I am 22 years old and I am extremely old fashioned. As a woman I feel that it is my duty to please my man at the end of the day. I feel it is my job to do the house work, look after the children and cook my husband big meals to feed him after his long day at work. I feel it is my job to agree with my husband and let him make decisions because at the end of the day, even if I believe his decisions are wrong, it makes him happy to know that I will stand beside him through his decisions. I work full time and so does my husband. If my husband had it his way, I would be as stay at home mom. But given that today is so financially hard on everyone, I have to work. Don't get me wrong, I love working. My social life is while I am working. And no, this isn't because of my husband. This is because I would rather sit at home with my husband, rubbing his back, watching a movie with him and sucking his dick than have nights out on the town with random "girl friends" that these days will destroy you for the simple sake of saying they can. The money I make is OUR money. We don't have separate bank accounts. There's no need for it. I have been asked on numerous occasions why I believe this way and upon telling people why I do, they will say things like "This is 2015 you know. You shouldn't be doing anything for your husband. You're not his mom." Or the men will say "He's a bitch. No man will do anything for a woman these days if they knew any better. After all, women will only fuck you over." Is this really the image that men get about ALL women because of the radical, ignorant feminists? If my husband and I want to go about our lives in an old fashioned manner then why can't people just shut up and allow us to live our lives? I don't bash on the men who sit there with their tails tucked between their legs whom have become more feminine than half of the female population. I don't sit there and ridicule the women who have completely destroyed their lives and the lives of many men on the simple fact that they think they are far more superior than them! Is it really so hard to accept that not everyone follows the beliefs of today's society? Honestly?
Just to clear things up, my coworkers are feminists who do a lot of man hating and nothing else. This is what I am going off of in my post. Where they are the only people I am socialized with, though its for work purposes.
My wife is an "anti-feminist" too - but she doesn't feel the need to agree with every decision I make. She'll even refuse to go along with something she feels passionate about.
You can be "antifeminist" and be total "equal rights". Anti-feminism just means you REJECT the position of feminists that says that what is good for one woman is good for all. Antifeminism means YOU RETAIN the right to decide for yourself what is good for you.
Now, for you - you choose total subservience to your man. That's fine if it works for you. Again YOU and YOU ALONE should decide how your relationship is structured when it comes to your part in it.
But... why are you concerned with what feminists think? Be your own girl... tell 'em to fuck off cuz you don't buy into their "group think".
Lady, do yourself a favor. Chill out and chose when to not give a fuck. You're whole post is you whining about feminists that don't really concern you. Just get over it. Your coworkers can bitch and moan all they want, they're coworkers and not friends for a reason.
You're question at the end could be easily directed back at you, by the way. Is it really so hard for YOU to accept that not everyone follows YOUR beliefs? Honestly?
Just get over it, sit with your husband, watch TV, and do whatever. Or at least obtain a damn social life. Nobody should just be sitting around being submissive as hell to their partner and not doing anything. You're still young, girl, go out and actually be social.
I don't think it's just feminists to blame for making women look bad, and of course, it's not all feminists, but many feminists yes. I oppose a lot of modern feminism because it's largely contradictory and I don't think it's good for women or men. It tells women they're strong and equal to men, but then we get all these initiatives to help women, and only women, from pushing them into science to making it so they don't even have to tell a man on the subway "Excuse me. Your legs are taking up too much space and I'd like to sit here". Then there's these charities for women only where men suffer the same problems. It treats women like children, and when you do this too much, they start to act like children. This isn't an insult to anyone here so don't take offence. I don't know you.
I'm all for equal rights as I'm sure you are. I don't think it's your duty to serve your man, but if that's what you feel and it fulfils you then great. It's a well working system where someone works and someone looks after the house and children. Something that can't be said for our current system after the whole "sexual revolution" where men and women can sleep around all they like with little immediate consequence. and there's this idea that fathers aren't necessary etc. Men and women are being driven further apart from what I can see. Perhaps some will feel differently and that's fine. I respect that.
You sound like a good pair. It might not work for everyone and shouldn't be forced on anyone, just as nothing should be forced on you.
If people want to live their lives in a particular way then that's their business and nobody else's. People should spend less time interfering in the affair of others and more time focusing on their own lives.
Feminism is jealousy. But at the end of the day everybody is free to say what they need to say, choose what they need to choose. As they accept each other's opinions, whoever they are also not trying only to integrate in the society but to show their ability to make some contributions in it to prove their points. It's easy to accept your own vision but it's not easy to accept others opinions that we live in a time where being easily accepted isn't easy at all... very good point of yours, i like it.
Because Feminism= the system. A tool used by the system to destroy the foundations of traditional family, while at the same time they promote gay marriage and forced 3rd world immigration with anti racism to give an end to western civilisation.
I think that there is nothing wrong in what you believe, it is just the average behavior of the people that makes the 'trend', but everyone has the right to follow it (sheeps 😉) or not.
What you are describing here is the reality of feminism today. What most women claim feminism to be, i. e., gender equality, really has nothing to do with feminism. That dictionary definition is nothing more than a unicorn.
No one really cares about how you live your life, we have our own lives to worry about. It's you that seem to have an issue. I'd never be interested in a girl like you, but if you're happy with your man, that's what matters.
