I've like this girl a while, but don't really know her and only ever see her on the off-chance that we happen to be in the same bar.
So, I added her on Facebook a while ago, and she accepted straight away. Well just today I plucked up the guts to start a conversation. She'd been online for like an hour, but as soon as I started to chat to her, she logged off without replying.
This is what I sent her;
"Hey, how's it going. Haven't seen you in a long time, what are you doing with yourself these days?"
Seriously, am I reading too much into this, or should I just accept that I've got no chance with her?
Also, now I'm in an awkward position. I'm pretty sure that she won't reply to me or start talking to me at a later date, but I also think if I try again it'll be a little bit like I'm trying too hard. So what the hell should I do now?
1. Wait a few days or perhaps a week before contacting her again.
2. After I've waited long enough, say: "Hey what's up" as soon as she comes online.
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hey let me help you out man.
Rule of thumb: When you IM a girl of interest for the first time. keep it short and sweet, you don't want her too know you are interested right away, because that's what every guy does.
Always 3 to 4 words. other wise you look desperate and its an IOI.
You want to say, "Hey what's up" That is standard and if she has any interest in getting to know you, she will respond.
Most guys make the mistake of writing out a whole paragraph. its bad game.
Also another personal rule of thumb for me:
Contact as soon as you are added, or she is online. It lets her think that you did it spontaneously without much thought of her reaction.
The best thing to do as of now, is not pay much attention to her. If you see her at the bar pass by her and don't give her a glance, but let yourself be seen having a good time. You got to build yourself as high value. Don't try to hard. start all over again once she gives you IOI4
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