As i said my girlfriend of 8 months has slept with 30 guys. She's only 20 and most of them were whilst she went travelling the previous two summers. A few were my friends at uni before we got together. She also walked all over her ex, she cheated on him multiple times when she first went travelling. We briefly saw eachother for a while last year but she tried to let me down by ignoring me for a few weeks then slept with my mate. Basically we're going travelling together for two months but she's gone a month ahead of me and I'm not sure if she'll cope without being able to fuck the guys she meets travelling. my reason for suspicion is because when i asked about the amount of people she'd slept with she told me i simply don't understand what it's like travelling and how quickly you for strong relationships. I myself have slept with only one other person but she says everyone she slept with minus on 36 yr old guy were like mini relationships that only came to an end because of travelling. When i told her i was worried she told me she can't promise anything. Any thoughts? Thanks for any replies.
Most Helpful Girl
Sounds like that's all in the past.. if you knew about it before you got into a relationship then I fail to see why this is an issue 8 months later. Cheating on her ex is definitely bad and totally understand why you'd be worried. I get what she's saying, sometimes you really do form strong relationship with people you meet, but it's wrong to have any type of relationship with anyone else if you're in a committed relationship.
However, it is a huge red flag that she said she can't promise anything. Her response should have been "don't worry babe, I'm with you, I'm committed to you, and I promise nothing will happen in the month I'm gone before you come out." It shouldn't be hard to promise to stay faithful in a relationship.1
Most Helpful Guy
Dude, whom she sleeps with and want to sleeps with you have no fucking control over. Have you not realized that already? It's her body she makes the decision on what the fuck she wants to do with it. You don't own her, her mind or her body. So therefore all you can really do is just let her do whatever she wants to fucking do and learn to accept it, otherwise just do not hang around her anymore and split up and go find someone else that you wouldn't be unhappy about for having slept around and had a substantial quantity of partners in the bedroom.
But if you are with an open relationship with her, then big fucking deal, you can sleep with other people too if you want to in that kind of a relationship, but in the end you two are still together, well for most part any way.0