I feel awful. We met recently, and we were really hitting it off. I have so much fun with him, and I do have a little bit of a crush on him. So he asked me out a few days ago, and I said yes, because... well, yeah, I like him. But I'm also dealing with depression and anxiety, and I honestly don't think I'm in a good place to be dating right now, mentally. I thought I could, but the way I reacted after I said yes to the date has been absolutely awful. Like the level of self-doubt and stress and general angst has been through the roof.
And I think I should go on the date I agreed to, since I did say yes already, but if he wants to go out again after that (on the off chance he doesn't hate me by the end -.-)... what do I do? What do I say? We're coworkers, and while we don't -have- to see each other, I'm sure we'll run into each other every so often. And I don't want to cut him out of my life anyway. He's such a fun, great guy. :(
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Go on the date in my opinion, but at some point on the date tell him exactly what you've said here—that you like him, but your depression and anxiety are a real problem for you and that you really don't think you should be dating right now because it wouldn't be good for your mental health / stress levels.
If the date goes well and he still wants to make something work, tell him you want to take it slow.
Personally, I found that dating the right person actually helped my depression immensely. But I know people who've experienced the opposite—or dated the wrong person and had things get worse.
So yeah, just be careful, open and honest, and take things at a controlled pace. :)0