I'm a feminist and believe that everyone should have the choice to live their own lives, whether it's a traditional lifestyle or a more modern one, as long as they don't force others to live like them. Or judge those who don't. And quite frankly you do generalize and try to shame those who don't live like you.
right, because you feel that way, means everyone has to live that way. Talk about ignorance
Feminism is about being able to choose your own path. You can choose whatever the hell you want, but that's the point, that's your choice. Don't force your choices on others, just be happy you can make them. "If my husband and I want to go about our lives in an old fashioned manner then why can't people just shut up and allow us to live our lives" they do. From the outside you look like a 100% average couple, people won't even know anything about your relationship until you go parade it around. And even then, no one is stopping you. But no one is forced to agree with you either
It's horrible. Femimism is about equality. Now it is its own thing? I feel like it's too dramatic. A friend of mine felt it was rude for a man to open the door for her.. Or pay for food because it showed she was incapable of doing those things herself. Like are you kidding me? I have dated jerk after jerk who'd make me go Dutch and let the door swing back in my face. The guys she's picking up she's putting them down for being a gentleman? Sooner or later they all might stop treating us like ladies. Oh cosmopolitan on snapchat is the biggest double standard EVER.
I really hope you're a troll, for the sake of my sanity.
Can't you be a feminist and still do all of those things as well? That's kind of the point of it. The fact that you have the option/right to live your life how you want to.
You say you don't "bash men who have become feminine" then you proceed with bashing them. You bash them in your own head, you just don't do it out loud. You're really no different than the people who bash you for living your life the way you do, the only difference is you're more quiet about it.
Do you really think feminists destroy all women's image? That is nonsense, everybody should be feminist because it's the equality of genders and if you don't think that a woman is equal to men well I think you're dumb. I don't know if you think that it's only your job or every women's job to do the housework and the cooking because in the first case well it concerns you but in the other case YOU are destroying all women's image.
Just imagine I'm a black girl and I say that yes I think it's my role to be a slave and being considered as an object. Do you think that's normal? I don't, but what you think is comparable to that.
I am not a feminist. but If I decide to please my man, it's not because I see it as a chore as you say it is "your job"... for me it would be something I WANT to do. Something that PLEASES me... rather than see it as a chore. That's awful. I feel sorry for you if you see that as a job rather than something you enjoy. haha. That's not being against feminism, it's more of a stupid thing to do if it's done as obligatory.
Love what you do, and do what you love. Rather than i do it cause it's my "job". Ridiculous women who think that way.
I'm sorry but you sound like a wash out of a human, you just blindly support your husband even if he is wrong? That's stupid. Plain stupid.
Good for you that you only want to stay home, cook and suck cock. It's great you know what you want from life, lots of people want more though. They want to be able to enjoy the same freedoms as everyone else. There are misandrists but are you really surprised? How long have we been subject to misogyny? It's an equal and opposite reaction.
I am a feminist and I believe that you can do whatever the hell you want as long as he is not forcing you to do anything. Personally if I decide to make my man happy, I will do it because I want to not because I have to.
goddamn woman your nothing but your mans BITCH! (or is he lowkey your pimp and forcing you to act this way? you need to report that) i usually wouldn't use this kind of language but this post just made my blood boil! im not some hardcore feminist and i understand things like cooking and cleaning the house, that is more of the woman's job. but you sound waaaay too submissive and like the biggest push over EVER. i don't know what caused you to be this way but you sound like you need therapy you care way too much about pleasing someone. get a life. your own life! i really hope your just trolling.
if you want to live like that by all means go ahead if severing men is what you enjoy and being treated like a second class citizen no one is stopping you. Just because you enjoy it doesn't mean all women do.
" it is my duty to please my man at the end of the day" The only reason this *wouldn't* be sexist is if you also believe that your man has a "duty" to please his woman also.
"I feel it is my job to agree with my husband and let him make decisions because at the end of the day, even if I believe his decisions are wrong, it makes him happy to know that I will stand beside him through his decisions." Yes so if he makes a stupid decision, you'll just let him make it?
And why are YOU the one who has to make meals, do housework, & look after children, if you also have a job? The only way that wouldn't be sexist is if you work less hours.
I'm so sick of everyone putting man-haters and feminists in the same boat. We're not the same. Man-haters hate men and claim to be "feminist", but they're NOT. Feminists just want equality between the sexes. Anyone who claims to be a feminists but hates men is a liar. That's not a feminist! Real feminists don't care if you choose to have an old fashioned relationship. If you choose to cook, clean, and raise children, or whatever else you CHOOSE to do that's YOUR decision. Feminists aren't against old fashioned ideas or the people who choose to live with them. We just want you to have the ability to CHOOSE. There was once a time when women were expected to only cook, clean, and raise children. We just want women to have the option to do me more than that. We just want women to have the same options as men. We want you to be able to choose if you want to work, or be a housewife, and everything in between. I'm sick of fake feminists twisting feminism into something ugly. Feminism is not about hating men or women who choose to live with old fashioned values. It's not about hate.
They're not destroying our image. As you know, there are a lot more types of women now, who don't try to hide who they are or how they want to live their lives. Some men are dealing with this change in a mature way (acknowledging that there are different types of women), while a few other men don't seem to get the concept that not all women are the same, and therefore they lump us all together in a heap of "not what I was taught women were supposed to be." The men who generalize us all are not the majority, I believe, so don't worry too much about it.
And some people can't handle the concept that not everyone wants to live the same way they do. That's definitely not unique to feminists, it's in all groups (but because of your lifestyle, you're going to experience it more from them, of course). Ignore those people, too. You do you.