When it comes to dating, women quite often sit back and wait for men to approach them. After all, that's what they've been doing for generations right back to Cavemen times. If liked someone they made their interest known in a very subtle way. A bat of the eyelashes, a note through a friend, a flirty glance over the shoulder. The man would take his queue to come up and introduce himself and hopefully a match would be made.
The problem is.....this plan no longer works!
In the modern age we now move much quicker as there's less free time to waste. Men are scared to talk to women as they don't want to risk being rudely rejected. Women put up protective barriers to avoid being hurt and the men are clueless about how to break through it.
If you are online dating and chose to wait for men to contact you then you'll only get interest from the leftovers on the site that nobody else wants. The decent men are already talking (and dating) the proactive women who are writing to them first.
So if you want more dates you have to start taking control and letting your true feelings be known - the same way men do.
I'm not suggesting you need to act in a masculine way as that's a huge turn off. You just need to start taking more direct action. Men are pretty clueless and can't read signals, so make it really clear if you like them.
Flirt your socks off and go up say hi to anyone you would like to know better. Most men would LOVE you to approach them - both online and in real life.