My BF is 40 and has a very low sex drive. He told me that he's no longer driven by sex in his life and that he doesn't really "care about it". He's a great guy BUT... there is no passion. No sexy talk. No real warmth and intimacy during sex. I feel like sex is obligatory to him. He gets more enjoyment from snuggling and watching a movie! Honestly, I feel like we're just friends! And the weird part is that he claims the sex is great! He is in a bit of a depression so I'm sure that's part of the reason. What can I do here?
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"He is in a bit of a depression so I'm sure that's part of the reason." That could be 99% of the reason. Depression is the ultimate sex drive killer. Is he on medicine for it? Bad thing is medicine for depression can decrease sex drive even more. Trust me I know!
If he's willing, try to get him to go to a doctor about it. He may not want you to come along, or he may. It might be a little embarrassing for him or a blow to his ego but it's necessary. If he's serious about fixing the problem, he'll do it. When I was having sex drive problems I had NO shame in going to the doctor to talk about it. At that point I was like him, that I didn't really "care about it", but at the same time I didn't' want to lose my girl. Once we fixed the problem, boy was I glad! I cared about sex again AND kept my girl!0