So, I'm pretty straightforward and blunt. I hate playing games. If I genuinely like someone I don't like to mess with their heads, I'm pretty obvious about how I feel. I feel like this may be an issue. I see it time and time again. A guy will talk to me and act like he genuinely likes me and slowly just drift apart. For instance, I went to a music festival with this guy from my class I really liked. After a couple days, he went to Europe for a month, but we still kept in contact. He would message me saying he missed me and that we would definitely hang out when he got back. We messaged a bit when he did come back and I came back from a trip to Chicago, but he hasn't messaged since Wednesday and hasn't made any plans. I find it dumb. Why talk to me for a month while you're gone, and when you're home, you don't make the effort to make plans? I feel like maybe I make myself seem too available or something, I'm not sure. I just find it weird that he would keep in contact with me if he's too indecisive to actually make a move. I'm sure there's a problem on my part too. I need to stop waiting around.
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"Since Wednesday" is only a few days, I think it's a bit soon to say anything at all - I think you are over-analyzing, relax. He's been in Europe for a month, probably still unpacking his bags and getting settled. Calling him "too indecisive to actually make a move" because he hasn't made plans within just a few days of arriving back from a month in Europe seems a bit extreme.
Generally though, guys can lose interest yes if you show too much interest.
If a guy is really into you though, you'll know, so don't wait around for guys who show little interest.0