I've discovered I'm probably submissive a while ago, but could never really try it out because I didn't have willing partners. I'm only talking about in the bedroom, in daily life I want to be about equal. However, I've noticed it's way easier for me to attract submissive-acting (not neccessarily kinky) guys.
How can you see or guess whether someone is probably dominant? And how can I get a dominant guy to like me and to notice what I want?
Another problem is, Im a perfectly fine flirt as lomg as Im not really interested in the guy. As soon as Im in love I turn red and shy and stuttering and defensive. Hereby I both accidentally attract guys only to turn them down and ruin my own chances. How to overcome this? I don't want to be bitchy but sometimes feel like I am.
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How Dominant? There are a lot of guys who will take charge in bed, guys who will do things like hold you down and pull your hair are pretty common (you just have to date until you find a keeper), but being really kinky is another story. If you want an actual Dom you might have to look on places like fetlife. com or check out your local BDSM club.0