Asking out vs. confessing your feelings?

[genericname85]

what do you like more? being asked out or the person to confess that they have feelings for you?

please elaborate on why and under what circumstances.

[kheserthorpe]

If you're already close friends you're likely going to become a couple or not. You already know each other beyond the 'dating' stage. If they don't feel anything for you it's not happening. So in that scenario you can confess feelings and see if they feel something too.

If you're more casual friends or don't know each other well, just ask them out. They may not know how they feel yet and that's fine. Frankly you shouldn't really know how you feel yet either.

[genericname85]

yeah this makes a lot of sense to me. thanks!

[DarkHumorRUs]

Apparently confessing your feelings is "for middle schoolers", based on many internet experts (other randon GAG people).
I highly doubt I'll ever have either of those happen to me, but I think if a girl directly told me they liked me, that would be like the greatest thing ever. Of course, as long as I like them too.

[genericname85]

Happened to me once. Didn't like her though :/ but I'd like confessing better.

[Lena19]

Maybe just ask them out and see if both of your feelings grow. Before you are in a relationship, you just like the person. Love takes time to build on trust and knowing one another. Hope this helped.
Also it will show if the other person is interested in you as well to go on a date.

[genericname85]

ok so i kind of assume, you´ve known each other for quite some time and maybe allready are friends. would that change anything?

[Lena19]

It depends on the person though. If you have a feeling that she might want to be more than friends, go for it. If you are unsure maybe see if she has any feelings for you besides a friend.
Though if she doesn't, just don't give up and try again later.

[genericname85]

so how would you go about finding out about her feelings if you are unsure? i mean asking her is just stupid and askind friends is very unreliable (tried the latter...)

[Lena19]

Understood. Maybe just look at her behavior around you and how she looks at you.

[genericname85]

hmm maybe i´m just bad at this but that doesn´t work for me :/ especially if i am crushing, i really tend to missinterpret stuff.

[xxItsChristina]

If the person is fairly certain I'm into them too, then go for the kill and ask me out! Aside from that, confessing their feelings is just as sweet❤✌

[genericname85]

cool :) thanks!

[JSmuve]

Being the guy who's confessed feelings before, don't do it! You gain nothing by doing it. Like you tell her, then what. What is she supposed to do or say? It only works if you know 100% that she likes you. Asking her out conveys the same message but is less pressure on her. She can either accept because she likes you or wants to get to know you or not accept. There's more flow to the interaction. Saying you like her is like dropping a brick. Once it hits the ground it doesn't go anyway. Asking her out is less pressure and more fluid. Because of this you'd have more success.

[genericname85]

yeah i did it once too... but i thought it was appropriate, since we were friends and did stuff like others would do on dates anyways (except sexual stuff).

[Ihav2fart]

Hey @linkywinky want to go out?
Asking out

Hey @linkywinky
https://i51.tinypic.com/23jsaie.jpg
Confessing feelings

[linkywinky]

Hey hey hey 😏😏😏

[genericname85]

i know what it is :P it´s about what you prefere and why ^^

[Klaatu51]

asking out has to dowith sex mostly unlike "confessing your feelings"... no?

[genericname85]

i mean just confessing feelings would be kind of awkward, if you don´t even know the person right? i think both has to do with sex ^^ i mean if you have feelings for a person it doesn´t mean that you want sex with them less than a person you want to date.