I'm talking about the dads who claim they are too busy working etc to see their kids regularly.
Don't call to see how their kid is doing, makes broken promises and sees them once every other month, even though they know their kid wants to see them, is it because they don't feel a bond with the child?
And yes I know there are deadbeat mums to but I'm talking about dads right now. How can you go months weeks even years without seeing how your kid is?
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Family tree tells them that's how dads are supposed to be... so it seems completely normal for a lot of them.
Yeah, deadbeat dads suck. They suck just as much as all those moms who choose to have kids without a committed father. And the ones who choose to terminate a pregnancy without the father's input. And let's not forget the ones who intentionally get pregnant without the father's input. Oh, and the ones who have a child without telling the guy he is a father.
They ALL suck equally.
I disagree if a guy changed after the girl has the baby when he was supportive before her having the child, how is she meant to know that he will not be committed down the road.. So the mother sucks because the father decided not to take care of his responsibilities when she had no idea he would change like that?
I get some of the stuff your saying but on the other hand your basically judging all situations the same when people could have different circumstances
You are doing the same thing you accuse me of here because many of the "deadbeat dads" you're referring to were forced into fatherhood against their will by dishonest women.
Women can and do use abortion to choose whether or not they want to become a mother. Men have no such option and are at the mercy of women who very often abuse that advantage. The legal system needs to change to make those scenarios more fair to men. Until that happens, this issue is far from being as black and white as you try to make it sound.
Thanks for the down vote. I would return the favor if I could.
And no, I am not judging all situations the same. Only the ones I listed and when the mother was unfair to the father, as is often the case, and our current laws just enable that behavior. You are sorely mistaken if you don't believe that is a huge factor in the deadbeat dad issue.
I will agree with you on one thing... children deserve a father who is present and engaged, which is why I think women who choose to have a child without a father are every bit as selfish as deadbeat dads.
Women who get pregnant and don't tell the man he is a father are just as bad and for the same reasons.
I could go on...
Like I said I agree with some of the things you said..
Choosing to terminate a baby without the dads input that's wrong and unfair
Trying to trap a man will never work so if he leaves becausd he never wanted a child with the girl then she can't be shocked
However I could argue that when have sex with anyone we all have to be responsible for the fact that there is a possibility that the person could become pregnant
I understand that some guys may just not be ready and want a girl to have an abortion
However killing your own child is not an easy decision to make especially if she is the one who will have to carry the child for 9 months or live with the guilt of getting rid of her child simply because the guy wasn't ready..
But yes I agree that if a girl chooses to try and deliberately get pregnant for a guy knowing he had no intentions of commuting to her or the child then she is stupid for this as you are only setting yourself up for a fall, and in the end obviously the child suffers because of it
Sounds like we mostly agree. :)
Cheers