He doesn't want to date anyone. BOYS! feel free to "decode" this guy!

wants to hang out & spend time together. no dates or anything but hanging out at each others house and some parties.

says he doesn't want to date anyone right now.

doesn't hook up with anyone else.

why do guys want everything of what a girlfriend is & not call it that?


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  • It doesn't call for everything that a girlfriend is, it calls for everything that just a friend is. Friends can go hang out together and stuff but there isn't any sort of physicality between them (no sex) and there isn't any romance (no getting you flowers just because)

    Friends with benefits is a bit different, there is physicality but there's absolutely no commitment in it. You can kiss and sleep together but you shouldn't rely on them for much, just have fun (assuming you like that kind of thing).

    So I don't know if he's trying to just be your friend or if you're also doing stuff like making out, but he says he doesn't want any dates because he doesn't want any sort of commitment to a single person

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    • yeah, we hook up & he never leaves after or anything! he stays and cuddles with me or we take a nap or something. but he acts like a boyfriend but without like going to dinner or out like that. so its kind of confusing :(

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    • who doesn't like hanging out in bed/on the couch with someone? That's, like, the best and least complicated thing ever :D

    • haha I know! that's why I don't wanna ruin it, but I also just want him to be mine :) but sometimes I think he is anyways. even if we don't talk about it. but thanks for the advice

What Guys Said 5

  • Guys want freedom for as long as they can keep it. If you want more than he is willing to give just tell him that and move on. Trying to make him do anything will only end in unhappiness. I would also recommend not letting him try to convince you that he wants more. If he wanted more he would give it.

    This has one caveat. If you told him you don't want more or you don't need it to be serious then you can't blame him and you need to tell him that your feelings have changed. Then deal with the outcome you get at that point.

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  • I'm guessing you're having sex, which he likes, and you're fun to hang with, which he likes, but he doesn't want to commit. He wants his options open. Or he simply isn't that into you. Which means he's into you just enough to want to have sex with you, but that's as much as he wants.

    And if that's fine with you, then enjoy yourself.

    If you're expecting MORE then it's time to move on Sister.

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  • could be a lot of things but might also just not want to be tied down, he can get all pros with the cons. he also might not be hooking up with anyone else do to circum stances. you also might be his fall back or he plans date/marry in the future

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  • IT doesn't matter what you call it, don't pay attention to labels, just do whatever you want as long as you're happy

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  • Define "date". Do you mean exclusively?

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What Girls Said 4

  • Dating costs money and takes effort. Also, are you two hooking up? If he is getting sex, not paying for dates, not having to treat you like a girlfriend, and you are allowing all this, h*ll, he's got a sweet deal and it won't change, at least not for you. He is likely to eventually find another girl that he does want for a girlfriend. I would move on from this guy. Don't you deserve better?

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  • I'm going through the same thing -___-

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  • Watch how quickly I decode this one..."hanging out" aka SEX. Nuf said...thats why. Most men really don't want risky sex with multiple girls especially if they are not good at picking up girls and will sleep with the same girl as long as she allows it. They know that their actions will through you off if they even remotely treat you like a girlfriend because girls hang on to every hope that there is something. so unless you are down for just sex also then you are not his girlfriend and probably never will be unless you are willing to endure years of this. He is not going to come around and there is nothing you can do to make him. Men get into relationships when it is the right time and women get into relationships when it is the right guy. You're officially a sex partner ! oh by the way sometimes the guys don't know this is really what they are doing. Some of them truly think they are being good guys by telling you upfront and don't realize that certain things they do trigger relationship to a woman and some know exactly what they are doing. If you think I'm lying stop the sex and it will be over...quickly.

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    • then why does he still hang out if I say I don't wanna have sex with him?.. that's the confusing part. I said to him directly I don't want to have sex & he said "well I still like you so I want to spend time with you" ha ha ik. game player.

  • it just means he's not that into you. he's on the lookout for someone better

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