If there are any men out there who aren't spineless, I think this is a good time to be honest and help people steer themselves in a better direction. I do realize that the definition that I'm offering below isn't accurate 100% of the time, but we all know it's more than 75%. Anyway, I'm asking men... not 30 year old adolescents who can't remove their libido and trying to score points with a woman to get her in bed. You know who you are and so do I. Although, I'm older now, I was one of you, and... on most issues, we're all the same. So cut the BS and be honest.
Now, there are really women who are assertive and demonstrate these traits effectively and wisely. I dated a women who had an MBA from Yale and was a VERY high ranking executive with a MAJOR bank. Did she have a strong personality? Of course, but that's not how I would describe her. I'd say that she was focused, driven, alert, etc. Actually, she was great. Our problem was that she didn't know how to turn it off. More specifically, I've met many women who have told me that they've been described as having a strong personality.
In my experience (and I've also discussed this with many other men (and women). When a women describes herself as having a strong personality, it often means that she's acts like an A-hole or a bi_ch that is never satisfied, is completely inconsiderate of others and always thinks that she's right. They generally describe themselves as having a strong personality, because their friends can't think of any other way to describe them, or because they don't have the spine to tell them the trth. I bet a lot of women with "strong personalities" will have something to say about this, huh? Incidentally, the friend that I mentioned above was intimidating (sometimes). HECK! You don't operate at that level without being noticed. Actually, she used to same the same thing about me too.
Anyway, honestly? Telling someone that she has a strong personality is usually a cop-out and is an easy way of avoiding telling someone that they act like a jerk. Otherwise, we'd use words like passionate, focused, driven, determined, etc. We use phrases like "strong personality" when these very specific, descriptive and positive words don't come to mind.
For instance, almost everyone that I meet, comments on my being passionate within the first 10 minutes of meeting me. What does this mean? It means that I've found something that I truly believe in and believe that seeing it through is greater than me. It's my purpose for living