A vegetarian dating a hunter?

So I just started dating this guy and he is really sweet and he's everything I'm looking for, the only problem is that I'm a vegitarian and I'm kind of big when it comes to animals rights and my boyfriend hunts. We were upfront with each other from the start but I'm not sure if this is going to be a problem or not. Thoughts, advice, anything!


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Lots of long-term couples have issues they disagree on, so it's not necessarily a deal-breaker.

    Being upfront with each other was a good start. Try to avoid automatic responses or replies to your "hot button" issues. (I can get a little preachy about some subjects, so I've learned to bite my tongue and see a topic from another person's perspective before I rant and rave).

    And remember: being a hunter (or vegetarian) is only one aspect of your personality. If some of his habits bother you, try focusing on his other traits you like. Perhaps you can both learn to appreciate a different point-of-view, even if you don't agree 100%.

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What Guys Said 1

  • It depends on how much of a vegetarian and animal activist you are; and how adamant he is about his hunting. If these activities are big parts of what defines both of you , then yes it's going to be an issue.

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What Girls Said 6

  • This can be so hard! I was a die-hard vegan for years, but can no longer maintain the lifestyle for health reasons and because I had a little bit of a change of heart. But every guy I've dated was a hunter due to the place I live in. The way I've dealt with it is this: hunters usually do eat the meat, most of the time; they are keeping animal population down which in turn helps keeps the ecosystem in balance; and he doesn't bring it around me.

    Now, I eat meat, so him eating it in front of me is no big deal. But he is courteous enough to not bring home animal pieces or souvenirs or whatever guys call animal heads mounted on a wall. He respects my decision, and we know where our lines are. And your relationship can work as long as you know where the lines are. Unfortunately, I can see it becoming a huge issue if you ever moved in together/married, as cooking dinner might be a fight in the making, but I wouldn't worry about that. Just talk about it, respect each others' opinions, and find out what's acceptable for the two of you when around each other as far as the subject goes.

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  • hon I know exactly what you mean

    here in texas everyone's a hunter and it's hard for

    a vegan girl!

    you say he's everything you're looking for and really sweet-

    i would say don't ruin your relationship by trying to push your views on him!

    ask him simply not to talk to you about or keep hunting items around and you should be fine-

    not everyone can see the world as we do :]

    stay strong and realize that you're very lucky you have a good man!

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  • That's a tough one. I'm really into animal rights too, but hunting doesn't necessarily bother me. I don't like when people just go out and kill animals for the hell of it, but if they're doing it for food, they're doing what humans have been doing since the dawn of mankind.

    I think the key is just for you and your boyfriend to respect each other's beliefs. If you think it's bad that he hunts and he has a problem with you being a vegetarian, it won't work.

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  • I don't see how this could possibly work. You won't eat animals, and he actively goes out and kills them? I've known vegetarians who've dated non-vegetarians, and even that's been kind of a strain on the relationship. Unless you're only doing it for health reasons, I can't see how you wouldn't be bothered by dating a hunter. Hell, I eat meat, and I couldn't date someone who liked killing animals.

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  • I'm not going to lie this is a tough one to answer. If I ever dated a vegetarian I would kill myself, just for the fact I would want to eat meat in front of the guy. I love meat, you can't live in Colorado and not love meat.(well living in the country, nowhere near a city at all) I'm sure you guys can work it out.

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  • Hunting for food is fine with me. It's almost better than regular meat eating because the animals are allowed to be wild and free instead of trapped in a cage. Hunting for sport, just to kill, is a huge problem. I was really attracted to a guy once and we made it work for about a month and then it just didn't work. There's just something about killing for sport that really bothers me.

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