so i am a HUGE bitch (which im not proud of) i have been wanting to go emo for a LONG time and my mom knows but she won't let me i love the color black and everyone knows its my fav color. im not allowed to wear makeup out but when its a stay at home day i always go full black with my eyeliner and mascara. i really want scene hair and all black clothes but my mom won't let me and i really want it im absolutly commited to being this way but my mom isn't i even want my room black she's letting me change a few things but not everything and i just really wish shed let me go emo i can grow out of it in a few years but i want to be like this now any suggestions please help thanks :) by the way im only going into 8th grade so its not like ill be wearing any skimpy or slu*** clothes
Hmmm, things have certainly changed since I was a kid cuz I started wearing make-up in the 7th grade and selected my own wardrobe also (my mom knew better than to pick out my clothes). So sorry to hear that you're not being allowed to express yourself as the person you'd like to be. My advice is to ease mom into the emo style slowly and in a way that won't put her in shock. Emo style is eccentric so begin to slowly evolve into it. Since you can't wear all black, wear some black and add some cool gothic jewelry to your outfits (make it if mom won't buy it for you). And ya don't necessarily have to get a Mohawk to have cute emo hair... back-comb your hair and as long as it looks messy - hey its emo, lol! Yet ya must consider her feelings as you're at the age where she's probably noticing you're not her little girl anymore. That you're growing up and turning into a woman right before her very eyes and not always easy for parents to deal with and accept... they tend to fight it (which id guess your mom is doing). Not sure how old she is. Although, she seems a bit old-fashioned and may even be old enough to remember the sweet, shy, angelic and innocent-looking Norma Jean's overnight transformation into the worlds biggest sex symbol... Marilyn Monroe! And what eventually happened to her is no doubt a mothers biggest fear! So just take it slow and she'll eventually accept the new you but you got to do it gradually, which is better I think. Sorry I can't be of better help and good luck.
I'd suggest, even if you say you'll grow out of it, you not try to get into the whole "emo/scene" thing. Why label yourself or want to be put into a category? Sure, you can wear black, I encourage that if it's somethjng you like. But you should just be you, and you're not emo. No one is, unless you mean that you're emotional. It's a trend/style/whatever the hell. I've been through it and I used to wear black skinnies, had teased hair and lip piercings in 6-8th gr saying things like "I'm a scene kid, I'm different and you can't judge me." which in reality attracted more attention than I wanted it to because they DID judge me for carrying that label alongside me. People who are 'different' don't call themselves emo, goth, etc. Why do you WANT to be emo? You already know what you like and who you are so there is no other place to go other than getting your mother to let you express yourself. Don't tell her "Mom please let me be emo" or anything ridiculous like that. Why would she if she just sees it as you trying to be something you're not? Instead, tell her that you want to make your walls and body a canvas for you to express yourself. You want to wear eyeliner and change your hair because you like it and it makes you happy. You want to paint your room black because you LOVE that color and you want to see it everyday when you get home from school and wake up in the morning. Things like that. It may take her time to open up to the idea, but she'll eventually give it a try because you're her daughter and she loves you.
Quit giving your mother a hard time. I think once you get a little older she will let you get away with more things. Let it be a gradual build up. Don't be a bitch to your mom, respect her when you're under her roof. I know you want to express yourself but for now, express ourself with little things. You're still pretty young but if you show you're responsible and caring, then maybe she will eventually give in to the idea.
My mom is so judgey and she is all like i didn't raise uto be a follower and be like those other kids thay look like they always goto funerals and i jus say thats only some people and i am not a follower i jus wanna express myself and be me and then she says i know who u r u r my little girl and u will do what i want untill u r out of my house and i jus stand there wanting to tell everything thats in my head but ik if i did that she would slap be across my face or ground me or slap my mouth
Please give me some advice Ps im going into 7th grade and she is a steriotype