Since yesterday out of curiosity, I googled for the first time would guys date a black lady. I usually ended up in some forum from Bodybuilding. com and (they are all-around sexist anyway) they pretty much made jokes and making it seem like we're the epitome of hell - whilst if you searched something similar but replaced "black girls" with "asian girls", for example, guys treat them like a baby and give them the credit they deserve via looks (the posters were white men so it wasn't a huge surprise) and even WHY they like them.
Of course we have the excuses as to why a guy would't be into us:
- Less feminine
- Hair texture
- The "I-can't-make-decisions-of-my-own-so-I-care-what-my-friends-and-family-think" excuse
- "It's the features that I'm not attracted to" (as if we all look alike)
But lets be honest, anyone (let alone a woman) can have these attributes. And before you say "yeah but it's more common with black women", then how do you know that? Oh yeah because of some statistics you heard about online.
This isn't a guilt/troll/racist/please-like-us-black-girls-because-we-are-misunderstood post, let alone one that is jealous of whatever I'm supposed to be jealous of. I just want to know why guys always defend other women but when ONE person puts a non-black girl in a bad light, guys come to the rescue?
"Black women are ugly" - *Guys flock in and put their two cents in as to why they agree*
"White/asian/hispanic women are ugly" - *Guys defend them and talk about all of the wonderful princess attributes they have*
Like, what even comes to mind when you hear "black girl/woman"? Most men act like every non-black girl they've seen is a 10/10. I know there's guys out there that like us, but it seems like 1/1000000 actually do
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This is simply a case of you only paying attention to the negative. But I do somewhat agree, but for this reason. It's in our nature as people to prefer to stay within the culture we were brought up in, and if someone hasn't had exposure to different people and cultures, they will most likely stay within their comfort zone.
Obviously this doesn't apply to everyone, but generally speaking. For example- I spent my childhood in a predominantly Latino neighborhood, and then in my early teen years (13-15) I moved to a predominantly white neighborhood. Then in my final years of high school, I was in a school which majority of the kids were either black, mixed, or Latino. I think this is the main reason why I am open to dating any and every race, and attracted to every race.2