1. Stalking him/her on social media
This is a big no-no! Stalking your ex on social media won't help you at all. I know, we’re all guilty of stalking our exes at one point or another. But If you can’t help yourself, try unfollowing them on all social media platforms, and block them from seeing your posts as well. It might seem harsh, but it will be easier to forget them.
2. Isolating yourself
It is understandable that right after a breakup, you just want to curl up in bed and never come out. If you need to, take a few days to relax with a new hobby or book, but don’t isolate yourself for too long. Reach out to a friend, a family member or someone else you trust. It’s important to surround yourself with the people who love you unconditionally and to understand that although you’ve lost someone, you aren’t alone.
3. Turning down new people
There is no harm in going on a few dates or trying to meet new people. If you’re saying no to every single person that asks you out or flirts with you, you could be missing out on someone great for you. Go out! Flirt with others! Have fun! CAUTION: Do NOT talk about your ex on any of your dates!
4. Blaming yourself
Remember: It takes two people to be in a relationship and two people to end it. It's not your fault. The worst thing you can do is to continuously ask yourself what you did wrong. Blaming yourself for things not working out won’t bring your ex back, and it will only make you feel worse. But if you did in fact make a mistake, try to forgive yourself. Reflect further on what happened and give yourself time to heal.
Yes, breakups are hard. We have a tendency to make them even harder on ourselves. Rather than dwelling on the past, try your best to move forward a little bit every day. Be kind to yourself, you will get through this!