My parents are super religious and they don't let me wear shorts they don't even let me wear tights ugh I feel so stupid cuz when I hang out with my friends I look like a grandma.
I went to the beach yesterday and it was 100 degrees out and I almost died in jeans/long sleeves/jacket/hijab...
Most Helpful Guy
i recommend theological discussion.
can you read the Quran?
i cannot, and so can't give any properly informed advice, but here's what i quick search gave me.
but i recommend using the internet to find reference in the texts to discuss with them rather than just saying "but the internet says.."
good luck :-)1
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Most Helpful Girl
Disclaimer: I am not Muslim.
This is probably a long shot, but you could at least give it a try:
Here are 2 passages from hadith that you could use to at least start the discussion.
"The deen [religious practice] is ease. Whoever makes the deen too hard for himself [or herself] will be overpowered, so direct yourselves to what is right, follow a middle course."
If there's anything in the world that *IS* "too hard for yourself" at yr age, girl... it's doing things that make you feel weird in front of yr friends, or that alienate you from yr friends.
I'm sure that is happening here, so, this hadith passage *may* give them something to think on.
It may even give YOU something to think on -- as far as whether you can comfortably pledge yr lifetime faith to the whole belief system in general. If you can give yourself some room to maneuver on things like dress codes, in ways you can square with yr faith, it will be a lot easier for you to maintain that faith.
"Actions are by intentions, and for every person is what he [or she] intended."
What's the intention behind the shorts?
Obviously, the intention isn't to stick up a big middle finger to the whole idea of halal clothing in general. The intention is something else entirely -- to let you be comfortable in the middle of the summer, and to allow you to bond more closely with yr friends (which absolutely *is* a thing that's affected by the clothes you wear).
If nothing else, yr parents should at least be awfully impressed that you would actually cite hadith and make a serious argument, rather than just throwing a tantrum.
Also -- and perhaps MOST importantly --
If you live in the USA, you can also point out -- with total honesty -- all the terrorism that has been happening lately, and the bad press that Islam has been getting AS A WHOLE.
The biggest reason why lots of Americans are becoming afraid of Islam, and Muslims in general, is because they aren't exposed to "normal" Muslims who look and talk and act like other2
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