It seems to me that women are not turned on visually and that is a big disconnect with guys. We read about it and hear about women being turned on visually. Society advertises it and talks about it, but reality disproves it.
Take any random guy and show him a good looking girl with little to nothing on and he gets turned on. Where you do the same for a girl and its like you just showed them a torn up outfit from goodwill and asked them if they want it. I just don't understand? Now when they are with their man they can look at him and be turned on, when the other guy could have been hotter. What is the difference? What will it take to turn a woman on visually? A hot body and good looks don't work! Do guys need to just tape $$ to themselves. And to confuse matters even more, women will look at a male dancer and get all hot and bothered, hooting and hollering. But then another guy walks by with the same looks and physique, and there is that goodwill outfit again.
Ladies throw us a bone and clue us in.
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Most women really just aren't turned on visually the same way men are. Like you said, I am always turned on visually by my guy. But that's because I know him, I love him, etc. I don't get turned on by looking at a picture of some random "hot" guy and honestly I don't usually even get turned on my a male dancer. Not sure why many women do.
My SUSPICIONS (this is just an educated guess here) as to why women don't look at a picture of a random guy and get turned on is because sex is very different for us. Not just because of the whole emotional connection thing that most of us are looking for. All the guys I know tell me that guys don't have "bad" sex. All sex is good for guys. You can have "boring" sex, but that's it. So I would suspect that what might heighten your enjoyment of a particular sexual experience is that the woman be particularly "hot". Whereas for us, the "hottest" guy can be the worst lover and vice versa. We can, and do, have "bad" sex. And you can't tell by looking at a man's body if he is going to be any good or not. So what he looks like becomes less of a factor in turning us on. It does help for him to be attractive, but it's just one tiny part of the equation. And when the guy is a guy we're with, or at least know pretty well, then we know all the other things about that guy that contribute to our attraction for him. Then seeing him naked or whatever IS a turn on for us because probably we've already had sex with him and KNOW what he can do for us.3