I'm an Asian American, born and raised in the US who's had little success with girls! I'm somewhat shorter than most people my age (cuz I live in the US), though average for an Asian male at 5'8"(172 cm). I go the gym as much as I can and keep my body healthy and get tan in the summer though not as much in winter. I'm starting to gain more lean muscle (my goal is to get to at least 160 lbs (73 kg)). I was a hockey player in high school and I can hold my own against a bigger guy. I like anime, hockey, pop culture (to an extent) and am a huge animal lover. I tend to be a little shy and only open up to certain people who I've known for a while which makes me feel comfortable. I do have social anxiety as I've faced rejection, judgements, and bullying before. I do have judgements in my mind but I never say them out loud. I tend to be a little honest when it is right. I consider myself a nice guy who won't cheat or do anything to mess up a relationship or even a moment. I'm definitly not perverted and hate those who are and don't go after a girl just cuz of certain "parts". To me as long as her body's fine I mainly just focus on the face which is my main view point of a girl. I do have preferences but they r not strict and I can always make exceptions. I've found girls who are thin (NOT UNDERWEIGHT), blonde hair, blue eyes, average height (5'3-5'5(160-165 cm)) to be the most attractive but again, I can always make exceptions. I won't reject anyone just cuz of a few minor flaws! I seek a good personality most of all. I prefer someone who's loving, caring, smart, nice, forgiving, compassionate, open-hearted, open-minded and not demanding in anyway and doesn't really care what others think. I also prefer someone who's not afraid to get dirty (as I'm around animals alot) but has good hygene. I feel some qualities hold me back. Some I can (shyness, money) and some I can't control (Eyes, Race, Height). All I want is someone who cares! n yes i got that from Michelle Branch
Most Helpful Girl
Im 5'7" with a 5'6" fiance.
Not a big deal to most girls i dont think.1
Most Helpful Guy
Average height for males in the US is actually about 5'8"-5'10" in general. So you are right there among those of average height. And I've seen lots of guys shorter than that, who have girlfriends. So the height is no issue at all.
You are only 20, and still have a lot of time in life to find someone. Seriously, at 20, you still have the whole world in front of you.
Just keep talking to and going after the girls you like, and try not to feel any pressure that you have to come across as impressive every time you open your mouth to say something to her. That's one of the top anxieties guys have that causes them to be shy and socially anxious in front of girls. Nobody will be funny and/or badass all the time, or even most of the time. We're just human. Some moments, you will get to shine and be the coolest guy in the room. But most moments in life will be unremarkable and mundane. Some moments will be lame. But that's just life.
Just relax and talk, and eventually a girl you like will open up to you too.1