I grabbed my friends boobs when hammered.

[Runner1690]

We were at a party and we both got really drunk. I was saying something jokingly and I grabbed her boobs and now she is mad at me and won't talk to me what can I do to make this better?

[BrunetteNYC]

She probably feels betrayed cause you are her ''friend'' and if you didn't like her as more, no excuse of being drunk really hides that you wanted to do it. So I think her being upset is not only that you grabbed her, but that you were wanting her in a sexual way and not sincerely a friend. I suspect most guy friends DO want more, but some girls who are younger and naive take this in a way that hurts them like the friendship was a whole lie.

You should have just been brave enough to show her you were into her when you were not drunk, but hopefully in time she will understand that you were not brave enough to do it without having an excuse like being drunk to hide behind and forgive you.

[washize]

don't know if you can. She'll forgive you if she wants to, she won't forgive you if she doesn't want to.

Learn to keep your hands to yourself 1st grade behavior. Being drunk isn't an excuse to put your hands on other people. Most people are honest when they're drunk.

[toulouse]

Agreed.

[Robotic]

so what are you saying with the last comment there? that he really meant to do it?

[washize]

yeah he meant to do it. I've gotten drunk and made out with my gay best friends boyfriend. I thought he was hot and always wanted too. We made out right in front of him. Had I been sober I would have had better restraint, but lets be real, most people use alcohol as an EXCUSE to behave badly. My gay friend, still doesn't associate with me as much. And I don't blame him, I Fked up, crossed some lines, and I was wrong. Adults own their wrongs. When he's ready/if he wants to he'll forgive me.

[Ineedadvice1989]

drunk people are not truthful, trust me

[washize]

I don't trust you.

[kangaru]

I agree w you

[humanbeing]

u show your true nature when you are drunk. It's not that you don't know what you are doing but its what you wanted to do all your life

[washize]

exactly

[Prof_Don]

To be honest...how does this help him? Sounds more like scolding.

[washize]

There isn't anything HE Can do personally. His friend will forgive him IF SHE wants too. If she doesn't forgive him, he needs to learn from the experience and move on. Every sensible person should be able to learn from negative experiences to keep them from repeating again. Its simply common sense. If you consider that scolding, that is your problem.

[Anonymous]

I guess now she knows that you want too hook up with her. Tell her how sorry you are and that you didn't mean for it too happen. She should be able to forgive you stuff happens when people get drunk. Actually the truth comes out when people get drunk.

[kairon156]

one reasion why I rarely drink.

[Opinion Owner]

It is a good reason.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Appologise then act like it isn't a big deal. Merely by doing so you are suggesting that it isn't such a big thing to her subconcious mind.

Also, don't do it again

[toulouse]

he can't make her think it was or wasn't a big deal. it was invasive and it bothered her. its up to her to think of it how she will.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Psychology. At the very least it will make her question it

[Prof_Don]

Unless it was a professional event, all you can do is apologize and say that you had a lot to drink that night.

Nothing else you can do...she needs to grow up IMO.

[skinandbones]

apologizeeee...tell her you were a pig and stooopid. and then tell her she can grab your boobs in retaliation.

[kangaru]

Lol

[Runner1690]

the funny thing is that I did say that to correct the problem at the moment and make it seem like not a big deal but it didn't work.

[kangaru]

if I were her I would be upset too. Being drunk doesn't mean the person doesn't really know his surroundings. I agree many uses being drunk as excuse. You mayOffer your sincere apologies and the rest is up to her.

[Anonymous]

First off, stay away from her when drinking if you can't control your hands while drunk. Secondly, sincerely apologize to her. Third, give her some space for awhile so that she can have a chance to go over it in her mind and hopefully forgive you.

[ladsin]

yeah I agree with guy below me, say your sorry, but it didn't mean anything and wasn't a big deal

[Runner1690]

i feel like saying it wasn't a big deal won't go over well because clearly it was a big deal to her.

[ladsin]

yeah but if you let her keep thinking it was a big deal then she'll hold that over you forever, if you don't wanna say it wasn't a big deal at least let her know that it did really mean anything to you and was just an accident...

[toulouse]

he can't make her think it was or wasn't a big deal. it was invasive and it bothered her. its up to her to think of it how she will.

[ladsin]

so you've never changed your mind before?

[ColdFeet]

Unless it was a professional party she's kind of over reacting. Just apologize and explain that you were drunk and took the joke too far.

[Runner1690]

it was just a bunch of people hanging out type party

[ColdFeet]

Yeah she's over reacting but your in dangerous territory if you say that to someone who's angry with you.

[Bethany94]

Just apologize, say you were drunk and didn't mean it. If she won't accept that, give her some time to cool off and try again. If she still won't, you might be out of luck.

[ShesSoSilly]

All that you can do is give her a sincere apology and/or explanation of why you did it and then give her space and wait until she is ready to forgive you.

[ninevoltrevolt]

tell her you'll let her grab your d*ck to make up for it.

[guitar903]

LOL

[GoGoDancer]

LOL I was gonna say the same thing.

[irishelen]

Have you tried apologizing (and really mean it)? :)

[Prof_Don]

He probably has but she's being too immature to accept the apology

[Anonymous]

well tell her it was justthe booze and not you, that you will never do that again,and if you do she can punch you.

[Anonymous]

i don't think there is a way to fix it,she needs to forgive you by herself

[shaneharab]

If she knew you were drunk there's no reason for her to be mad

[Anonymous]

Apologize and honestly the rest is up to her.

[1995girl]

haha.. good luckk..

[Anonymous]

Give her time