it's that part of him that I would take a chance on. But I'm not going to try to get him to ask me out if he really doesn't want to. I'm just confused as to why he wouldn't ask me out if he does like me? That makes no sense...
Why wouldn't he?
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
2Opinion
Perhaps he is not also trying to not like you because he is not one to jump into a relationship that won't work (just friends) or last (he's moving as you mention below). Most.. er well many guys are not interested temporary relationships, they hurt when they end and we have hearts. I myself make this choice all the time, preserve the friendship because I know it works. And as he opens up to you and is vulnerable and true around you then you are a very valuable friend to him. I hear how (don't know if its true) women can talk and lean on each other in ways that men rarely manage, especially with other men where most weakness are uncomfortable topics.
To sum it up, he probably really likes and trusts you and wants to NOT screw that up even more than you as he is more emotionally invested. You could essentially crush him it you so choose. He'll feel loss when he moves but at least he'll still have you as a friend.
I guess I never really thought of that. I guess I never really thought a year into the future to see what life would be like for either of us when he's about to leave. And because he's so open around me, I never really realized how difficult it could be for him to be so vulnerable, as you put it. Oh gees! Don't tell me that I have the power to crush him! I wouldn't ever want to do that! And I've never been in that position before. I can understand wanting to preserve the friendship.
I didn't want to make you nervous or worried or make being around him weird. Just stay the course and everything should continue as it has (which seems positive) for some time now (at least till he is about to move), nobody gets hurt. If things go strange in a year be gentle and kind but don't choose him if YOU don't want him just to make things easier, ponder where that would lead. He's a friend, one you could probably trust more than you know, there is nothing that isn't good about that.
Don't worry, you didn't. I just never thought that I'd be in the position to potentially crush someone. I'm definitely going to keep things as they are...I don't want to lose him as a friend and I know that I can trust him with anything. He once defended me when his friend came to visit from southern Cal. They had been friends most of their lives, but when she went off on me for no reason, he chewed her out. No one's ever done that for me before.
Well you kinda just made it clear that you don't see him as anything more than a friend and that you don't imagine a relationship would go anywhere. There is a chance he totally picked up on that and figures it's not worth the hassle to take that risk, ask you out, get shot down and end up with a ruined friendship that will get all weird and awkward.
quit bothering yourself with this.
I'm checking back on some of my old answers. Doing a follow up.
Was this answer at all helpful to you?
It was pretty helpful. Thank you for the answer! Sorry I didn't respond earlier.
That's fine. I'm not bothered by it. I just thought I'd try seeing if any of my answers were helpful is all. I'm glad I could help.
i don't think so. why worry about it, if you aren't even sure you like him. I think your into yourself, and your letting it get to yourself
Trust me when I say I am definitely NOT into myself. I have possibly the LOWEST self-esteem ever. Besides, I didn't even list the reasons why I think he likes me. So you aren't exactly in the position to say if he likes me or not. That's not even the question I was asking. As for me not liking him or not, that's been a constant debate with myself for over a year. I'm just trying NOT to like him mostly because he's moving back to southern Cal in a year.
Then forget him, maybe. don't be stressing on a silly guy that might not even like you